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I'm gay and I wanted to know if it's normal that I wonder about anal? Could you comment how it feels to give anal sex and what it feels like to take anal sex. Thanks!
I'm female but have received anal sex. Advice to giving it is to go slowly, use way more lube than you think is necessary and prepare your partner using fingers or toys. DO NOT dive right in, there's several rings of muscle that can have them limping for days if you just try to thrust right through.
As for receiving, for the first few times it may be better if you're in control of the speed of the first entry, relax and try not to tense. Don't be afraid to tell your partner if you need more lube or if you want him to slow down or any other thing TELL HIM.
If it feels good, you have enough lube. If you feel kinda like you're taking a dump, you don't have enough lube (gross but true)
Also if you're bottoming try having a shower and cleaning a bit beforehand, or using an enema.
Same about lube and slow. It took me 20 years to get my ex-wife to do it and afterwards, that's all she wanted. So I divorced her (joke). ButI was strange cos because she experienced a different VTE of orgasm. As for me, nobody ain't every putting anything up my arse. Good luck to ya mate.
Great advice by quentari.
I'm a guy and have given a female anal a few times. MOST women are tight and you have to go slow and use lube as quentari says.
I have met one woman, a rather slutty fuck-hound, who was fast and easy to slide in, but I'm sure many had been there before me and she was well stretched and used.
I only have experience given it to women and to be honest it does not feel good. As far as having things put up my bum, well that does not feel good either.
Anal sex is kinky and people get off on being kinky. It hurts to receive it but that's the weird thing about sex; the combination of pleasure and pain when one is highly aroused can be strangely gratifying. When you're horny, it feels like you temporarily change into a ravenous animal.
You need to make sure that the receiver's bowels are empty otherwise it can be YUCK. Use a laxative suppository beforehand. Of course, always use a special thick condom designed for anal. Always use heaps of lube: special anal lube that's thicker than vaginal lube.
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