Is it normal that im so obsessed with my boyfriend?

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im so obssses with my boyfriend ... i been in a relationship with this guy that i wanted for six years to be with me and he never wanted to , so finally after five years i end up being with him, now we been together for almost 11 months , its just that i been so obssessed with him , it feels like i cant live my life with out him , even before that he wasnt mine , i was always trying to get him, now that were together , i cant stand being away from him, i go crazy if he goes out with his friends , and it upsets me even if his friends call him and i end up picking a fight with him, and i cant sleep at all with out talking to him before i go to bed, if we fight or argue then i be crying for hours and hours and i dont go to bed till six am and have three hours a sleep and wake up trying to work things out with him, and when he deosnt answer his phone i BLOW UP HIS PHONE NONE STOPPPPPPPPPP i call him every second none stop to get a hold of him , i feel like a control freak, i only want him with me , and the other night he told me his going to his friends house and i said okay , and when he gets home he told me that they went to movies and i got mad at him and i pick a fight with him that why he didnt tell me and a night before that at 12:30 am his friend wanted him to go over his house so they can BBQ and i got mad and he didnt go ,,, he thinks that i dont trust him , i dont think its becuase of that , i just dont like the fact that he hangsout with his friends , even when he geos to gym i go crazyyyyyyyyy i dont know what to do anymore? i love him so much , i love this guy for six years he never ever wanted me , i mean i was in a relatioship with other people and stuff but cuz he ignored me it made me want him more and moreeeeeee ND NOW IM SO OBSSESSED OVER HIM, PLZ ANYONE HELP ME I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO , i love him so much and at the sametime im soo scaredddddd of loosing him , i really wana be with him, i dont wana be jealouse anymore , i mean is it normal for me to get mad when he geos out with his friends???? becuase to tell u the truth i dont go out with my friends no more , since i got with him , all i do is i stay at home when we dont hangout just work and go to school , when ever me and him dont hangout , plz anyone help me idk what to do? i swear it feels like i cant live my life with out him, im so depended on his love , im soo depended on him I REALLY REALLY AM, I THINK ABOUT HIM EVERY SECONDDDDD like what he deos, whos he with , i mean he tells me every think but i still think about it, and he thinks i dont trust him , im not sure, if i do or not , i think i do? :(

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  • DefinitelyNotNormal89
    12 years ago

    Oh...my...god. I feel so sorry for men sometimes.
    Read that back and look how crazy you sound, you have wanted this SO badly that you are petrified of anything going wrong and you're just going to ruin your relationship. Don't fix what isn't broken- you should be enjoying what you have instead of worrying what might happen.
    He hasn't cheated on you so far so don't treat him like he has, he needs time with his friends just like you do so you have a chance to be away from eachother and miss eachother.
    If you want this to work you need to chill out, I'm a woman and even I find this a bit terrifying! If you don't stop being so jealous and needy you are only going to drive him away.

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    • princess23
      12 years ago

      thank you so much, how do i be able to stop being like this?? :( i dont wana be like this anymore

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      • DefinitelyNotNormal89
        12 years ago

        I think the more you bite your tongue everytime you're jealous he's going out or you're not going to see him, the less you will argue and make him feel trapped and eventually you will get more used to not constantly being by his side and you will be okay with him going out, you'll even start appreciating the time you actually get together.
        I hope you figure it out =)

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  • seexytaaco
    12 years ago

    Oh my god. Really guys? This is 100% f'kn normal. That's how it is with me. And i wish any one of you had enough balls to come say something. I'm obsessed with my boyfriend, and BELIEVE ME, he's obsessed with me. Being obsessed is N O R M A L ! If it wasn't, there would be no such thing!

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    • princess23
      12 years ago

      thank you so much.. your right it is normal when you love some one and found that right person it feels soo great,, maybe im too much but at least im honest,, do u do the samething with your bf?? lol i drive mine crazy

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  • shenny
    12 years ago

    what you're doing is the future reason why your boyfriend will leave you the very soon you will not stop acting like that. Its not normal anymore. He's a normal person of course he needs his friends attention as well not only yours. Grow up. Hangout with your friends also. Your bf can sense that you are that insecure. Don't push him away by doing this. My brother's girlfriend is like you and he ended the relationship coz he feels choked. Everyone of us needs our own time. So give him his own time not only you wanted him for yourself. That will really drive you crazy. If boys notice you that you are that kind, they will not stick to you longer than you wanted. So be careful, you may lose him. Hope this helps. Cheer up.

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  • crissyabear
    12 years ago

    You are obsessed to the point of scary. Get a grip on yourself before you chase him away.

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    • princess23
      12 years ago

      if he loves me enough he will stay with me , im not trying to chase him away

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    • princess23
      12 years ago

      how do i be able to do that??? ND THANK you so much for replying to me

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  • LAgirl427
    10 years ago

    I'm EXTREMELY obsessed with this guy at the moment! I can't fucking stop thinking and talking about him it's CRAZY!! I love him SO FUCKING MUCH its insane! He's honestly the most ATTRACTIVE black man I ever layed my eyes on, he has the cutest smile ever cutest laugh and he's very funny! I just wanna be with him for the rest of my fucking life! I dream about him every night. My biggest dream ever is to marry him and have 3 kids! I texted/called him a lot this weekend but he didn't reply but I want him all to myself!! He's just so...UGH!!!

