Is it normal that im so dissapointed with my life?

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I got married at 19 and now I'm 23 (still married). Ive never been to college or left my home state or slept with any one except my hubby & one guy b4 that who Stole my virginity. Always at church or cooking or cleaning. All my friends are either successful or working towards success by work or education. I feel like I have no reason to wake up if I cant have a happy life. My hubby thinks Im down cuz I cant get prego but he's wrong. I dont want Kids yet anyeway (im 23)! I just dont want the world to keep leaving me behind, I want the life I fantisized about as a kid (money, friends, parties, staying out late, traveling, shopping with friends ect.) Is This Normal????

Everyone feels like this	19
You just have lots of waisted potential	8
You shouldn't be dissapointed but regretful of your choices	0
Things will get better, you're still young	15
YOLO!!! get up and make some changes!	26

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BlueJeansWhiteShirt

11 years ago | pl

So why did what you fantasized as a child never come true? Why did you not follow your dreams?
I think this is sad. But not all is lost. You are still young and are able to do what you want, change things.

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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

You wrote in another comment that your husband comes up with excuses why you shouldn't go to college or get a job... you either need to have a serious talk with him or get out of this marriage. If you don't do anything, you may wake up one day twenty years from now and realize that nothing's changed. Your marriage may also take a turn for the worse if you stay. You'll be unhappy if you leave your life as it is and he'll be unhappy if you try to achieve your dreams. Somewhere, something's gotta give.

Please don't rely on other people to make things happen for you and please don't push your hopes and dreams aside. You'll only regret it later.

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- Grl4luvv
  
  11 years ago
  
  I have to take a DEEP breath and say "Oh My God. . . You are completely and utterly correct." You honestly have put things in a really plain perspective for me. I' ve been so miserable since I got married. My husband works hard and makes decent money, goes to church, and doesn't abuse me physically or verbally. But I'm simply not happy because I have aspirations that he refuses to acknowledge no matter how much I express to him the way I want and need to live. He is all work no play boring boring same old same old everyday and doesn't want anything to change. I have stuck around because he takes care of me and its easy to just cook and clean and he is very dependant on me to do his laundry and massage him after a hard day and cook dinner Every night and pack his lunches and make his coffee just right & drive him around everywhere since he had his license revoked for a DUI and no insurance. Without me he would probably die in a week unless he moves back in with his rich parents in their Mantion... Idk why I didn't see this before. All he has to do is work and I do everything else. No wonder I'm not happy.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    11 years ago
    
    I'm glad I was able to help you see it from another perspective. I just hope you make a plan and put it into action. I've seen my mother and her friends go through this. Don't end up like all those women in their 40s wishing they'd done something for themselves sooner.
    
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    - Grl4luvv
      
      11 years ago
      
      My mom is in her 40's and miserable with my dad but can't leave because she invested her whole life in him..
      
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ProseAthlete

11 years ago

The world can only leave you behind if you stop moving with it. What's keeping you from going back to school or looking for work? You don't have kids, so you shouldn't have any impediment to getting more out of life if you want to reach for it.

People don't just "have" happy lives; they MAKE happy lives. You're not going to wake up and magically have happiness; you need to do something to earn that feeling. What makes you happy, and why aren't you doing more of it?

Honestly, if your idea of happiness is being unattached, shopping and staying out late with friends all the time, you have a tragically limited capacity for joy in life. Those are the immature and shallow goals of a tween; you're 23, not 13. Look for bigger goals for yourself than getting shitfaced without consequences, and you might find that happiness isn't out of your reach.

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- Grl4luvv
  
  11 years ago
  
  Also good advice. Thanks. I do want to go to college get my bachelors degree and be an english teacher before I turn 30. Only thing stopping me is my husband. He has every excuse I'm the world to keep me from a career. I'm very happy socializing but im truely fulfilled by public speaking and helping others. (I'm a sunday school teacher actually). I may have given the wrong idea by saying I want to be able to stay out late and go to parties and travel. That its coming from the frequent situations where my friends both married and single invite me to retreats out of town and my hubby says no. or my friends have bday parties at a club and hubby says no. or my mom goes out of state to visit my sister and I can never go with her because my hubby needs me home to cook or he'll starve after 2 days.
  
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  - ProseAthlete
    
    11 years ago
    
    It sounds like you do have a child after all -- the one you're married to.
    
