Is it normal that i was abused?

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I was sexually abused as a child (7 years old) by my oldest brother who was 13 and my middle brother who was 10. I just recently told my mother about it (I am now early 20s) and told her I just recently started thinking about it. I will not forget and forgive them any time soon. My middle brother laughed and encouraged it the whole time and my mom said she would have had them in counseling if she knew. She said he was caught with my cousin (we will call her Susan) before and that had went on for a while. I told my mom even though it was long ago I thought counseling was just a slap on the wrist and they were both old enough to know what they were doing was wrong and told her I do not feel comfortable with them around me because I'm temporarily staying at my mother's to save up to move out of state permanent for schooling. My oldest brother lives with us and she just said he won't always be there and that's all she had to offer. Is it normal to think that is just a slap on the wrist punishment?

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  • Nickvey
    5 years ago

    In the US we have abortion law that states abortion is legal for cases of rape and incest. Incest being so ingrained in our families we need a way to dispose of the babies. and you won't find a democrat that opposes having family incest, its why they need abortion. i accidentally married into a family that practiced rampant incest. and got the fuck out as soon as i could.

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  • EnglishLad
    5 years ago

    It is NOT normal to abuse anyone.

    It is absolutely normal to believe counselling won't do jack.

    Counselling is effective, but only if you have a willingness to act upon the advice given by the counsellor. It would appear that your brothers couldn't care less and think it was funny.

    If it was me, I'd go to the police, tell them your story, and press significant charges.

    I understand that you may fear the police, but the police shouldn't harm you and should take this case very seriously. The police's job is not to strike the fear of God into you, but rather to protect you from predatory behaviour.

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    • Omfglolrofl
      5 years ago

      The statue of limitations is 15 years in my state and it's been over 15. I looked into this heavily. I'm moving soon anyhow and plan on cutting ties to the family once I move. I didn't think of it much until recently

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      • EnglishLad
        5 years ago

        Irrespective of that, they should be able to keep you somewhat safe if you make your brothers' names known to the authorities.

        By all means cut ties with your family, as they don't have your best interests at heart, but this kind of thing can cause severe depression if you bottle it up.

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      • nikkiclaire
        5 years ago

        I am terribly sorry this happened to you. I know from experience how horrible it is.

        First of all, your brothers don't deserve shit. They are scum. Having said that however, is your goal to get him kicked out to the streets for the short time you are staying at home?

        Since you are moving and cutting ties do you really think it's wise to blow up the house?

        If it were me I wouldn't want to be near him either. I am just concerned that creating a big mess with people you hope to cut ties with, is probably not wise.

        Are there any friends you can live with? A shelter maybe.

        For me personally, I left my family home and even tho I was homeless for a short time, getting away, and doing it myself, was extremely empowering. I haven't talked with my family since and I am now established.

        Best of luck in whatever you decide.

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        • Omfglolrofl
          5 years ago

          Nah I just wanted to inform my mother that (I'm having a child and getting married soon) my child will not be around if they are present. That if I'm on the way with the child and find out they are there I'm turning around and going home. And I felt that this isn't something I should have kept from my mom

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        • Omfglolrofl
          5 years ago

          I'm not going to cause problems over it. Goal is to handle it as clean and responsibly as I can.

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          • nikkiclaire
            5 years ago

            Cool, and please understand I am only worried about whats best for you, not your piece of shit brothers.

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