Is it normal that i wish i lost my virginity to another virgin

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So I'm 22 now and I lost my virginity at 19 to my girlfriend who wasn't a virgin at the time and I felt guilty about it after we broke up. She had sex with her previous boyfriend before me and she went back to him after she broke up with me. Now I really wish I waited for another virgin but I think it's wrong to feel that way because it's hard to find a virgin at my age (and some might say it's misogynistic) and I just wanted to lose it to get it over with anyways. To make matters worse I have 3 friends that all lost their virginity to another virgin and I'm kinda jealous of that. Idk it seems like it would be a good connection to share that special first time together. Ill probably feel insecure once I get into another relationship if I know she had sex with someone else or loved someone else. I mean I could get over it but I just feel like I missed out on something. In my head I also feel like well if we can't share that then maybe we can share other things like trying certain drugs for the first time together (softer drugs like LSD or DMT). I know that seems messed up but for some reason I want to share a "first time experience" with someone. Is this normal to feel this way? Sorry for the long paragraph

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    You're not missing out.

    When you find someone you truly connect with, holding hands, kissing, having sex and more would feel just freaking amazing. Even talking about tough issues in the relationship would feel so light and easy because you know you can tell that person anything, and they wont think any less of you.

    Virginity doesn't make a relationship any better, stronger, or more special. Though adorable it is to have your first with another virgin, adorable is all it is.

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    • Insaneinthememebrain
      8 years ago

      Thats true its just that I can be really jealous and I've seen relationships where the girl or guy will have lingering feelings for an ex or what if I don't measure up to past lovers and for some reason I just want to share something special or at least be equal in terms of experience so the relationship is equal. I got plenty of ideas of how I want a relationship to go and I wouldnt mind if my future lover is experienced if I was experienced which I'm not but for some reason I just feel sad that I lost a chance to have that special connection. Although I heard that is also the biggest heartbreak when you break up. Idk I just worry too much about things I guess.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    I lost my virginity to my first love and we were both virgins. To be honest I don't think you're being misogynistic at all!

    I'm sorry had a bad experience.

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    • deepdankstickygoo
      8 years ago

      All women are buttsluts. Even before they do the deed they will later become buttsluts. #slutshaming #victimblaming #richardgere!!!!

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        ... Richard Gere!

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  • mysistersshadow
    8 years ago

    I don't think your missing out I didn't lose my virginity to a virgin and it couldn't have been better. I think a guy that was all fumbling and clumsy would have just made the whole thing a embarassing train wreck.

    Kinda the same with the drug part I wouldn't want to drop acid for the 1st time with another 1st timer. Everytime I have done something new it was with someone that knew what it was like and could help me thru it if I needed it. I think it would be scary as hell to do something like acid with another newbie. You need someone that knows the walls aren't really melting to keep you calm.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Please explain to me the appeal of a couple of totally inexperienced lovers, fumbling around in the dark, trying to please each other without the slightest idea of how?
    Is there any other thing you would prefer to learn by trial and error, when you could have a caring friend and instructor teach you?

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    • derpyderp
      8 years ago

      An older, more experienced lover as it were

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      • Steve2.
        8 years ago

        42 years your junior.

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    • green_boogers
      8 years ago

      Young love is driven by instincts and passion. Don't you remember?

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