    He's a grown-ass man and can cook his own meals every once in a while! There's something very wrong with a spouse who wants to hold his or her partner back from realizing important career and personal goals.
    
    Here's what you tell your man-baby of a husband when he pouts and tells you that you can't go to work, school or retreats with friends: "You don't understand. I'm not asking your permission; I'm informing you of my decision. It isn't whether you'll let me do things, but whether you think you dare to *stop* me from doing them."
    
    You're allowing him to plead helplessness by assuming he'll starve if you go away for a little while. Toddlers can help themselves to cereal, and pre-teens can operate a microwave; he won't starve, and he isn't an infant. Don't change his diapers for him like that; stop enabling him to treat you as a maidservant.
    
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bittersweetcupcake

11 years ago

I'm new here so I don't know if you read the comment I made on one of the comments you got. Lol. That sounded funny. Anyway, I already wrote you 2 comments, kinda long. So to make a long story short:
Life is NOT sad. It's not simply all happiness and rainbows; it's what you make of it. Sitting around the house, cooking and being a slave to the "hubby" is definitely going to be disappointing and eventually, depressing. Get up and do something about it. Seems like he is the one with the problem, not you. Why doesn't he let you have a life? Are you aware that this is unhealthy?
Besides, you are 23 years old! You do not plan on having children anytime soon (yey for that, I say, from all that I've read already, it's good you don't have any kids), go back to college! I'm 29 years old and ill graduate from college this Spring, English Language and Literature as well. It's never too late. In fact, life is too short, so get up, wipe out all that negativity from your life and do what you want to do.
I wish you good things. It's upto you though to make them happen.
Xxx

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- Grl4luvv
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thank you. Probably the best advice I've received from someone under 30! Knowing you're an English Major as well also makes me feel much better, it really isn't too late for me. Everyone's posts are really helpful too me; I've had an epiphany! I need to make some changes and January 2013 is a Great time to do so.
  
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Terence_the_viking

11 years ago

Over 9000 people feel this way.

Thats life.

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- bittersweetcupcake
  
  11 years ago
  
  Even if 90% of people feel that way doesn't mean it's right! She should do something about it. That is SO not life. Life is what you make of it. She can either remain in her little life, cooking, hanging out at home, and eventually turn her husband off due to her insecurities, or she can do something about it. She is 23 years old; I'd say, since you are not planning on having kids anytime soon, follow your dreams. Afterall, it's not so hard to get back to college, find a job, travel around and have some fun! Goddamnit the girl will wake up one day and realize, not only is she disappointed at her life, but she's depressed! Like, serious depression.
  Come on, get up and do something about it. Life is way too short!
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  - Grl4luvv
    
    11 years ago
    
    I really do appreciate this. you're right about the depression. We have only been married four years and I often feel depressed and even suicidal. I have to change something soon.... yes life is short. Time seems to fly when you're having fun.. For me time has been like an enemy. Never enough time to Enjoy and Never ending time to suffer in utter bordum with an empty life. I feel like i have to Choose. Either I am gonna be happy or im going to be miserable making sure my husband's happy. Why? ? My pastor says that this is the reason marriage involves a legally binding contract & that God wants me to keep my vow weather im happy or not and sacrifice & have faith that things will work out for me because I kept my vow of marriage. This is making me miserable. im sooo lost and confused and I just want to start over from when I graduated high school and go to College and be Normal or just Die. .
    
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    - bittersweetcupcake
      
      11 years ago
      
      I am sorry but your pastor MUST shut the fuck up and die. Keep your vow whether you're happy or not? Sacrifice your true self? Really?
      Listen, I know nothing about you; perhaps he knows you better. But from what you've posted, you are an unhappy, suicidal person who's getting depressed gradually. If your husband treats you right and your relationship is healthy apart from the things you mentioned earlier, then yes, you should sit down and talk it over with him, explaining what you need, what you want, and what you should do. Hopefully he would understand and help you become a better person.
      On the other hand, if your answer to my first question is no, then your pastor better find something better to do than meddle with people's lives. Probably get one of his own for starters.
      Anyways, screw your pastor now. We do not live in the Dark Ages anymore. That's why there's something called "divorce", which has been there for the past century.
      Marriage is sacred when BOTH man and woman are understand, selfless, loving, listen to one another, discuss issues, solve them! And I am sorry to say that but apparently your husband sucks at that.
      Think for yourself. Do not let anyone influence you. Especially that damn medievil priest who knows nothing about life. I do not think that God wants you to suffer the way you are suffering right now.
      
