Is it normal that i want to know my real father i just learned about

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So For the past 4-5 years I've been wondering if my dad was my real father. I would look around at his family on holidays & think "I don't belong here" "I have nothing in common with these people and I don't even look like any of them." I talked to my friends about it but they told me to just drop it & forget about it but I'm my mind it was there all the time. My godfather who has been there for me my whole life was becoming my best friend and the person I told everything to except about the dad thing. We texted all the time when he wasnt working and my
Mom and her bf didn't like it and always monitored everything me and him said and it it me
Suspicious. So when my mom went to Ohio with her bf and left me at home I went to stay with my sister and I told her about everything and she told me " don't you ever wonder why you don't look like your dad and why mom doesn't like you talking to your godfather?" and when I told her yeah and asked her about it she told me to wait til I was 18, but I'm way to curious to wait 2-3 more years so when my godparents came in town and I went to the vp with my godfather and finally got him alone I asked him out front and he told me the truth. He and my mom had an affair and I was the result but that only they knew about it but within months everyone knew and he wanted to be a part of my life as my dad an not my godfather. He wants to get a DNA test so I can have his last name and get all the benifits of being his daughter, because he is in the army and I have a lot of mental problems and get sick a lot. He and his gf want to get the DNA test and have me on vacation. I mean I love being with them & miss them everytime I go home because they live 4 hours away. Is it normal?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Your mother should of came clean about it to begin with. Now since she never told anyone about it, the man that raised you as his daughter is going to find out you're not his daughter, then have the biological father be marked as your actual father. Now the biological father wants to be your father, but can't due to you being raised with the man that raised you as a father.

    The two men are the ones that suffer here.

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  • hokisgurl
    12 years ago

    O wow that is one heck of a story! Your good with sticking with your guns but part of me thinks you have a dad that raised you He was known to you as your dad You do have right to know you bio father but i would be careful who you put faith in or automatic trust i did that when i met my bio father. I learned i have a dad that loves me and i put too much faith in some one that didnt care Just becareful. Take a step back and look at the whole picture

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  • ITgirl232
    12 years ago

    it is very normal

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    12 years ago

    Of course you want to know your real father. He is a major part of your genetic makeup and learning about him can teach you a lot about yourself. He can also provide you with a great link with your heritage. This being said, hokisgurl has a very good point. There was a father there for you while you grew up as well, he raised you, cared for you, and helped you through your tough times. If he was a good father figure to you don't ever forget what he did for you and try and "replace" him.

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