Is it normal that im sad about my boyfriend's ex relationship

iam always upset about the fact that my boyfriend had a relationship 5yrs back and he was also physically involved with her.Although i was also in a relationship before and was physically involved too.i want to marry my boyfriend and we have gone physical within 2 months of our relationship but whenever iam alone i always have bad feelings that how he touched his ex girlfriend and i also think that iam not the kind of girl he dies for, he jus likes me because when i go through his albums he point out the girls he used to like before me.i think that he is just compromising because he is 32yrs old and he has to marry someone.whenever i see pictures of those girls or his ex girlfriend on net i get upset.he truly loved his girlfriend and went to her home for marrying her but she refused and he did not feel that he will like anyone in future and he became workoholic and as the time passed he started liking some girls who came to work with him in office and his colleagues also pushed him to approach them but he says that he did not like anyone so badly to propose them.but i dont buy this because i think that he did not propose them because he did not find them approachable and he was afraid of rejection.But he proposed me because i was easily approachable.he finds other kind of girls more beautiful although he likes me and wants to marry me but iam not able to decide what to do.I cant love him with these feelings and if i wil discuss all this with him then he will definitely deny evrything and once i argued also on this with him and he said that he wil become workoholic if i leave him.

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  • CheyChey

    He said he'd become an alcoholic if you leave him?! something about that sound like there's an abusive element in that statement. it's normal to feel jealous of ex's of your boyfriend & that he had physical relationship with these women but let's be honest you have been with someone before & he's 32 so he's obviously been with a couple of people before you. The fact that you feel like he's settling is enough for you to question the whole thing nobody wants to be the next best alternative. confront the issue and decide what you both want because you'll both end up resenting each other you'll always feel inadequate he'll always feel you are not want he wanted. goodluck!

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    • thnks for your valuable advice

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      • CheyChey

        You're welcome

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  • thinkingaboutit

    he sure is "compromising", because you sound like an 11 year old.

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  • Just because he has loved previous girlfriends does not mean that he is incapable of loving someone in the future (you).

    All that it really shows is that he is capable of falling in love and that he is open to the idea of marriage.

    A 32 year old man is going to have a past. I think you need to stop comparing yourself to his past and be the best future he could hope for. Don't let your insecurities ruin your chance for happiness with him.

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    • JustinBiebsFan#1

      my penis loves mylar balloons(mylars only)sometimes i kiss the mylar balloons if i gets mylar balloons i take them into my bedroom whats your fucking problem with that?i love to fuck mylar balloons in my bed!i just love to have my penis on mylar balloons if someone have mylar balloons then sell them to me and i will take them in my bed I LOVE MYLAR FOREVER! give me all your mylar balloons ! my penis loves them!!i can dont live without mylar! give me mylar balloons!!!!!!!!!!

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      • I love them too! I always wanted one when I was little, but my family was too poor for fancy silver balloons. I only ever had the regular balloons and there was never any helium. Whoa is me, my life was so hard. Ha, ha!

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  • joybird

    How long have you two been going out together?

    If you're not sure about marrying him, then definitely don't! Wait 5 years and see how you feel. He cerainly doesn't need to get married at 32, that's not old and if he wants children he will still have sperm as a pensioner. It's only women who rush into marriage.

    Anyway, tell him to keep his past to himself - you don't need to know everything.

    Your relationship should make you feel good, not miserable. If you two don't laugh together every day, dump him :o) This is the best advice I was ever given!!

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  • Ldizzy1234

    If he's with you, and he says he loves you, stop questioning things. Stop questioning the relationship. If he didn't care to try with you, you would not still be in a relationship. He obviously sees something special in you that maybe all those other people that you say were 'unapproachable' didn't have. Accept what is.

    And yes, anybody is probably bound to have a past at 32. Usually we all go through a couple relationships and people before leading up to the 'big' one. Don't compare yourself to his ex girlfriends, past flings, or any girl that he was once attracted to, because now... the spotlight is on none of them, but you! The concentration is at you now. Go with it. If you feel it in your heart that you love him, go with it.

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  • ccjigsaw

    "It doesn't matter who you kissed in the past as long i'm the last" Think of it that way :) He's never going to be with anyone else again, just you!! Who cares about past preferences and what not. Stop being so darn insecure and accept that he want YOU! You're worth it, and he knows it

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