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well im 18, a girl and not sure if im asexual or not..? In the past i have had crushes on guys but that was a while ago like when i was at intermediate, since then i havn't really had any crushes... just wondering what makes an asexual person and what does attraction feel like (sexual). I meet guys and think oh yeah hes cute or hot but that's about it?
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If you have had crushes on people, then no.
That would be like saying I used to be homosexual, now I'm not.
Sexuality's confusing. You're 18 so you've got plenty of time to figure it out. Sorry I don't have any substantial advice.
its always normal for teens to wonder about their sexual orientation.
I didnt find out i was bi until i was 17
I think it's just that dating is not your top priority right now. You're probably just doing your own thing for now :)
If you have had crushes on guys and if you feel the way you described ("they are hot..."), I would say that it is not asexuality - maybe low sex drive or lower sexual desire/arousal, but not asexuality.
Not necessarily. Asexual people usually still experience aesthetic attraction, and many experience romantic attraction.
Of course not necessarily, it is impossible for us to set the diagnosis about her sexual orientation (asexuality) based on a few lines online. That is why I used the words "would" and "maybe".
I just have the impression that SOME people jump too quicky at the "asexual" terminology even if they are hetero/homo/bi....sexual just because they do not feel sexual desire, which might be sometimes misleading because asexuality as a sexual orientation should be stronger. As far as I know from the sexologists and their university textbooks and studies/articles published in professional scientific journals (not pop psychology), romantic attraction is linked with sexual orientation to a certain degree.
But I am not a professional and moreover, I am not a native speaker, so I might have missed some subtle meanings in the words used in the original post, but in general I would understand the terms "hot" and "crush" as potentially sexually "charged", but as I said I am not a native speaker... But I still think that low sexual desire or arousal disorders or temporary disinterest in sex should not be confused with asexuality as an orientation (and based on the confessions of self-diagnosed asexuals I have seen in some videos and discussions online I would say that unfortunately this is what sometimes happen but I really cannot say anything definite about this topic or about the OP).
Of course not necessarily, it is impossible for us to set the diagnosis about her sexual orientation (asexuality) based on a few lines online. That is why I used the words "would" and "maybe".
I just have the impression that SOME people jump too quicky at the "asexual" terminology even if they are hetero/homo/bi....sexual just because they do not feel sexual desire, which might be sometimes misleading because asexuality as a sexual orientation should be stronger. As far as I know from the sexologists and their university textbooks and studies/articles published in professional scientific journals (not pop psychology), romantic attraction is linked with sexual orientation to a certain degree.
But I am not a professional and moreover, I am not a native speaker, so I might have missed some subtle meanings in the words used in the original post, but in general I would understand the terms "hot" and "crush" as potentially sexually "charged", but as I said I am not a native speaker... But I still think that low sexual desire or arousal disorders or temporary disinterest in sex should not be confused with asexuality as an orientation (and based on the confessions of self-diagnosed asexuals I have seen in some videos and discussions online I would say that unfortunately this is what sometimes happen but I really cannot say anything definite about this topic or about the OP).
hmm yeah i think wow HOT like edward of twilight, though if i had the chane i wouldn't bang him lol
Don't worry about it. Like q25t said, its complicated. Honestly not enough info to be sure, but I think concluding you're asexual is jumping the gun a bit - like saying your cold is swine flu, or being sad means you're bipolar. Possible, but not likely.