Is it normal that i won't date co-worker b/c of her akward body shape?

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I'm friends with this girl I work with and we occasionally sleep together. She's nice, cute in the face and also really into the idea of dating me, but her akward peachtree-shaped body is pretty unattractive to me. I feel shallow about it but it's a deal breaker. She has small feet and legs and no ass. Her upper body balloons out like a peachtree. I've often thought that if she had a different body shape I would date her. Is this normal?

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    It's a common thing among immature men.

    Sadly, you're going down a bad path. If you don't mature soon or at least remain single until you build up your self-esteem/confidence, you're going to end up settling and building a life with a woman you don't love emotionally and physically, but have to pretend you are for the rest of your life while ignoring women you actually do like or love.

    Basically, stop having sex with your co-worker and work on your self-esteem so you can ask out women you like.

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    • You_have_no_logic
      8 years ago

      So if a man finds a woman physically unattractive enough to date he is immature, but if a woman finds a man sort of attractive enough to pay for dinner but not enough to seriously date, I guess its just her preference.

      OP you aren't doing anything wrong. If you aren't looking for anything serious with this girl than you don't need to magically act like you do. She's an adult who is making her own decisions, if those decisions are to have sex with you, well have fun. You aren't her father and don't owe her anything.

      If she starts acting crazy (because she's having sex but not getting the "relationship") you need to drop her ass right away, its only downhill from there.

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      • Tealights
        8 years ago

        Tennesseepizzafreak
        @: wigz
        True, but I tend to think it's my confidence and lack of effort toward pursuing women I'm actually attracted to more than my looks, just based on what other people have told me!

        ^ This is one of the replies the OP made here. He knows he lacks confidence to pursue women he's interested in. You_have_no_logic, just because I'm a woman, and I find his behavior damaging to himself and those around him, doesn't mean I would refrain from saying the same exact thing to another woman if she was doing the same shit to some guy. Just because your experiences made you salty toward women, does not mean you can assume my view on men and women in general.

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        • Another_Account
          8 years ago

          Yeah, but I've read some of your other comments, its all related to empowering feminist bullshit. Which is fine, if that is how you feel. You have every right to that and I have every right to point out the double standard of it. If the modern woman wants equality she can pay her own way, if not than its all bullshit.

          Also making assumptions about how I am in real life is silly. I'll just leave it at that.

          OP can continue messing around with this woman if he wants, just because she willingly takes her clothes off for him doesn't mean he has some obligation to get "serious" with her.

          OP, don't worry about working on your self confidence, every different woman you get into bed is what helps on that. So keep doing what you are doing. Taking a woman's advice on self confidence is like asking a suicidal person what the meaning of life is.

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          • Tealights
            8 years ago

            Ugh, I feel you're just trolling because you disagree with my comment to stop fucking girls he doesn't care about.

            Whether you think my comments are feminist or not is your problem, but on the topic of this thread I've seen way too many men mess with girls they don't care for and trapping themselves in loveless marriages/relationships. If warning him about this possible outcome and advising him to build up his self-esteem so he doesn't settle means I'm empowering women, then troll on. If the OP listens to your advice, then I wish him the best of luck.

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            • You_have_no_logic
              8 years ago

              I don't care about your "feelings", I'm not dating you. I can also have an opinion on anyone's comments. Its not a "problem" as you describe it. It's an opinion.

              You called him immature, he isn't immature if he's having sex with her and not "dating" her. She's an adult who is willingly engaging in sex with him. That is her choice it doesn't come with strings attached or the obligation on his part to commit to her.

              I do agree with your advice regarding being trapped in a loveless relationship. I just fail to see how having sex with this woman is immature. In my opinion he is helping his own self confidence by getting this women into bed with him. It's her own fault if she attached "feelings" to it, especially if he hasn't communicated any sort of emotional connection at all. Now if he was telling her that AND didn't mean it, than I would totally agree and say he is being immature.

              Perhaps his description of her wasn't flattering, but he wasn't telling her that, he was telling a bunch of anonymous people online. I don't find every woman I see attractive and I am pretty sure you don't find every man you see attractive.

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  • SpecialAgentF.Mulder
    8 years ago

    Be careful with whom you keep your company sir. My past investigations have shown me people who disguise themselves, people who wouldn't hesitate to end your life.

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  • wigz
    8 years ago

    If you can only pull odd shaped women that you're not even attracted to, then your looks probably aren't any better.

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    • Tennesseepizzafreak
      8 years ago

      True, but I tend to think it's my confidence and lack of effort toward pursuing women I'm actually attracted to more than my looks, just based on what other people have told me!

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      • wigz
        8 years ago

        Well, you ought to get yourself together. You shouldn't be talking shit about this girl, that's really immature.

        Side question, who makes the best pizza in Tennessee? I'm in KY and haven't found a decent place yet.

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        • Tennesseepizzafreak
          8 years ago

          In Nashville I'd say Desano's (Neapolitan style) or 5 points pizza (NY style)

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  • SpecialAgentD.Scully
    8 years ago

    This is no Coincidence there are a lot of weird shape people out there or maybe he just does not think she is attractive and is using her

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    You just use her and that's OK, huh? You sir are no gentleman.

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