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my friends say im weird because when everybodys talking im the only one not talking. ill stay quiet for like 30 min just listening. i guess i just have no input. lately i try to talk more but i dont see the problem of just being quiet.Btw im not really shy and ive known these people for like 4 years.
Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you'd have preferred to talk
i agree with mando and also it can be annoying just soaking it in and not contributing
I have a friend like you. I mean its fine and everything, but i get annoyed sometimes. Just try to engage more with your friends.
Oh jeez, I do that too! It kinda takes me a while to warm up. I need to get comfortable before I open up to someone when I first meet them and thats when I usually do it. I can spend literally hours to days just analyzing a person before I open up and say something to them. But even with my friends, its true, I kinda just sit and listen. I never really have much to say, unless I have to defend myself or someone else. Its weird.
We were on vacation somewhere, and this guy who happened to be where we were from, started talking to us. And it was cool, whatever. But my parents were doing most of the talking, and we were at the pool in our complex, so I just sat there with my feet in the water not saying a word. They were talking about things that I didn't think really pertained to me or just stuff I didn't have enough knowledge in to add on to. But after a whole 45 minutes, maybe an hour at most, the guy even said to me, "You're a talker aren't ya?" And we all laughed, and even then I didn't really know what to say. Although, it did break the ice a little.
I don't like explaining myself to others, but a lot of times I'm kinda forced to. So I started going into detail, about how I'm sometimes shy, blah, blah, blah. It was so stupid! And my family is so loud, and annoying, too talkative, so as a child, I kinda always wandered off and spent most of my time alone. My grandfathers "lady friend" even said to my mom the other day that she wonders who I take after, because I seem so different from everyone in my family. I don't even really look like them. My mom said that I'm like my other grandfather, my dads dad, but I wouldn't know b/c he died before I was born.
I've had this same issue. When I went on vacation with some friends for a week I gradually became more and more quiet, until I was basically silent for the rest of the trip. My friends called me out on it a few times. I felt like I just couldn't come up with anything to contribute!! I think very talkative friends can be annoyed or concerned with their introverted friends.
Have u always been so quiet? If u have, then they should have accepted that by now. If its relatively recently, then perhaps they are off put by your sudden change in behavior.
Not having anything to contribute to conversation has been a problem for me lately.
It's all about practicing small talk.