Is it normal that i want to spend more time with my boyfriend?

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I generally see my boyfriend between 4-6 days a week, and a lot of the time I wish he didnt have to leave. I suffer from clinical depression and when I'm down I rely on people and I feel better when he's around. He gets annoyed sometimes that I want to see him so much and for so long and often says he wants some time to himself or etc. This then makes me feel guilty as I feel like an idiot, knowing he needs his space.. Is it normal?

Completely normal. 85
Not normal. 16
No, you spend to much time together already! 34
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  • penguin10
    13 years ago

    Be careful, you need him a lot, but he won't be around at all if you're too clingy.

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  • thecoldhardtruth
    12 years ago

    I think your investing al ot of yourself into your boyfriend, and I don't really think that's healthy.

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  • LUDVELLOZO
    13 years ago

    WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE YOU WANT TO STAY ALL THE TIME WITH YOUR LOVE,THAN YOU ARE ABLE TO MARRY THIS PERSON.

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  • theonewiththehair
    13 years ago

    You're human, we all need people sometimes more than others. Talk to him about how you're feeling and try to surround yourself with more friends. Hopefully you can find a good compromise where you get the attention/support you need and he gets his space.

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  • ~L~
    13 years ago

    This question is quite stupid really.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    too much attention is a bad thing change your ways or your love story wont have a happy ending

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  • papertrail345
    11 years ago

    It's pretty normal that you want to spend more time with him than he does with you. But if you don't find a line soon and respect it, things will start falling apart. He may pull away or take you for granted and stop respecting/loving you etc etc.

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  • go-ahead-call-me-nerd
    11 years ago

    i feel the same way i anly see him at least1 hour a day it sucks i love him sooooooooo much and it hurts that i cant see him at much as i want well anyway its normal

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  • pixie_dust
    12 years ago

    being around eachother 'too much' is a relative term. if u both wanted to be together 24/7 it would be ok bcuz u both want to. the problem is when one of u wants to be together more than the other, which is what this looks like. don't be clingy, else he will get bored fast and.more than likely break up with you.

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  • Merkai
    13 years ago

    keep letting him know you want him around
    but most guys have rituals they must complete
    typically sports
    so try to avoid calling him over most days
    sure, it's Ok to ask him to see you
    but do it too often and it becomes a chore

    the best thing to do would be to either wait for or create an intimate sharing, like sharing secrets and whatnot, then just tell him you feel a lot better with him around.
    I'd stick around if I heard that

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  • rockhead
    13 years ago

    sounds like your really in love with him. give him some time alone, dnt call him or nothing, i knw its hard but make him miss you, and he'll be wanting you as much as you want him. its perfetly normal for you to wanna be with him so much, you must really love him

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  • mattc1221
    13 years ago

    sounds sorta like my girlfriend... i wonder... lol just kidding of course. im sure if u talked to him he would be ok with it

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  • Cookies&Cream
    13 years ago

    I sometimes feel the same...

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  • julia777
    13 years ago

    Yes, it is normal, BUT not wise/healthy.
    You appear too clingy, needy, emotional and that can be counter productive in a relationship. Be careful not to alienate him by behaving this way.

    Try and have a life of your own, where things unrelated to your bf makes you happy, go out with your friends, take a hobby, there must be something that you like doing which don't involve your bf.

    He needs his space, whether you like it or not, and by respecting that, you will win in the long run.
    Be strong!

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    • 53739
      8 years ago

      good comment

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  • Sickle
    13 years ago

    It's completely normal for you to want to spend more time with him, though, I would try to give him some space if I were you.

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