Is it normal that im 18 with these problems?

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Im 18 and ive never been on a date, never kissed, virgin, and i am a little insecure so i smoke mills of weed.

i am not ugly, i have had girls say i am attractive or girls tell my friends that i am... And i am not fat and have a very high metabolism and usually eat pretty well, people say my personality is great and that im very creative, ive even got half the school talking with words that ive created and people laugh at my humor and say im hilarious, and girls that i go for tell me im hilarious. but in the end, these girls never want a relationship. and i still cannot get a relationship to this day or even be happy for that matter... recently i have been smoking weed... by myself... every single night. its amazing to help me sleep with all my regrets and failures floating around in my mind...
and pretty much all of my friends either cant or wont smoke with me... so i just have tons of weed and edibles in my closet... and im dying to make some new friends but it is hard because im afraid of them just using my friendship for weed... is it normal or am i insane? any advice?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago | pl

    Nice guy syndrome

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    • fmlyhm
      11 years ago

      story of my life...

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Sounds like alot of your problems are tied to weed? Ever consider stopping?

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    • fmlyhm
      11 years ago

      yes actually i have considered stopping but i have serious anxiety and its hard for me to cope without it, i think i may be developing a dependency upon it as i have with my anti-depressants.

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      • ccjigsaw
        11 years ago

        It's the human condition to get dependant on anything. People can become dependant on another person even. It's never easy, but it's best to ease off of those things and try and be independant. You obviously don't have to, cause it'll suck shit until you're done with them completely, but you might find yourself being a more stable person without them. Alot of drugs do more harm than good. Anti-depressant are well known for this. Before you were on them you would be 100% better off than how you'd feel if you stopped taking them. If anything, maybe try to reduce the amount of pot you're using. I say try to ween until you are at once a week. Make it your Friday to look forward to or something. Exercise helps to, more than you'd think. One last thing; about your girl problem. If you've lived in the same place for a long time (city, town) it can be toxic! Everyone knows you so they don't see you as dating material. If you move to another place, go to college, or somewhere with alot of people your age, your chances sky rocket.

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      • Suomiman
        11 years ago

        Have you tried going to rehabilitation? Or possibly replacing weed with something else? Best of luck to you.

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  • Silentnight
    11 years ago

    Get rid of the weed. Its a major turn off.

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    • fmlyhm
      11 years ago

      the girls i hang around say that they don't see anything wrong with it and its not a turn off but if i was doing something like abusing pills or meth or something then it would be

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      • Silentnight
        11 years ago

        Honestly, if the girls you hang around with think its ok to smoke weed then theres your answer. They're idiots and don't deserve you. You deserve a good girl with a brain. Plus you said that you're a little insecure so you smoke weed. Weed makes people insecure. A lot of people don't know that. Try giving it up and believe in yourself. A confident guy is a sexy guy ;)

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  • AwesomeSauce1
    11 years ago

    Stop smoking, I'd say a lot of women don't find pot heads attractive.

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    • fmlyhm
      11 years ago

      or smoke more and completely forget about life until i ruin it completely by becoming a lazy bum then realise life is pointless like this then either turn around or kill myself... good idea right? :D

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    It is so normal, in fact, if there was a prize for Normalcy, you would have won it.

    I am being dead serious, too. Tons of guys have this issue. There should be a forum where you can all go to discuss this. Remnants of teen angst.

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    • fmlyhm
      11 years ago

      screw normality, im gonna be batman.

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  • LordHawHaw
    11 years ago

    Smoking weed daily before sleeping is no problem, many people do so.

    Also your problems will solve themselves. Many people are virgins and single at the age of 18. People these days focus too much and put pressure on them for finding a girlfriend and getting laid, but in fact you just have to let life run its course. Just relax, you 're not weird or something.

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    • fmlyhm
      11 years ago

      thanks... this does help, even though i feel helpless still... lol

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  • Thatguy777
    11 years ago

    If smoke up with you!

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  • pantaloonz
    11 years ago

    Ditch the weed, get to the gym asap.

    I actually believe your are not ugly or fat. But as everyone has said you will be.

    You'll find sleep after an awesome workout so much more satisfying than a pot induced semi-coma

    -Pantz

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    • fmlyhm
      11 years ago

      i do hit the gym... i go to the weight room every monday wednesday and friday, and have karate and kickboxing aerobics on tuesdays and thursdays... im sore almost every other day and i drink chocolate milk for a recovery drink. even though i am exhausted from working out, i still cant get myself to sleep.

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    You don't have problems yet, but you may become a fat, lethargic virgin if you keep going the way you are headed.

    Try Internet dating or something and yes, people will befriend you for your weed.

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    • fmlyhm
      11 years ago

      I have a fast metabolism and eat healthy and work out

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      • Justsomejerk
        11 years ago

        Says the stoner with a closet full of edibles.

