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I'm a little bit overweight-- not grotesquely so, but a tad chubby. Whenever my long-term boyfriend and I have sex, or go swimming, I wonder if he's wishing he had some other slender girl. I'm very fit-- 60% muscle mass, but I have some chub on my tummy too.
Is this a normal thought?
Your hot, and your bf thinks it to, no doubt about it. Just love who you are :-)
If you ask me it's normal. My bf isnt fat at all and I'm not overweight but happen to have a little tummy and ask myself the same question once and a while. Once I asked him about and he laughed and said " I adore your body, it's beautiful just like every other part if you " I'm sure your bf thinks your beautiful despite what you think :)
Why don't you just ask him? Like ask him if he would like if you were skinnier compared to how you're now.
Well you know what I think...all these guys need to be a little more realistic. For one, are they Men's Fitness Magazine models? No? Then why do they get to be so picky and double standard-y? Lol. Secondly, what do they think that women stay looking like they are 22 years old forever? Do they want a trophy gf or a relationship? Be healthy for your body type and happy with yourself. Exercise and eat well for the health and mood benefits and don't get hung up about what other people think. Anxiety can quickly brew into eating disordered behavior, and no guy is worth being the impetus for something like that.
Plus...from what I know about REAL men, meat is for the man, bones are for dogs ;)
I know my bf wants a skinnier gf, hes a skinny guy. I dont know if he meant it, but he said before that if i didnt lose weight, he would dump me. Which is unlikely, since weve been together for so long.
But whenever he watches porn, hes always looking at skinnier girls...on the street to, and he makes it noticeable. Like he doesnt give a fuck.
Fucking grammer function in my brain isnt working. Dont get drunk and type.
Some really shallow and imature comments about this question.your boyfriend loves you the way you are, because if he didn't he would never have gone out with you in the first place. Don't listen to shallow people who think the only answer to everything is to lose weight. x
Don't even worry about! Seriously, someone could drive themselves nuts wondering what someone else is thinking. You're sexy, believe it.
He should like you for you. Also, you can't expect others to except you if you dont except yourself.
Its a normal thought! He should like you for you, but thats easier said than believed. I understand, been there. I ended up going to the gym and eating clean, as a result I feel more powerful and confident, there was alot of healing from exercise. I am not skinny, but I am tonned leaner now. I found that I was able to demand alot more respect, comfortably, from my boyfriend after as well - I felt more deserving. I wish my solution wasnt so skin deep, but ...... it was.
bodyrock.tv - webiste helped me
Yeah, I already eat pretty well-- I haven't eaten meat in years-- and I play sports a couple times a week.
Respect from him isn't an issue-- it's me wondering if he secretly wants a skinny girl, you know?
And honestly, a healthier lifestyle isn't truly skin-deep, its just that its benefits happen to show on the outside!
yeah your right. I do wonder if my BF wants a skinnier g/f from time to time too - especially when one passes by - he doesnt look, but I wonder. I watched this video about "the truth about size Zero" and it was crazy. I think most women (besides the 3% that are actually, naturally, size zero -ish) find it really hard to maintain the size zero. Being hungry all the time, for myself, would make me grumpy, I dont think my b/f would be with me for very long if I was always hungry lol :)
I'm not saying or implying that you want to be size zero by the way :)
What a wonderful and deep question!! We really need more of those at IIN
Most guys I've ever met have told me they secretly wished their wives or girlfriends were skinny like me. A lot of guys do want a skinny girl but what they can get they'll settle for as long as she's not a fat hog of a woman