Is it normal that im a virgin at 24, almost 25 ?

I'm currently 24. and im still a virgin. i havent really done anything with any girl before. i haven't even kissed a girl.
But the thing is i don't look bad..i'm actually quite buff for an asian male. 180cm(5'11") 95kg(210lb)(i don't even look fat for my weight) and i have a stable self employed business. My friends are even surprised. but i just don't really go out or socialise as much as i should.
I hate going to clubs and its the last place i would want to go to meet someone.
Honestly i keep saying its just confidence but i can easily talk to any random stranger and build rapport but i honestly don't know whats wrong with me..

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  • rayb12

    Yeah its fine, you have just put it on a pedestal. I would try pretending that it is really not a big deal at all and something you are basically indifferent about, and it will happen. In actuality it is fun but far from everything

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  • arthurtheaardvark99

    Well you have probably realized by now that lots of factors are involved with dating and relationships. Some people just have to work harder than others to achieve their goals in life. It's unfair but that is life - there isn't a level playing field for everyone. As an Asian male you might feel that you have to try harder just to even get noticed and put in more effort to leave a good impression, that kind of thing. So I can certainly sympathize with that, I mean it's hard enough as it is without considering things like stereotypes, culture, and society at large. You don't have to enjoy going to clubs or places like that, but it definitely helps to know people and have friends who have connections. A lot of relationships happen from hooking up with someone that a friend can introduce you to, just to sort of break the ice. Because of course it's hard for anyone to straight up meet strangers. Sure you can find someone attractive, but walk through a random city street and you will see dozens if not more strangers that catch your eye, but how do you know and how are they going to know if things could ever get any further than that, if you two could really have a deeper bond. There's the issue of compatibility, personality, hobbies, interests, lifestyles, dreams, goals, and aspirations for the future. So don't beat yourself up for not having been in a relationship, it's complex and it's a tough and competitive world out there. I really do think that to be a good partner you should have a good understanding of yourself and the world around you, and be confident being you, because women can tell when a man is being fake and inauthentic. I'm also a virgin even though I'm not ugly, and sometimes I reflect on it and think that maybe it's because I'm too boring. So I have been expanding my horizons in any way I can, hopefully it helps me not only to be a better partner but more importantly a better person.

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  • sourgrapes

    Its not bloody well normal.ffs.

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  • (s)aint

    1) A friend of mine is turning 30 in a few weeks, virgin and never had a gf. She´s really introvert and shy.

    2) TO meet someone you like you have to meet people, if you feel it´s difficult to do it IRL, do it online. I´ve only dated guys I´ve met online because it feels safer, I don´t feel as exposed.

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    • arthurtheaardvark99

      Unless you meant to type 'bf' instead of 'gf'...maybe it's because she is a lesbian and it's harder for gay and lesbian people to find partners compared to straight people.

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      • (s)aint

        Ah yes she´s gay and very introvert, so it´s harder for her to find someone. Especially when she´s so difficult with people and dislike parties etc.

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  • maz9

    Stop feeling entitled to sex you whiny little cunt. Sorry to drop this much needed dose of reality on you, but : not everyone is meant to pass along their genes. Selective breeding applies to humans too. If women don't appreciate your genetic traits, that's just selective breeding at work. The average age to lose virginity is 17, and you've gone 7 years past this age, so obviously society doesn't want your genes to survive in the next generation. You're supposed to die alone, and you're a selfish moron if you think you're entitled to a woman's love just because you own a business.

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    • Leika

      Oh look, a triggered internet user in their natural habitat

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  • wilhelm_scream

    Try online dating, yeah. Google a few websites - tinder... bumble? Do it smartly, just like any online interaction, so that you end up on dates with real people. Presumably dates are the first step to sex.

    I'm 23 and also extra virgin olive oil. Asian, too. (hm...) If I ever decide to date online, perhaps we'll meet :)

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  • yfhudsk

    This is not normal.

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  • fluffy1uv

    try tindr or match.com bro the online dating stigma is totally bogus

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  • RazoRTR

    It's not bad that you're a virgin. It's not like you have to have a relationship at this age. You don't even have to have a relationship at all.

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  • ddrftw

    Soo..are you just wanting to lose your virginity or get a girlfriend, I'm confused. If you want to put yourself out there then you have to make an effort and actually talk to people.

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  • Dixon_Cider

    you said it yourself. you don't like socializing. you can't just hope to meet someone by not talking with them.

    sounds to me like you're a bit narcissistic as well. thinking you're entitled to having a girlfriend because you're not bad looking and have a business. reality flash bro even poor people can get girls. and the club isn't the only place to meet girls. if you think it's because you don't club enough then it's most likely you who has issues. if you don't know any other place to meet girls then it's because of you.

    the answer's obvious. you sound like an elliot rodger to me. the guy who shot up his campus because he was a bitch like you. pussy.

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