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        • lolol555
          11 years ago

          Do you even know what a fast metabolism is?

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        • fmlyhm
          11 years ago

          have you ever thought i have so many BECAUSE i dont eat them very often? i made a huge batch and its been a month and ive eaten 4, and i usually only take about 2-5 hits off my pipe at night just to help me sleep.

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        11 years ago

        It won't be fast forever. Slow down on the edibles.

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        • fmlyhm
          11 years ago

          see my reply to justsomejerk above.

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  • Funkywabit
    11 years ago

    Hmm... So something just doesn't add up with your story... You must smoke more than a few hits from the pipe before bed .. Take my advice.. Lose the weed and just masterbate before bed..they call it natures Ambien! Also, you need to start hanging in new circles, not just the one from high school.

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  • TheShirtLifter
    11 years ago

    Everyone who said this is normal is wrong. It is not normal. Though a lot of people go through this (that is why everybody thinks it is normal). This is usually because of cowardice. You seem sane, so you know exactly what to do, the hard part is actually doing what you know will make everything okay for you. Screw up your courage lad and just do; don't THINK too much about it, just do. That's also one of the things that retrogrates people's lives. They look at something, think HARD about it (for so long) untill they see how insanely difficult or impossible it can be. Then they think it's logical not to try it in the first place cos it's not THAT important NOW - highly logical people. So yeah, there's nothing I can say that can help you get out of this that you don't already know (and you know this). Oh, and if you keep smoking weed, you will progress to irreversably thinking slower than you normally do (this is permanet). Again, not telling you what to do. *light-bulb

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  • TheShirtLifter
    11 years ago

    slightlystoopiid is underage for this site. *light-bulb Ö

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  • slightlystoopiid
    11 years ago

    i am in the same exact situation except im a girl and 17 so id day its normal, hopefully:)

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  • NeonLighterz
    11 years ago

    Get rid of the weed, kid.

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    • fmlyhm
      11 years ago

      Nope, chuck testa.

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      • NeonLighterz
        11 years ago

        Bake cookies. A lot better than drugs.

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  • pipinya
    11 years ago

    If these girls aren't wanting to get too close, and if no one wants to smoke weed with you, maybe these girls think you smoke too much - or hear that you smoke too much - and maybe that's the turn-off?

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    • fmlyhm
      11 years ago

      well with all the girls i know ive either hit the friend zone or gotten them to lose interest, i have like no more choices unless i meet a new girl which i think is impossible.

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  • Tehboss
    11 years ago

    dude don't worry about the relationship if you see an opportunity just kiss a girl don't think don't ask just go for it. at worst she will say no at best you get atm ;)

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  • Thatguy777
    11 years ago

    I'd*

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  • outlaw3365
    11 years ago

    Dude. Give priority to the babes instead of the weed. It's alright smoke it. But get a girl first. Oh and you r probably the one who uses weed to make new friends. So stop that too.

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    • fmlyhm
      11 years ago

      how else can i make friends? im terrible at talking to new people...

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    Dude, quite smoking weed, it's going to fuck you up, trust me. It's a bad cycle, doing it every night before you go to sleep is bad enough. Seriously just knock it on the head, it's pointless.

    Sounds to me like you're the classic 'nice guy'. You need to make a change in yourself so that instead of all these women viewing you as a 'nice guy' 'the funny guy' or 'a good friend' they see you as a potential bf etc...

    It's difficult to change I know, but start acting more sexual with women, touching them more, flirting more, being less 'nice' and more confident in yourself and your opinions. Don't be arrogant but don't be a pushover. Be a man. Hit the gym. It'll give you loads of confidence once you start to beef up/get cut. Follow some fitness channels on YT for advice. I recommend TMW % AskHodgetwins for relationship advice. Try and get into that 'bro' set of mind a bit.

    And seriously. Stop smoking weed!

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    • fmlyhm
      11 years ago

      i dont understand how it can fuck me up.. it helps with my social anxiety and insomnia...

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      • squeallikeasacofpigs
        11 years ago

        Read some science journals about it, or news articles quoting them at least, it honestly screws up with your mind over a long period of time.

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  • Guest_Dude84
    11 years ago

    You sound like you are insecure and you're trying to escape reality by smoking weed.
    I smoke weed too but that's not the way out, you're still fine but the way you're headed is not good, you will develop problems eventually and it will be much harder for you.
    So wake up, toughen up and live :)

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    • fmlyhm
      11 years ago

      its the fact that i realize this and see myself unable to toughen up that hurts the most.. i feel like a loser and a wimp

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  • LatinAngelBest-in-Bed
    11 years ago

    Do anyone have 'Love portion' for him?

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    • fmlyhm
      11 years ago

      A life without love is a life that needs drugs.

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