Is it normal that i want to keep trying with the same person?

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I've been "in a relationship" with someone for the past year and I always mange to get back with him. We only dated for 3 months but have been seeing each other often.
He has put me through a lot and makes me feel unimportant yet I always want to be with him and spend time with him because when he's not mean he's the sweetest ever. I feel like he's different and ill never find anyone like him again. Maybe I'm attached or maybe I just really like him yet I've only had a total of 2 relationships in my life, including him.
Is it normal to stay with him?

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Based on 40 votes (22 yes)
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  • rustybabboon
    10 years ago

    That you want to be with him is normal; he's alternatively holding your affections at arms length, then reeling you back in. This is a form of controlling you. Why? It doesn't actually matter. GTFO. But possibilities include [1] He may be debating breaking up with you (casting you out) and reeling you back in again out of guilt. [2] He may feel a loss of control in other areas of his life, and a need to control this relationship on his terms, to your detriment. [3] He may be a well intentioned but self-involved twit who needs to grow up and realize how his actions are affecting you. Truly losing you might help him see that. Might not. If it does, you may find later that he's actually datable. Right now, probably not so much.

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    • SofiaA
      10 years ago

      I moved on once because there was a point where we stopped talking so I realized I had to move on, he right away came crawling back into my life and hated the fact that I was moving on yet before I did he didn't talk to me at all. He is so confusing.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."
    Albert Einstein

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago

    I'm in the same situation almost exactly. He's so meaannnnn. I think us gals need to be single for a while and be strong about it

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  • kelili
    10 years ago

    Yes, it's normal that you stay with him and even more normal to question your relationship.

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