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I am in my late teens. Not necessarily the fittest, but i do believe I have likable qualities. I just get nervous around guys, and I don't know how or where to meet them. I want to be in a compassionate relationship, but I'm going to stay myself and wont change. I just guess I'm insecure about how guys look at me. Is it normal?
Men don't tend to factor in weight as much as you think they may do. I never look back and think, "Wow, I've had some girlfriends who were overweight" nor would I think it about a current girlfriend. It's just not really an issue.
I know it sounds like a cliche but I fall in love with personalities. I like the way people are. I can't understand why anyone would have a relationship with someone hateful but who has an attractive body.
As for you, being open and approachable is liable to work. Being insecure isn't a problem but the way people sometimes deal with insecurity (by hiding behind it and becoming spiteful or complicated) is. Making a joke of your insecurity is often kind of charming.
Good luck with all, by the way. You don't come across badly at all and I'm sure you'd make some lucky guy a great girlfriend.
definitely normal girlfriend! you seem awesome, and trust me, theres a stigma on overweight people but the truth is guys really don't care as much about weight as we think they do. you just have to get out there and not be shy and the guys will start to flock to you. if your weight is an issue that you think you need to deal with personally then there are things you can do to fix it. but definitely don't change who you are just so guys will like you. good luck!
Definitely! Just because you're overweight doesn't mean you are not allowed to be attracted to anyone. So you're normal in that respect.
No need to be insecure - loads of girls are - normal in that respect.
I think you'll find that people are more judgemental on someone's personality than their weight (although that is a huge - see what I did there - factor in many men's decisions), but if you feel like you're being rejected because of your size, lose some weight. You've got nothing to if you lose weight - except a few pounds - see what I did there. Think about it - you're saving your medical bills because being fat is unhealthy.