Is it normal that i was dumped by my best friend

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My best friend of five of five years and I just got into to the first fight that we have ever gotten into over a mix up in the planning of her wedding shower that stemmed from an honest mistake on my part and a miscommunication on hers. I thought that we would both argue a bit and then it would blow over, but instead she wrote me a long email pretty much tearing apart everything about me and informing me that I have been nothing but a negative aspect of her life and was ruining her wedding. I knew she was under a lot of stress so I apologized for any harm I had caused and said I honestly didn't know, but no matter how many times I tried to atone for myself she just kept coming back at me with more and more reasons I was a terrible friend. She then eventually told me that if I still wanted to be in her wedding party knowing how she felt about me she wasn't going to stop me, which gave me no choice but to step down. I'm pretty sure that our friendship is over and I feel blindsided by the whole thing because for years she had not once mentioned any of this to me. According to her I am even more wrong for not knowing. I don't know what to do. This hurts worse than any break up I've ever been through. I am pretty much writing for advice. This whole thing feels like one huge nightmare. I don't understand why someone would keep me around and make me their maid of honor if they feel this way about me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I like to eat squirel, it tastes like chicken

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    • UniqueOne
      11 years ago

      Because of people like you, i decide not to destroy my laptop :') << Fucked up crying happy face...

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  • CockMonglerTheGreat
    10 years ago

    "Is it normal that I was DUMPED by my best friend"

    "My best friend of five years and I just got into to the first fight that we have ever gotten into over a mix up in the planning of HER wedding shower."

    Did anybody notice that the title and first part don't mix?

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  • truelibra
    12 years ago

    All you can do is forgive her and move on with your life, because right now it seems like the only best friend she wants and cares about is her husband. If he doesn't fulfill the roll of the best friend that she envisioned or imagined then she might start to miss the missing piece and realize her mistake.

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  • Normallyabnormal
    12 years ago

    Thanks everyone for your kind words. This has been extremely hard. I had hoped that she would call apologizing for everything and that we could rebuild our friendship now that she had finally made me aware of the things that bothered her. That does not look like it's going to happen she took me off the wedding website, erased me from Facebook, and now none if our mutual friends are speaking to me. I'm just trying to appreciate the friends I still have and learn a lesson from all this. I guess I knew we were growing apart but I never thought things would end so ugly.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I was so stressed leading up to my wedding I fought with my sister in law and mother in law, to the extent that I told both of them not to attend! I don't think she means it at all. I think she is under so much pressure that she has lashed out at someone she knows loves her - like kids do to their parents and not their friends.

    If I were you, I'd send her a beautiful bouquet before her wedding shower if possible, apolgise again, tell her you still love her and hope that her new life will be wonderful. If that doesn't melt her heart then she doesn't have one, and you're better to move on :o) however hard that may seem!

    I feel so sorry for you but you can only apologise so often. Please let us know if it works out ok for you.

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    Wow that is rough! I truly understand how you feel. My best friend left me years ago and it still hurts! I know you feel baffled about how one little fight can turn into her not wanting anything to do with you. I'm still baffled to this day. I even have dreams where I try to say hi to her and talk with her and she won't even talk to me. It's so sad. I know it's really a hard situation but what can you do? Unfortunately I have only sympathy to offer not a solution. I think that you should ask her why she asked you to be in her wedding party if she has such a problem with you and try to patch it up one more time. If not it looks like you need time to heal and take care of yourself.

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    Wow, that really sucks. I don't know what you should do here, it is obvious to me that she won't want to be friends anymore, and she clearly refuses to be reasoned with. I am sure that in time she will regret leaving you, but to be honest, I think that you'll just have to try and move on. I can't see a way of patching up your friendship.

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