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That i will never find someone that will love me and i'll love them back. Someone that i can spend the rest of my life with, im still in high school and im going to university in a few months, im worried that if i dont find that person there then i never will..
You're still very young and you have decades of sexual vitality ahead of you.
Do you somehow think your life is going to end after 25 years old?
Who/What made you think that you are not an acceptable person unless you find someone to marry and settle down with while you are still very young?
What makes you think that you are not perfect and whole, just the way you are?
Don't you think it's social conditioning that's been drilled into you your entire young life, that's made you believe that "finding the one" is your life's purpose? Have you been watching a lot of Disney or other media that makes you think that a woman's life is not complete without a life-partner?
Do you think there are any groups/companies out there that would profit from you believing in such a narrow version of reality? Would the government benefit from it? Would the jewelry industry benefit from it? Would the real estate market benefit from it? Would the wedding industry benefit from it? Would your religious affiliations benefit from it?
What do you think the benefits are of thinking that there is only one person, in a sea of millions, that is suitable for you?
Is it possible that there are many people out there who would be a terrific match to your personality and lifestyle?
To be loved, be loveable. I guarantee there are innumerable people out there who'd love you.
I kinda feel the same way. I'm coming to the end of my first uni year and I still haven't found anyone nevermind 'the' one. When it gets me down I feel like I'm running out of time but the only way anyone is gonna come to you is confidence. Just gotta keep your chin up and walk on :).
its when you dont look, thats when you will meet "the one". thats how it happened with me anyway.
First, there is no "the" one. There's a huge number of possible "ones" out there. Contrary to popular belief, there are no 2 100% compatible people, who always get along and always agree. The duration of the relationship always depends on how much sh*t each of you is willing to put up with.
Youre young, be more focused on school instead. Something will come along, meanwhile.
Most people don't meet "the one" when there in high school or college. In fact, a common theme nowadays is to focus on your career until your 30s, then settle down. I'm not saying you should do this, I'm just saying that your too young to be worrying about it. If your so stressed about it, you'll end up marrying the first person who has feelings for you, and they could not be the one for you. Don't worry.
Don't be in a hurry I tell my son all the time. It's alot of trouble having a relationship So young i know I been in one for 15 years there is something wrong all the time.
Don't look for someone.. They'll just come to you, it's fate. I believe.