Is it normal that i want to end my ldr for a normal relationship?

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I'm very young- only 18. My long distance relationship just became official and it has been going strong for about a month. My parents just found out, and now we can only talk if they listen in. I have still been secretly calling/texting him from bathrooms, but it's not exactly why I want to be doing.
Also, I have spent this week with my cousin who is my age, and I have found myself becoming more and more jealous of her "normal" relationship. It's not so much the lack of a physical relationship as that I don't like having to sneak around and lie to my parents.
My boyfriend doesn't think there's a problem; he doesn't want to give up on us. I care about him very, very much and if he lived here I would continue dating him in a heartbeat and there wouldn't be a problem. I don't want to give up so soon either, but I don't know if I'm strong enough to support this tough of a relationship. We have never met in real life. He was planning on visiting this summer, but now he can't because of my parents.
So, is it normal that I want to break up just because I want a normal, real relationship that my parents will approve of, like my cousin's?

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Based on 55 votes (44 yes)
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  • BlueJeansWhiteShirt
    11 years ago | pl

    First of all, you are 18 and your parents still have to interfere with your romantic relationships? Aren't you old enough and responsible enough by now?
    Secondly, you have never even met your boyfriend? It's a bit risky. How do you know if you have that important physical spark or not?
    No offense at all but I can't see stuff like this working. But yes it is normal for a human being to crave a normal, physical relationship. That's why internet things never work out, it's just creepy and for people who can't get a date in real life. It's basically fantasy. You never end up meeting, trust me.

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    • VioletTrees
      11 years ago

      I thought that about their parents, too. It's really inappropriate for them to be listening in to an 18 year old's conversations.

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      • BlueJeansWhiteShirt
        11 years ago

        I know. My parents have never listened into any of my conversations, ever.

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  • EccentricWeird
    11 years ago

    I have no fucking idea what these slang abbreviations are supposed to mean, so fuck your cunt.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    Why dont you just tell your parents? What are you dating a serial killer? If you are and KNOW you are maybe you just made a bad choice.

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  • Mlopez0718
    11 years ago

    Tell them to stop being so gay, you're 18! Privacy is the least they could give you. And skype at least to make sure its not a 48yr old creep, I personally think ldrs are kind of a a cock block but if you're committed to it, why not? Although if you're having that much of a hard time now just end it because it will get more difficult if you wait and your feelings for the guy grow stronger.

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago

      Why are you using the term gay in this context? Totally meaningless

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  • oliveyou
    11 years ago

    I voted no but I really meant yes

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  • TheBunnie
    11 years ago

    The fact that your parents will only let you talk to him is if they listen in pisses me off. I understand that they might be trying to protect you, but that's just a little too nosy. I can definitely say it's normal if you may consider breaking up if in exchange you can have a relationship that's with someone you know in person. I used to date seriously online and nothing really good came from it, really. I met people that I thought were really cool but there was always this longing to meet them that I could never fulfill. It was just too difficult for me to achieve at the time. I'm glad I didn't though because I ended up meeting a perfect guy for me soon after in real life. He's better than anyone I could have met online... Most of the people I knew on there were liars anyway.

    You should give it some time and thought before you make any sort of decision. But as I said before, it's very understandable as to why you'd envy your cousin's relationship with the situation you have right now.

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  • Unicron
    11 years ago

    What makes you think your parents will aprove of a real relationship?

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