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      - Grl4luvv
        
        11 years ago
        
        I actually became very hurt worse and confused about God since then. . . My pastor told me selfishness and self pride is from the devil and God wants me to keep my vow for "better or worse" unless my husband cheats on me. Since then I have a hard time even believing in a loving God who cares about human beings at all. I wad raised as a christian and I believe in the Bible but now I'm so confused because God is so strict and uncompromising if He wants two people to stay together no matter What and in all in all God himself doesnt want people who dont accept Him to be with Him in heaven. if im in God's image why should I have to stay with a husband who doesnt know or accept who I am? The Bible seems to say Jesus forgives all sin but blasphomy. Why then do pastors/ christians judge divorcees so harshly?
        
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        11 years ago
        
        Oh my God!
        I do not want to sound disrespectful because I am an antichrist, but seriously that pastor is fucked up.
        You do not have to be brainwashed by what you're taught or how you've been raised. There are no rights and wrongs. Just listen to your inner self. You're a believer and that is great; you're obviously a spiritual person, meaning you have faith and hope. Use that positively.
        Listen I do not know you, I have no bad intentions and I won't be gaining anything if I hurt you. I'm just trying to help, hoping Karma would pay it back. Believe in your own God and be rational; do you believe that God would want you to suffer? I guess not. Do you believe that you're being selfish? No sweety, you're not! On the contrary, you seem like a selfless and good woman. You've sacrificed enough for your husband who doesn't seem like he appreciates what you do, let alone if he appreciates you in the first place. I do not think God wants you to stay idle and do nothing productive. God doesn't really want you to survive. God would want you to live. And you, my friend, are not living. You're barely surviving. God would want you to be productive so that you would progress, and for instance, once you get ur degree and become a teacher, you'd be helping hundreds and thousands of children to grow up too. Think about it that way.
        That pastor seems like he's hurting you, not helping you. God would not want people to suffer. He gave you reason and wisdom. Staying home, being your husband's slave, is STUPID. You are not an idiot.
        Besides, I don't know where you live, but not all Christians judge divorce so harshly. I live in the fucking middle east! I'm an arab, living in Beirut, Lebanon where people are so fucking retarded and ignorant. And yet, shitloads of people get divorced. Who gives these couples divorce? Since we have no Civil Marriage here, people get married either in church or with muslim sheik. Both are very religious and anal parties. However, they do give divorce for tons of reasons.
        Please be rational and love yourself before you love anyone else.
        Oh and btw, since you're a Christian believer, that means you believe we come to this earth only once. Make it worth it. Live it fully. Don't let yourself drown in an ocean of depression and remorse. Saying "what if" is horrible. Life is way too short. Live it fully. You deserve it.
        Sorry if I'm writing too much; I tend to get carried away when I'm interested in a conversation.
        All the best sweety and whenever you feel like talking, send me a message or comment here.
        Btw, I'm a 30 year old woman. Got married when I was 20, got divorced a few years later and now I'm engaged and soon-to-be married and never been happier. Just so you know.
        Xxx
        
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bittersweetcupcake

11 years ago

I am very glad I could help. Besides, the major is kickass! I personally am very passionate about it!
Good luck! :)

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- Grl4luvv
  
  11 years ago
  
  That's very good to hear, being an english teacher has been my dream since I was 14 years old. Maybe we'll exchange emails & you can tell more about what to expect & your best/ worse experiences
  
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  - bittersweetcupcake
    
    11 years ago
    
    I found the private message thingy to send you my email but I can't freaking send you a message because it says we both aren't subscribed to the gold thingy, which I guess I've read it's a thing we gotta pay for...
    I can write my email here, I don't really care but could I get banned for this?
    
