Is it normal that im afraid to break up

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Hello guys :) Ive been strugging a bit so i decided to ask you all something. Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years.

Ive never been truly happy but i kept going through this relationship cause i was like ,, i dont wanna rush a break up" and here we are, 4 years together. Our communication is so bad, he doesnt want to talk about problems, his excuse is that he is quiet. I was like i dont care that your quiet, we need to talk, if youre not ready now, we can tak later. But its usually aways the same, he never wants to freaking talk.

He never boughts me anything, flowers, nothing. He bought me a watch once after i told him that it would be nice if he would get me a little something once. And he bought me a emoji pillow after he was an ass to me, and a ring after he was an ass to me again.

The other day i said something like i was fat(i usually never say that and i dont even think that) but last few weeks i noticed i gained afew pounds. He was like ,,wooow youre so insecure haha" and i was like ,,what?? " usually i am pretty confident and i was like ,,you dont even know me and even if i was insecure dont you think that you should tell me that im pretty and you love me no matter what i look or something" i really think he messes up with my confidence sometimes, he never tells me anything nice, NEVER. the only nice thing he says is love you. Ok i understand that that is not his way of showing love, but what is his way??

When im stresses over my exams i never feel like is being supportive..I almost never feel love from him and i like to give love so much, i like to hug a lot, kiss, say nice stuff, give him little presents..

my problem is that im afraid to break up, i think i might never find anyone else ahhah :/ theres much more to this, i cant even remember anything, i just feel like he is not the one for me..btw he is 30 and wants to have kids and im 21, and i still have 3 more years of college. Also after our fight, he cummed inside of me and i think its intentionally cause he wants me to get prego

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  • dirtybirdy
    7 years ago

    You need to focus on yourself and finish school. Forget that clown and just do you.

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    • sillygirl77
      7 years ago

      Agree

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  • CDmale4fem
    7 years ago

    Remember this if nothing else "SOMEONE CAN ONLY DO TO YOU WHAT YOU ALLOW THEM TO." NOW that said, I am a guy, and his issues are similar to "he may not be as into the relationship as you are, and he gets laid, you probably take care of him, cook, clean, etc, ,, he may not 100% want you, but he doesn't want someone else to have you, to get you pregnant you will feel dependant on him, you may feel no one else would want you if your pregnant or have kids. If your not ready for kids then get on birth control. If you don't like the treatment you get from him, or if you don't feel the communication is working - deal with it and keep putting up with it, or DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. BE STRONG, BE SOMEONE THAT WILL NOT BE A VICTIM TO A RUDE, SELFISH, INSECURE, AND I would bet he's kinda of a mamas boy. Can he wipe his own ass, tie his own shoes ? Or not ?

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    • younglady987
      7 years ago

      Hahah this is so true. I needed to read these comments. Thank you so much for the response..we were together since i was like 17 and everyone always told me he is bad for me..but sometimes he is so nice, sometimes awful and thats what makes it hard for me to break up

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      • CDmale4fem
        7 years ago

        When he's an ass he probably thinks you could just walk away cuz he's an ass, then you get mad he apologizes, you forgive, it's a dog chasing his tail. Round and round. "The definition of stupidity is doing same thing over and over expecting different results". Hey I've been there too. Lol . ? (Can I Ask what size bra works best for you ? )

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        • younglady987
          7 years ago

          Yeesss, i know that but i needed somebody else to tell me ☺️☺️ Thats so true, he apologizes when he sees that he fucked me up and that i could easily break up. I think ill be happier when i break up. Did you feel release after your break up? Hahah why is it important?

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          • CDmale4fem
            7 years ago

            I felt a weight off my shoulders, I felt "It's about time" and "I am so sick of putting up with her petty lyin cheating while I was at work, bitch of an attitude." I hated the thought of being single again, but I would rather be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong .It really wasn't important, I just get curious now and then, since I'm a cross dresser myself.I really hope you can find light at end of a better tunnel than where your at now. Most guys like that have note care or respect for anyone or anything except themselves.

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  • KimmiKitsch
    7 years ago

    How long are you willing to wait for an already sinking ship to hit the bottom? There's no shame in making a decision based on gut feeling.

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    • sillygirl77
      7 years ago

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  • Ashiens
    7 years ago

    Someone unloving like that? Break up with him. My girlfriend recently broke up with me, and at first I was devastated, but after a while I realized that I should have been the one to break up with her months ago. She was extremely cold and distant, immature and unthoughtful. When you try to give someone everything you have and they give you nothing in return, that's when you know there's a problem...

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  • JazzDiva
    7 years ago

    I was in a similar relationship for 3 years. Ended last year PRAISE GOD!!! BEST THING I COULD HAVE EVER DONE!!! Like you he had no ambition, selfish, non socialble...but to add controling, everything was my fault.. even the fact he never joined the military. No car...no flowers..id pay for dates etc.Told me he wanted to make a baby..(for sex of course.) Immediately after the break up my neck and back pain stopped, my grades were better...I was blessed with an internship. Ppl who hold you back hold back your blessings. In other words could be holding you bacl from someone waaaay much better. Find yourself set standards. My dad told me "Your lifes not over at 21..its just begining!! so many ppl you have yet to meet!!"

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  • you_go_glen_coco
    7 years ago

    You seriously need to escape this routine of self torture. You don't need him and what he is/have become is not beneficial to you in any form.
    Focus on your studies and on yourself. You are being tossed about like a ship on the ocean. Set a course for winds of fortune. And, ffs, lay your weary head to rest.

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  • TurtleBurger
    7 years ago

    You're wasting your time. Leave him, you're only 21, you have tons of time to find somebody else better suited to you. And if you're so worried about not finding someone else then join a gym and get breast implants, guys are not that hard to attract.

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    • sillygirl77
      7 years ago

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