Is it normal that im 18 and im socially incapable

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Well my best friend used to go college with me, but he has moved to a uni quite far from mine. Its just recently that i reflected on my life and it turns out "woahh im lonely" lol. When i talk to ppl it seems im boring, i dont have any male friends, female friends...none cept online games where i chat and every1 likes me. i dont know what to do. i've been told to be confident, so when i go outside,my head high, walk like normal and bump my head to musik (ipods my only friend). I dont kno how to talk to people and plus i got an accent and i seem to stammer alot lately, i dont smile alot when im outside; i fear it mite creep people out if some dudes just smiling like an idiot so usually straight faced, i just feel if my life doesnt change soon im just gona miss out on life. Never had a girl friend either, on facebook i got friends but we dont talk, its all about numbers of friends on facebook as it seems lol. i just feel like a lowlife, and im confused so, yeh lol. >.

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  • nat200
    13 years ago

    Lol I sort of feel like I'm the girl equivalent of this

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  • PoisonFlowers
    14 years ago

    I'm not the best socially either :/

    Ollieo is right, you've gotta seek people out and find people you can talk to. That's the only way to get out of your lonliness.

    I can add you on facebook if you want. I don't know you, but most of the people I have on my profile are people I don't talk to anyway. Plus, you like music, so that places you in my "decent people" books already. Well, as long as you listen to good music that is haha

    Not having a girlfriend or a boyfriend isn't the big deal that people make it out to be. I used to feel all angsty about it, but I'm fine with it now (I'm 18 now.) There are bigger things to life and hey, what's the point of having a relationship for the sake of it rather than because you really like that person?

    Follow Ollieo's advice and I guarantee that your situation will change. Good luck!

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    • popbody11
      14 years ago

      Thx alot for the advice, really will try my best to turn this phase around.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    You really are bummed out. But you kind of had all your friendship eggs in one basket didn't you?

    Look lots of people move and know no one & are in your situation. So rather than beat yourself up, try to think what you can do to improve yourself, meet people and make new friends.

    You are not going to do any of that moping around with buds in your ears. Tidy yourself up, join some clubs, initiate some conversations (get people talking about themselves), initiate outings/gatherings.

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    • popbody11
      14 years ago

      your rite, ive gota come out of my comfort zone n just take a chance i guess, thx

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      • matthewkoehler
        7 years ago

        Si

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  • silly_person
    14 years ago

    you could try to envolve in community stuff that go on within your school or something..sometimes it takes some effort.

    i can say it because i was like that, two years ago. i was a really shy girl so, i decided to fight it and i applied for a part time job on a coffeeshop.i got it and i have been working there for the last two years, on weekends. it really helped me increase social skills and even self confidence, since i learned how to deal with people and how to talk to them..

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  • Shifter
    14 years ago

    Well i know how you feel! I was really close to this girl for years and then she got a boyfriend and i slowly stopped seeing her, i had some other good friends but those vistis got less and less also. So now im left realising all my friends have gone and im sat here wondering why. It seems they are getting on with their lives perfectly unlike myself. Makes me think they had a big effect on me but i didnt have any on them. I dont go out much anymore, nobody to go out with lol. I still talk to some people online but barely ever see them and when i do its never the same. So i tend to make excuses not to see them which just makes it worse for myself. And now im rambling and probs make no sense at all!

    The other thing i have noticed is, girls dont seem to like me, im a girl myself and the only people i really talk to now is guys 'cos girls just dont seem to bother with me, its kinda depressing. So yeah i can see where you're coming from, but hey atleast we arent alone in the word, we now know we aint the only loners lol!

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  • oquenbe
    13 years ago

    do you like........................write a story every 6seconds................i mean damn you need a new habit

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