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- Grl4luvv
  
  11 years ago
  
  :)
  
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DarnIT

11 years ago

Well i wouldnt tell you that u did this and that coz what is done IS DONE trust me dont waste time on the past coz it would'nt lead u anywhere,i know u have potential just not the will to do it coz u feel 'iv made these choices now what can i do" but that is not the case ur still young u have no kids(which is great) so u can still do something with ur life NOW coz there is more to u than just having sex and pleasing ur husband in anyway u also have a life LIVE IT before its too late,trust me sister things that come early dont mean much but happiness that come after going thru a difficult time is pricelss and trust me your good times will come :)

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- Grl4luvv
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thank u :)
  
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flightlesskiwi

11 years ago

Why would you need your husband's permission anyway to have a career? This is not the 1950's. By all means, you need to follow your dreams. If you don't then you'll only end up even more unhappy than you already are. I wish you good luck with turning your life around.

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millefeuille

11 years ago

no doubt everyone would feel disappointed with their lives at some point, some even with the greatest accomplishments they'd feel something's missing.
i don't see how marriage could have hindered you from getting into college. You haven't gotten any kids yet, so go pursue whatever you wish.
Why'd you get married in the first place? O_O

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forever_anon

11 years ago

Yes. Many people have dreams that they wish they had followed, so you're not alone. The good news is that you are still young, so you still have time to change your life if you want. Have you tried looking into colleges? Also, if you want to travel more, you could ask your hubs to go on a romantic vacation with you. It doesn't have to be anything expensive or exotic; a short trip to a neighboring state could be fun.

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- Grl4luvv
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thanks. This is good advice :)
  
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    11 years ago
    
    Glad I could help. :)
    
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nowhereboy

11 years ago

If you wanted the life you fantasized about as a kid getting married at 19 wasn't exactly the best idea in the world was it?

Duh.

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squeallikeasacofpigs

11 years ago

I laughed when you wrote that a guy "stole" your virginity. Unless you got raped. Then maybe he did steal it.

But seriously, stop feeling sorry for yourself and just go do what you want to do. I never understood people who whined about their lives, but never did anything about it.

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- bittersweetcupcake
  
  11 years ago
  
  Who told you she didn't do anything about it?
  
  I never understand judgemental people!
  
  Pft!
  
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- Grl4luvv
  
  11 years ago
  
  Yes. I was raped. .
  
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  - squeallikeasacofpigs
    
    11 years ago
    
    Well FUCK!!
    
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- Grl4luvv
  
  11 years ago
  
  Im really not on this website to whine or vent. I'm sorry if giving all the details made it seem like I was. I j joined this website because I need good advice from people not involved so their perspective won't be bias. I have no where else to turn and I must say joining this has Really helped me more than any counciling I've ever been to so I dont regret telling my story if it means I can gain wisdom for my choices. You have no clue how much I have been Trying and trying to fix things, I mean if I could just get up and change things don't you think I would? Its that I dont know What to do or How to do it. But now, from all these good answers I actually have a clue
  
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- Grl4luvv
  
  11 years ago
  
  Also good advice. Thanks. I do want to go to college get my bachelors degree and be an english teacher before I turn 30. Only thing stopping me is my husband. He has every excuse I'm the world to keep me from a career. I'm very happy socializing but im truely fulfilled by public speaking and helping others. (I'm a sunday school teacher actually). I may have given the wrong idea by saying I want to be able to stay out late and go to parties and travel. That its coming from the frequent situations where my friends both married and single invite me to retreats out of town and my hubby says no. or my friends have bday parties at a club and hubby says no. or my mom goes out of state to visit my sister and I can never go with her because my hubby needs me home to cook or he'll starve after 2 days.
  
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    11 years ago
    
    Why can't your hubby cook for himself? I'm 23 and married, as well. My husband and I share share all the chores. He is very good at cooking. So he can obviously look after himself. Also, he wants me to have a successful career, and why wouldn't he. Both of us having a career means more money for both of us, as well as more security since if one of us loses their job the other one at least still has a job. To me your husband sounds like a child. How can an adult man not even know how to do his laundry? If I was you I would give him a choice, either learn to do chores, including taking cooking classes, as well as encourage you to have a career or you get a divorce.
    
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      11 years ago
      
      My personality is not really agressive or "stand up & put your foot down" ish type anymore. Slowky my husband gas made me more submissif to him and respectab lk e by calling me mean names tears aho like a Billy or a Dictator or Hitler or the Teacher or the Queen or his Mother's name "Sheila"... It all hurt so bad that I stopped telling him like it is Years ago. Then when I tried that trick back on him when He was acting like a Queen himself & being Super bossy not letting me go any where without him, he said there Is a double standard and iAgreed to it on our wedding day (that I would submit to and obey him as God commands in the Bible). . . Im too scared to put my foot down and give him an altomatum.. He doesnt like those....
      