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  • princess23
    12 years ago

    but i wana know how can i stop being so obssesed with him?? i really need help,, and its just so hard not to be attach to him , i mean i been telling him i want to go see a doctor and he tells me u should just stop being jealouse and assumming shit, and i dont know how to stop being so jealouse about everything he deos, i really need help :( i need to save my relationship,, has any of you guys ever been threw this and got help? cuz i really need help with this,

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    I could barely understand this because of the way you spell and word things...but no it's not normal or healthy. Just because you're a couple doesn't mean you HAVE to be together 24/7. You should be able to hang with your friends, and so should he. You say you want to be with him, but he might leave you for being too possessive, so yeah, you should calm down a bit.

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    • princess23
      12 years ago

      thank you so much for replying and your right i do need to back of a little bit or maybe alot , i really hope i will be able to change , is there anyway i can control that?

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      • alv1592
        12 years ago

        The only way I can think of to stop being obsessed is to calm down. If he really loves you, he won't cheat on you, so there's no need to worry.

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        • princess23
          12 years ago

          thank you so much you were so right

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    You really need to grow up!

    If this lad doesn't get totally sick of your obsessive behaviour he is going to realise that he can treat you any way he likes, and you're such a doormat you will forgive him. You need to be in contact with your friends, or have a hobby that takes you away from him.

    This is really not healthy, and he will only value you when you value yourself.

    I hate to say this - but I can't see this lasting if you continue to cty and obsess. I certainly wouldn't allow my son to go out with you!!!

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    • princess23
      12 years ago

      i mean he loves me alot and we will last and i did back up a little and not get mad as much as before anymore thank you alot

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    • princess23
      12 years ago

      thank you for replying and i think ur right i do need to grow up i just dont know how to do it, what should i do to be better at this?? is there anyway i can get better i really really need to get better becuase he always tells me if i dont change my jealously we wont be able to move foward and i really want him to marry me i really love him :(

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        Do you seriously have nothing at all that you can get involved in that you lose all sense of time?

        Reading, surfing the internet for shoes, charity work, commenting here.... Anything at all, that allows time to pass when you don't think or text him.

        What about hypnosis? Yoga? Writing very long detailed letters to him that you DON'T send, but tear up after spending hours writing them!! For goodness sake - anything!!

        There's nothing worse than being suffocated by someone!! My friends all laugh coz my husband (22 years) wouldn't text or call me unless I disappeared for at least 3 days!! Nor would I text or call him - UNLESS I have something to say!!! eg. bring home sugar. Otherwise we'd have nothing to say for 4-6 hours when we are together each evening! GET IT?!

        You're going to burn out this relationship and bore the guy into dumping you :o(

        Resist calling / texting / fighting. Get another project instead of him eg. school work, homework, etc.

        I really feel sorry for you that you are depending on this guy to occupy your time and amuse you. It is a massive burden to be responsible for someone else's happiness :o(

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        • princess23
          12 years ago

          im starting to change alot thanks for the advice

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I actually wouldn't mind having a girlfriend like that. Of course, except the crying for nothing and the whole getting mad thing.

    But besides that clingy, I like it.

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    • princess23
      12 years ago

      thank you for replying and have u ever had a gf like that?? how did u handle it and , would ube able to last with a girl thats so clingy or no??

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        No, I only had one girlfriend in my life and she wasn't clingy. Maybe a little at the infatuation state at the start where she would have jumped on any other females that would talk to me. Which I didn't mind because I only was interested in her and I couldn't care less for anyone else.

        I think I can last with a clingy person but like I said, not to the point where you argue because I talked to someone or went out with friends once in a while. Her wanting to be with me all the time and to talk all the time, I actually would love that.

        If you love him as much as you do, leave him space to breathe because this clingyness is really going to make him go away from you. Maybe right now it's not so bad but in a couple years, he's going to blow up and the relationship might not end nicely.

        I think you're a little too extreme for me, someone who actually likes clingy. So I think it's over doing it for anyone else. I think you need to calm down a little, find something that will get your mind off of him.

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        • princess23
          12 years ago

          thank you ,,,, thats what i been doing now :)

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  • thetimeofyourlife
    12 years ago

    wow, you must be crazy hot for him still to be around. Just give him some space you cant control someones life like that no matter how involved you are with them.

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    • princess23
      12 years ago

      thank you i am going to do that

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    • princess23
      12 years ago

      thank you for replying and your very right , i really cant control him, i mean he deosnt do anything wrong to me at all his really good to me , i think its cuz of the past experiance with him i been like that with him and i get scared idk? and his very hot lol i cant resist him im in love with him like crazy , what do u think i should do to stop being like this?

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    You are very clingy. I think it's great that you love him so much, but you need to give him enough space or you'll just fight more. He needs to spend time with friends, and it seems to me that you are getting more than enough time with him any way. I can understand him thinking that you don't trust him, I'd feel the same way if I had a girlfriend who stalked me constantly and asked me every tiny detail about my day. As ^^^ said, you'll drive him away if you don't give him room to breath.

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    • princess23
      12 years ago

      i been giving him some space a little lol , now his starting to act more crazy with me its weird lol

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    • princess23
      12 years ago

      thank you for relpying, and i know im really clingy and i spent alot of time with him, what do u think i should do not to be so much clingy about him , and i do love him so much,

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  • -WhySoSerious-
    12 years ago

    Pooor guy!!

    What did he ever do to you so you could treat him so badly?

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    • RaNdOmPoPcOrN
      12 years ago

      treat him badly?

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