Is it normal that i want to spend time with my boss outside of work?

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I have invited my boss to dinner at a nice restaurant. It was for a random boss appreciation dinner. When I first invited her she seemed really really happy about it. But she won't fix it on the schedule when we can have it. She's also suppose to help me figure out how to get insurance at her house the same day. And what plan to get because I dont have parents that can help me in that area. What I don't understand is for one were really really close. I confide in her about things and her with me. We have a close mother daughter relationship. But I asked her when we could go at least on 3 separate occasions and I invited her about 2 months ago she always talks like we'll do it the next week but still nothing and it's not that hard to schedule it that way. Im starting to think she really doesn't want to go. She does like the restaurant I picked. My feelings are kinda hurt because i also bought her a boss appreciation gift and a card I'll give her that day and I'm paying for dinner. I can't think of why she won't take up my offer. I could see if I was a guy but I'm a 22 year old girl and she's a female. Any thoughts?

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Based on 23 votes (12 yes)
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  • TimmyTheTurtle
    9 years ago

    my boss is female and extreeeeemlly fine.... i wanna take her out too.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Back off of her, because you're being way too pushy. If she doesn't want to go out to eat LET IT GO! Go into work early or stay late to pick out your insurance plan.

    Chill out!

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    I puts a lot of pressure on a boss to confide in them like parents, or close friends. That's why I always avoided being the boss.

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  • mike78
    9 years ago

    It's not abnormal; neither your feeling and appreciation to your boos, nor her reaction. I assume that it was accidental and she is somehow busy; it's a better way of thinking, isn't it?
    But if I were in your shoes, I won't invite her to dinner in near future. it's better to wait a little bit and ensure her that your after work relationship doe not have any influence on your office behaviors.
    Be positive! everything is in order.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Thank you. Should I just not bring it up anymore? What do I do with my gift? :'(

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  • Darkoil
    9 years ago

    Taking your boss out to lunch seems really strange to me. My boss insults me all day long and calls me gay boy, if I asked him out to dinner I'd never hear the end of it.

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