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      - bittersweetcupcake
        
        11 years ago
        
        I'm reading the whole thread now and OH MY GOD!!
        What is your husband's fucking problem?! First of all, you said he comes from a very rich family, right? Well, that means you can afford going on a get-away vacation. You BOTH seem like you need that. You make him sound like a workaholic, there fore he needs to goo on a vacation to refresh (not to mention, to pamper himself, since he is a man-baby) and you need it because you need to LIVE. Most importantly, you BOTH need it, as a couple. Couple therapy. Travel together, COMMUNICATE, without fighting or being bossy (since Mr. SeLfish-Man-baby doesn't like it) talk like adults; tell him how you're feeling. Be completely transparent. Spill your heart out. Tell him what you need to do and that your life should start over, from scratch because the one you're "living" now is extremely unhealthy. If he refuses to understand or cooperate, then get a freaking divorce. To hell with your pastor! To hell with all the bullshit that comes out of his mouth! Don't let them emotionally blackmail you with all this God-will-forsake-you nonesense! God is not a monster and I think that you're aware of that; it's just that people around you seemed to have good luck in destroying your self-esteem until you reached a point where you do not trust your own beliefs and stopped listening to your true inner-self.
        As for being scared to "put your foot down", why? Since he does not physically hurt you, then why not? You said that "he doesn't like those." TOO FUCKING BAD! You hate your life!! He should be worrying about that!
        A man who loves and respects his wife would turn the world upside down if he sees his beloved shedding one single tear! And you deserve such a man! You deserve to be treated royal. But it's time you stand up for yourself!!
        
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    11 years ago
    
    Euh... I think that you should be disappointed with the "hubby" and not your life!!
    
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    11 years ago
    
    it sounds as if your husband cannot live without you. he should take some cooking lessons or some urban survival skill classes.
    why not take your husband along to visit your sister?
    
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    11 years ago
    
    No offence or anything but your husband sounds like a complete waste of space asshole. I mean, he need you to stay home to cook? How pathetic. He's not a man. A real man can cook for himself, and chooses to do so.
    
    Furthermore, far be it from my role to tell you how your relationship should work, but why are you even asking his permission to do stuff you want to do anyway? It's not like he's your father! You should always just do what you want to do and not be held back by anybody, regardless of the fact that your married to them.
    
    I mean, him saying no you can't go out with your friends, it likes he's 40 and your his 13 year old daughter or something. Honestly, you're not getting any younger, don't let that clown hold you back.
    
    My honest advice you be to get a divorce, move on and do what you want to do in life. The guy is dead weight and is only holding you back. There are billions on men out there, but only one shot at life. Time is something you can never buy or buy back. Don't waste it dreaming of a better life. Go make one.
    
    Anyway, I'm sure that's probably hard to hear, seen as you probably love him etc but when your in a relationship it's valuable to get an outside opinion. But sometimes, the biggest truths are the hardest to hear.
    
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    - Grl4luvv
      
      11 years ago
      
      Ouch. . . that was pushing fiber glass into my ears. . . Geez, that was hard to read. Maybe you are completly right. I am so so so confused though... I'm actually not in love with my husband though.. I mean, I married him because of some bad stuff in my life he promised to help me with and he convinced me that he loved me and wanted the best for me. I was young and heart broken because no guy had ever really loved me before (they all just used me because I'm nice and fun and sometimes naive) so I felt so insecure after the rape that I was afraid to let the one and first person in the world that loved me slip through my fingers. Now that I'm married to him I think he is really just like all those other guys who don't really care about me. No one in my life really cares about me accept my mom. I'm short, really dark skinned, with bowed-legs, a crooked nose, a lazy eye, one foot bigger than the other, spaced out teeth, no curves (except for my butt -im very skinny and its quite big but that doesn't suffice for my flat chest!) My boobs are a whole cup size different. . . I mean its no wonder no guys wanted to be with me.. I do tend to dress really nice, and im a good singer and trained dancer and I draw well & always do my hair nice, I cook very good meals according 2 everyone, I make clothes, im trilingual, and Im very well organized and honest. girls love me (all my girl friends say im life of the party). Men hit on me and ask for my number and say im beautiful all the time, but im married to a guy who makes me feel like crap, look in mirror and see everything wrong with me and question if even God loves me (and if he did, why would he let me be so unloved by the opposite sex)? Ive heard from doctors that I'm completly normal and no one notices my crooked nose or "lazy" eye or smaller breast. They see my big smile smooth skin and big butt and think I'm good for sex (the doctor was a close friend who was Drunk at the time and being honest). So that hurts me but I stay with my hubby bcuz in the back of my mind I believe No man is ever going to really love Me for ME exactly how I am and neither will he. . . He is not some sexy hot guy either... I'm a beauty queen compared to him. Im cosmetically trained in makeup application so I look quite sexy when I take the time to. I just feel like neither of us will ever be lovable or appreciated and I prob have been making a daily self-conscious decision to stay because it's the Safest thing to do if I don't want to be alone in old age.
      
