Is it normal that i want to have a baby, but pretend i dont when asked

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I dont know why I pretend I dont want children when someone asks me if I do. Ive gone back and fourth a lot about having children for awhile and im 26 years old, been married for 2 years and at this point in my life ive decided that I do want have children, but when I am asked about it I am like"no way, I dont want any" and I just laugh. I guess it makes me uncomfortable because you have to have sex in order to have children, and to me its like im talking about my sex life with these people. I think answering the question of "when are you gonna have children?"to family is the most uncomfortable and I retreat into myself like im a little kid who was just embarrassed and then I wanna just go hide. I dont know why this is such an "unatural" topic for me? Sex and children are part of life and are completely natural, but I act like someone just asked me exactly what me and my husband do in bed. This is how it feels for me and unfortunately a big fat lie comes out of my mouth. Is it normally other people's business and family business when it comes to having children, or am I just not normal?

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I don't like the fact you say, you've went back and forth a lot about having children.

    Be VERY VERY sure you want one coz you can't send it back once it's changed your life completely!!

    Borrow one for a while so you lose any fairytale notions you may have.

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  • scandinavia
    12 years ago

    There are a few aspects to this... either you just associate having a baby with sex and believe me, that is not what people think when they ask you! I can however understand it's an uncomfortable question for some, but more because not everyone can have children...

    Maybe you should change how you give your reply, like maybe say "we might have some in the future" this way you are not saying yes or no... Besides it saves people thinking you had an unplanned pregnancy when you do fall pregnant, and if you for some reason have problems getting pregnant people wont know either....

    Relax about it.... and dont feel uncomfortable about your sex life being exposed, because people wont ask what positions are best way to concieve :)

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    • Dad
      12 years ago

      ok I couldn't have said that better.
      Well said.
      Oh, I have nothing else to add, I think scandinavia covered everything.

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  • Ibelievethis
    12 years ago

    If everyone thought like that the population would come to a shuddering halt, and there would be trillions of embarrased people in the world (myself included as I am a mother) having sex or making love is as natural as going to the toilet and certainly not something you should ever be embarrased about x

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  • SassyFrassyLassie_old
    12 years ago

    You could answer them with another question:

    "Why do you ask?"

    They might discover how invasive they are being. It's really none of anyone's business.

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    • dappled
      12 years ago

      Good thinking, Ms. Sassington. :)

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