Is it normal that im ready to just give up or should i keep fighting

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Me and my ex was together for 2years and I love him with all my heart. I want to get over him but its so hard.
He started to hang with the wrong type of people and completely changed for the worst. Now for the past year he's been coming in and out of my life making me think that we might be back together again but then leaves outta nowhere. hes not the best guy in the world anymore and I know this. but from me knowing him for 8yrs and knowing the real him I keep holding on to that. I wanna get over him but I love him so much that im scared that I never will. For some reason deep down I think were going to get back together and he's going to go back to his old nice sweet self. so thats stopping me from changing my number and cutting off all ties. I want to move on so bad but I think about him everyday. I miss him so much that its starting to effect my dating life. So is it normal to finally just want to cut him off change my number and delete him from my phone to make a clean break or will this just make things worst and best that I just hang in there.

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  • heartbrokenbutterfly
    13 years ago

    i would say move on, he obviously isnt on the same page as you (even though i know that hurts) because if he was he wouldnt keep coming and going at his own ease. i would say distance yourself and see what happens. make him wait, dont be at his beck and call. he is being insensitive and probably using you. im sorry, hope it gets better.

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  • TheGuruOfTheSauce
    13 years ago

    Men move on like a snapshot quick, so waiting for a bus in the ghost town aint gonna get you nowheres. He's over you, you're pathetic, and I'm ready for your loving. problem solved

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  • dragona
    13 years ago

    You definitely need to move on; you're in love with who he used to be. It doesn't sound like he is interested in reverting to his old self. It is hard but you need to make that clean break.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Ex's are ex's for a reason. You aren't supposed to get back together with someone if it didn't work out the first time, it sure as he'll won't work a second time.

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  • Destinee
    13 years ago

    Dump him, it will be much easier in the long run. Even if it might take a while to get over him.
    Good luck to you.

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  • Alison89
    12 years ago

    Dump him. You're seeing "the real him" every day. That image of him that's in your head isn't the real him, that's just what you imagine it to be.

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  • blondie0h3
    13 years ago

    this kind of sounds like my boyfriend, except that we are still together and living in the same apartment. he was so sweet and romantic ALL THE TIME and then in the past months he has started hanging out with his old friends and drinking alot. hes changed and it saddens me. i just want the old him back

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  • germanstallion123
    13 years ago

    I don't agree with Eva_Braun88 at all. Anything can happen. That said, dump him. Live your life as you want. If fate puts you two together again, awesome. If not, whatever.

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    • Lola_Love
      13 years ago

      thats the part I dont understand. they say if you love something let it go and if it comes back it means so much more. well i let it go time and time again. its like when we seperate we think about eachother all day and night but we both got our guards up so when we get together we fuss all the time cause were acting immature.He's so hard to read. i know he loves me and I can really deal with the change in him cause I love him that much but for some reason its like were scared to let eachother in. I know I hurt him when I break up with him and go to the next guy but he does the same to me. I been trying to talk to him as an ADULT but I just think he's scared. I just need to find a way to gain his trust. Then we can work it out one more time. Then if it dosent work then it wasnt meant to be. But something has got to be there. Why else would we keep going back and forth. What else can be the reason that neither of us is willing to let go??

      sorri its so long

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  • bear312
    13 years ago

    forget him he's not worth it

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  • mattwho16
    13 years ago

    Dump him if he's oldest age since u met him which is today and in the begining was nicer treated you better the old him ain't coming back ... Usually it's other way around dick head then nice

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