Is it normal that i want to know that she's interested in me?

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So I just went on a date with a girl that I met online though a dating website. She seemed really great online and I thought we had a bunch of stuff in common.

But then during the date it seemed like she only wanted to talk about herself the whole time. After a while I started to make really purposely vague comments to see if I could get her to ask something about me. But she never took the bait. It was a huge turn-off. I felt like she didn't really care who I was or why I was there. I wonder if she left that night knowing that much more about me than I had written on the website. She seemed to be enjoying herself though.

Am I being too picky? This isn't the first time this has happened. Is it too much to ask that she does something to show me that she's interested? I've been single for a long time, but whenever I have an opportunity like this I never feel like I can connect with them.

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  • ProseAthlete
    11 years ago

    She sounds self-absorbed and incredibly dull. You aren't being picky; she's being a jerk. You sound far too smart to waste your time on someone that shallow and self-interested. Throw this one back and keep looking would be my advice. :)

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  • Thatguy777
    11 years ago

    I know a girl like that. I actually used to be in love with her, but now I just find it annoying. She only talks to me about herself, and she very rarely wants to talk about me. It's a one-sided dead end relationship.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Sure.

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  • mixwell
    11 years ago

    You have a lot to learn if you haven't figured out by now that girls love to talk about themselves. You should let em and act interested. I also think you're worrying too much about her texting you late, it's no big deal and if she weren't interested she probably wouldn't have offered to text you when she got home.

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    • Lune
      11 years ago

      Noooo way, guys are just as bad. I've been on a few dates recently and I'm quite a bubbly and chatty person but the guys just wanted to talk about themselves and their lives throughout. It got pretty boring. At least I have IIN...forever aloneeeeee haha.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      It's not that she was talking about herself so much. That's fine and I expect that. And of course I'm respectful and genuinely interested in what she's telling me.

      But the issue was that when she was done talking, she didn't seem to have the curiosity to ask me similar questions. It was very one-sided, like I was giving a job interview.

      After talking for fifteen minutes about her family and where she grew up, you would think at some point she would come back and ask, "Hey, what about you? What's your family like and where did you grow up?" That didn't happen. When she was done she just gave me a blank stare and I had to ask her something else to keep things going.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    As she was leaving, she also said something like, "Oh I'll text you when I get home to let you know that I'm okay, I know that guys appreciate that." She lives about 25 minutes away.

    I ended up getting a text three hours later with something like, "Oh sorry, my friend called so I couldn't text you back when I got home but I'm fine." I think this was a stunt to try to get me to send her a concerned text, but maybe I'm paranoid. These kinds of games really push my buttons though.

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  • Polan
    11 years ago

    Give her second last chance.If you still feel uncomfortable,leave her.

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  • whatdoyoumeannormal
    11 years ago

    she sounds like a person who takes a lot of energy from people. avoid.

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  • Johnnytherat
    11 years ago

    that was me just trollin you bro get over it ^_-

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