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      - bittersweetcupcake
        
        11 years ago
        
        Oh my God!!! The more I read, the more I'm shocked!!!!!!
        You don't even love him and you've tolerated all that crap?!?!
        Get a divorce TODAY!!!
        You just wrote a paragraph about the good qualities you have! He should be counting his blessings! He has a sweet hearted, talented, smart, fun and ambitious wife!! He is too blind because he is selfish!
        You said like you feel that nobody cares about you except your Mom. I am sure this is not true; you're just feeling insecure because that brat you have at home makes you feel unloved. Action speaks louder than words. He may say he loves you, but from everything he does, seeems like the only person he loves is himself! In a twisted way too!
        You do not need a man to feel safe and loved, dear. At least not now. I mean, you're still young! Get a divorce, go to college, go out with your friends, party hard, read a lot, travel around, enjoy life! Live!! You are barely surviving and that's really sad. It's as if you are married to a physically disabled man, who got disabled after marriage so you pity him and don't have the heart to leave him, so you sacrifice and live with him, serving him like a maid does to her master, only that he does not appreciate your sacrifice and devotion.
        I'm sorry maybe I'm spamming you with my comments, one after the other, but this makes me really sad. You have so much potential and I hate to see wasted talent, eventhough I don't know you and will never do. It is just simply sad and frustrating.
        Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are not weak, you're just giving up. Wake the hell up, and the comment above that someone wrote is very true. You're going to wake up one day, old and miserable. Luckily for you, you're still young and it's so not too late! Your life hasn't even began! You have SO much to do! God gave you this life as a gift and it is your responsibility to value it and make the best of it. Do that. You are throwing your life away. The privilege that God has given you, you are throwing it away. You do not have the right to do that to yourself and your life.
        Go ahead and live it. Don't be afraid to be lonely. I'm sure you won't. The right time will come and you will find a man who will adore the ground you walk on, who will treat you royal and give you what you deserve. You will not end up lonely. And if you do not get remarried again, ever, I'm sure you will at least be a happy, proud, experienced and successful woman who lived her life fully.
        Xxx
        (I'm going to scroll down again, let's hope I won't find another shocking comment and bore you with my long comments!! :p I'm on my mobile so I'm reading the thread bit by bit)
        
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ccjigsaw

11 years ago

We all feel like this at some point in our lives. I'll tell you how it is on the opposite spectrum. Atleast for me. I worked hard to save money for college, went to college. And just recently, I got a job. I spent YEARS trying to get this job, and now I kind of feel like, I had no fun. I worked so hard, sure I'm getting paid well, but where's my happiness? You should not try and get pregnant if you're not ready. I also feel like it's good to wait. I used to want children, but after a revelation like "I haven't had fun yet." You should talk with your husband, have him understand you don't want kidlets yet. Get your butt through college, and go on a vacation somewhere exotic. Get an IUD :D I have one. I think it's awesome, and it works for a good 5 years. In 5 years, you'll be 28. Get your life on track woman! Have some fun with it :) You're married, not dead.

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Grl4luvv

11 years ago

Also if your're wondering I married him because I was pregnant and my parents would've kicked me out if they discovered that I was having sex with him before marriage so we married quickly and I had a miscarriage a week later.

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Are You Normal?

Is it normal that im so dissapointed with my life?