Is it normal that i wish i was a gay male?

I'm a girl. A very fashion-conscience yet entirely unfemine girl (e.x: I wear bow ties and cardigans, but never skirts. Ug.) and sexuality wise, I'm practically asexual, yet I always find gay men the most attractive. This isn't to say that I'm not looking for a relationship. I am. Just not of the sexual sense. So. Is it normal for me to want to be a gay male? And as a side note, does anyone think that a gay man could ever love a female-to-male person, or is love too chemistry based for it to work out?

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Based on 57 votes (33 yes)
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  • A gay man could love anyone. Just as a straight women can. Our future spouse isn't predetermined. I'm a straight male so I wouldn't know much about homosexuality.I think that you should do some self discovery here. You sound wise but don't do anything too rash. Maybe you should just be yourself. A lot of girls nowadays feel empowered to break the 20th century mold of what the model women is. At least that's what i believe.

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  • lemoncity

    I only want to be one at times because of yaoi.

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    If you want to be a gay man and have sex with gay males and you are a female I think you are probably a transgender female. Who happens to like pretty men.

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  • ModelDMJ

    .... No comment .

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  • Um anyway, you may want to seek out a good gender theraphist. Especially if you feel uncomforatable with your current gender identity. You know, I've thought about who I am for a very long time and have yet to come to a full conclusion as to what I am and how I identify. This can be very disruptive and stressful. I think it's just so hard to cope with being this way that I just don't want to and in the back of my mind I want to escape from being like this. It's probably because of all the negative hatred LGBT people get. I mean, if there were no outside pressure then I would have not even considered keeping it a secret. And I feel the lie just getting bigger and bigger inside me every day, hurting more and more. It's like having a tumor but not treating it, so it grows and gets worse until you take action.

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  • You could be a transgender guy such as myself. I just joined this site today. Hi! :D To be honest i'm only seventeen and still in the closet for my safety, so I have no idea what I want sexually. I think maybe i'm more attracted to girls than guys, or better yet I could form an excellent bond with a transgender woman. Transman+Transwoman=Perfect match!!! X] Gosh I hope I can find someone out there like that for me one day. I just feel like a transwoman would be able to understand my feelings so well, as I would understand them and what they had to go through as a kid. We would both face the same adversity and would pretty much be like Ying and Yang. And, you know, there would be um, *blushes* that other *cough* practical reason. Ahem, if you catch my drift. *wink wink* ;]

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  • AnonymousCanada

    its completely normal, im a guy and i wish i was a lesbian woman. so i think its normal. i think i could marry a man but have sex with women and not him and i would be considered straight because i married a man but have sex with women and its a SEXUAL ORIENTATION not a "marriage orientation" (hypothetically speaking of course. my sexual orientation is much more complicated than that)to answer your first question, yes its normal and to answer your second question, yes it is possible, you just have to find a gay man who feels the same way as you.

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