Is it normal that i want to see what my boyfriend's ex looks like?

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My boyfriend's first girlfriend cheated on him with his best friend. He hasn't told anyone other than me because he feels so humiliated, even though it was years ago. It worries me how he never talks about it and still gets mad when he sees her house or thinks about her, cause it just makes me feel he never got that closure. What I wonder is, is it normal for me to want to see what she looks like? The fact that he's so secretive about it just adds to my curiosity. I don't have any trust issues, and I'm also ok with my self esteem. Is it normal being so curious about her?

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  • lovelychick
    10 years ago

    yes im insecure and would need to see what she looked like just so im sure i look better

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Yes that's normak I woul be curious about her to.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Why should you care what she looks like?

    Sounds like you're insecure and jealous.

    If you really want to see what she looks like park outside of her house and wait.

    Pretty easy.

    If you're worried he's still in love with her or has feelings for her well he might but that's life.

    People who don't have any feelings for someone else generally won't mind talking about them and then moving on.

    Btw, how did he find out the slut cheated on him with his best friend?

    I hope he's still not friends with either of them?

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  • SRS_Boyholes
    10 years ago

    It's sometimes (most times) insecurity/jealousy, sometimes (rarely) it's fuelled by what I assume is hatred/disgust. Regardless, don't get caught up in the dumb slut. After you see her, you'll want to know more about the situation, after you know more, you'll want to know about their sexlife, and so on. It's not good for you, even though it seems it'll put your mind at rest (it won't; after you completely exhaust him of the info, you'll feel there's more) and he'll hate bringing up a part of his life he regrets and wants to forget. Basically, it's like a never ending "If you give a moose a muffin..." but with more loathing and tears. Don't go down that path.

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  • thesugarbitch
    10 years ago

    I think it's a typical reaction. And it's definitely normal to want to know how my exes previous girlfriend's looked like.

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  • Heyjj
    10 years ago

    Wow I'm in the same situation!! How long you two been dating?

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    • Nicky_27
      10 years ago

      We've been together for 3 years, and he broke up with her almost a decade ago. I understand what you're going through!

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