Is it normal that im so obsessive?

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My boyfriend and I have been together just about a year now, he's great, he's done a lot for me and he loves my kids. I can NOT stop thinking about him being with other girls, his past relationships etc. I completely obsess. This is the first man I've ever truely fallen in love with and I'm so cripplingly terrified of losing what I have I fear I'm going to cause us to break up. When I say obsess I mean if I see pictures of his exes or hear their names it actually feels like my heart is breaking, I feel totally insecure and stupid and I know Im being ridiculous but I can't stop, I actually think I might need to be medicated because it feels very unhealthy. I read into every single thing he says to the extreme and now I wish I'd never let myself get so attached to him cause it's killing me. I feel crazy and jealous and totally alone cause I dont have a soul to talk to about it. My heart rate is constantly through the roof. Sorry if this was too long, this is my first post. Any helpful input would be fantastic

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  • confusedP
    12 years ago

    I completely understand what you are going through!! i had a similar case with my x bf who iv recently got back together with. My advice.. YOU HAVE TO STOP FREAKING OUT! coz if you don't then chances are you will drive him away. Im sorry to say but i gotta be honest. Im not sure how you are going to deal with it, maybe talk to him about how you feel. Tell him exactly what you have just told us and if he is a decent person then he will help you work through it. communication is key. Good luck hun

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  • Saycheese
    12 years ago

    Don't worry so much. You've got to think about the questions: Why is he with you? and Why isn't he with them? He obviously cares about you and the past relationships he's had with those girls obviously didn't workout. And if you haven't said anything about it to him, say something.

    You should look at the life quote I have in my profile, it may help you. It sure keeps me going.

    And I also agree with NeuroNeptunian.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    Everyone has a past - hell, you have KIDS with another man, but you love HIM, and you want to be with HIM, why can't the same be true for him despite him having a past too?

    The PRESENT. Focus on the PRESENT. The past is done and over with and the PRESENT is what leads to the FUTURE, and unless you want a FUTURE without him, you'd better quit focusing so much on the past - like I said before. You have a past too. Accept his as he accepted yours.

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  • CarnivalofSoulz
    12 years ago

    i know exactly how you feel. im completely terrified of losing my bf so much that i dont know what to do...

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