Is it normal that i want to hire a someone to help with my boyfriend?

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I have been going through menopause since I was 26yrs old. So My sex drive is just not there. Unfortunately my partner has an overly active sex-drive.
I want to hire someone to help me with my "wifely duties"... Cook, clean, help me organize and help with my partner. I don't know if i want them to have sex, just foreplay.
I want her to treat it as a real job and keep me informed of everything.

Am I out of line? Should I just deal with the uncomfortable, continuous sex and foreplay?...
He doesn't seem to grasp the fact that it's not him it's me.

It literally become an everyday topic.

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  • charli.m
    6 years ago

    Why are you with someone who doesn't respect you?

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  • CDmale4fem
    6 years ago

    Somehow you need to get it worked out to a result that is good for both of you. If you continue having sex when you really don't feel like it, don't want to, and have 0 sex drive - what do you th I k will happen ? My guess is you will start to not like when he comes home, start dislike him, then later, you might really start to dislike or even hate him for putting you thru stuff that you have no desire at this point in life to do. As for "hiring" someone to do your "wifely" things could be misconstrued as you looking for a prostitute for your man. But, have you tried, I don't know TALKING to him about what you posted here? I realize many men don't or can't listen, they feel no matter how she feels, she should do whatever HE wants, NO ARGUEMENTS. I say that's BS. Maybe if nothing else you could always just encourage him to enjoy the old standby of self gratification.
    If you had another female to "make out" with him and go no further, do you honestly believe he could maintain with a another female there half naked or fully and expect them to hit the brakes on "getting jiggy wit it" as Will Smith put it. Be careful, tread lightly, and hope for the best. P.S. You said "since you were 26" . How long has it been ?

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    • Mommyof2Az
      6 years ago

      5 years...and I have talked to him about it. He just says "it's just 5mins-10mins out of your day".

      Plus there are many other factors involved but I feel like he's giving me excuses so he doesn't have to be the one doing the work. Lol

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      • CDmale4fem
        6 years ago

        Or maybe deep inside he knows he treats women like crap, he knows it, and he's afraid he won't ever get another woman to put up with his shit AND do the work instead of him having to exert himself. Fuck that, tell him you just don't feel like doing anything for somebody that doesn't want to get up off his lazy ass and do to you and for you. He probably has a big ole' gut and probably 30-50 lbs overweight, and heavy smoker.? Am I close at all ? He convinces you to stay since he won't ever find someone to do all you do and not complain about it.

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        • Mommyof2Az
          6 years ago

          Lol no he's actually slim( 152lbs). No beer belly, and he doesn't smoke (does do chew pouches)

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  • TerriAngel
    6 years ago

    You need to get off your lazy ass.
    Take care of business.
    And stop being such an embarrassment.
    Going through menopause since age 26.
    Bitch please.
    I think what you mean is, you got so fat, lazy, n dull even you found you unattractive.
    Take care of your man.
    Or sure as shit you'll be on here a year from now asking why knowone loves you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Why did menopause start when you were 26?

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    • Mommyof2Az
      6 years ago

      The doctors had to take my ovaries because the were being strangled, suffocated...(pain is worse than giving birth)

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      • [Old Memory]
        6 years ago

        So you should be getting hormone therapy. I think you should talk to your GYN about your libido.

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    6 years ago

    Where would you find someone to do all that? You can hire a maid to do the cooking/cleaning, and you can hire an escort to help with the sex. But I doubt you'll find someone to do both.

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    • Mommyof2Az
      6 years ago

      I was going to try putting an ad up...

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      • CDmale4fem
        6 years ago

        Just be careful how you word it when it comes to the sexual stuff.

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  • Checkmate_King
    6 years ago

    If your vagina's not up to it work on your blowjob skills.

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