Is it normal that im always told im a great bf but everyone dumps me?

Here's a good quote my dad taught me. "nice guys always finish last." what u posted tells me ur a nice, sweet guy. (No homo) u don't have to be a jerk or an asshole, but don't be a nice guy either. Girls are looking for that alpha male. When you walk in the mall or anywhere and theirs someone walking in "your" pathway, don't move out of their way. It's your pathway. Lesson one on not being a "nice guy."

Well you probably are a great boyfriend but most men and women today are simply looking for a fling. So the people like you who are serious are going to get crushed because no one else is taking it seriously.

There could be a crowd of 80 and only 10 people are willing to be committed in a relationship. Since those other 70 just see it as a fling they really don't care about how the person they are playing really feels about it.

So you are going to keep running into these people who simply do not give a shit and wonder what you are doing wrong. It is probably not your fault at all but you simply have old values that no one seems to care about in this day and age.

I wish more people had those type of values but I guess that is too much to wish for in this day and age. I personally if I were you would just give up dating. This has happened to me several times and the excuse for leaving was "Oh I got bored" after 3-4 months of dating. This seems to be a very common occurrence and you are not the only one. Dont blame yourself for other peoples poor values.

No relationship is perfect bro. And trying to make it perfect will never work. Just be yourself and ask for breakfast everyonce in a while.

you sounds like a woman pleaser ... and typically that type gets on my nerves the most! they are kinda like momma boys who always want to share in everything and consult a girls feelings etc ..... something is just not natural about guys who are this way ,,,, and i dont tknwo why but i end up hateing them then feeling like the worst girl on earth lol ,,, coz the truth is they are VERY sweet kind guys .... but the problem is once you mix sex into it it ends up becoming grose and I look at the guy has being pathetic or SOOOOOO anoying even the way he eats and asks if I want anything else etc GRRRRRRRRRRRR ( old feelings comming back up from answering this)

My advice is be manly, dont be womanly and sensative and dote over a girl coz she will push you infront of a bus if she has weak willpower hehe ... good luck

well thank you everybody, advice taken, still single; but I got a motorcycle and started laying waste to all beer insight and having some fun, not too worried about it now. I am in a happier place...and the cooking and massage thing wasnt the part of the doormat emphasis, I grew up in a family resturant and ask girls to challenge me to cook offs and difficult dishes. As ofr the massages I has going to school for it at the time and needed someone to practice on...but anyways...thank you all...

dude not to be mean and not even saying you have to be mean, but it sounds like you overkill it. girls don't want someone who will do whatever they want & is a pushover. our natural instinct is to be with a strong provider. someone who doesn't always give us our way.

I think you're being taken advantage of. That used to happen to me, too, with friends. You need to not make anybody feel "exclusive", or special, put everybody on the same level unless they're your extremely close friends.

Don't love unless you're loved first. Try not to be needy, and show up late to dates, you have to put people on the edge and slightly nudge them away (don't shove!) because it makes people want you more. Works for me.

You are probably too nice. People do not want a doormat. Just be yourself.

well, i did piss them off when i asked them to call me to come get them from parties instead of them trying to drive home, the only compliment i may have provoked was what was i on a scale of 1 to 10 as in my looks....and i am very confident, i workout and got a promotion at work and joined the airforce....I am not insecure other then the fact there maybe something i DONT know about...hence why i ask, and yeah maybe one or 2 were short term, but a few asked me on several occasions if i could see myself marrying them....which my response was "i cant tell, the future is unpredictable, but what i can see is me trying with my heart and soul to me you happy."

were the compliments provoked or by anyway pressured to come? Asking her counts.

As if you DON'T know!

Have you been going with girls who are more interested in short term "fun" relationships? Because that could be the case and you may not realize it.

Well, maybe you should dig deeper..... Maybe they lied.... still weird... more details would be a bit better.

First of all, please stop hurting yourself over this. It is not worth it. Think about it: if you can't love yourself how can you expect anyone else to love you in return?

I went through the EXACT same thing. I was told that I was an amazing girlfriend but being dumped left and right by everyone. I also went through a very dark, self-destructive period. Looking back, it's very upsetting because all of the time I spent beating myself up could have been spent on improving who I was as a person.

What you need to do, is re-evaluate how you are as a boyfriend. Ask yourself some tough questions: Were you not faithful? Were you too needy? Did you have a negative personality? If you did anything that could have jeopardized your past relationships, really keep an eye on that. If there's any behavior that you need to change, this is the time to change it.

Right now, you need to work on YOU. Once you've done this, then you can turn that energy on the world. Go out and date. Be open to meeting different women. Take it slow. Once you are secure in who you are, that confidence will radiate from you onto the women you see, and there will be someone out there to love you for everything you are.

Just be patient! Love is out there!