Is it normal that i want to elope?

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Here is the thing, I'm deeply in love with a great guy who has proposed, the problem is I don't want to have a huge wedding. I just want to eloped and start a new chapter of my life with him. He, on the other hand, wants a wedding and I don't know what to do. He is excited to be able to see me walk down the isle toward him, and I just want to elope and get the wedding thing over with. Is it normal that I want to elope, and skip the fairy tale wedding?

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Based on 23 votes (20 yes)
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  • chadams
    12 years ago

    I don't blame you. Why spend thousands of dollars on a party for everyone else. Use that money on a honeymoon. You can elope and still have a nice walk down the isle wedding. Explore your options I'm sure you can find something that works for both of you.

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    • charli.m
      12 years ago

      Totally agree with you on the waste of money thing - though I reckon putting money towards a home is a better option.

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    Well, talking to your husband would help. However, maybe you should go along with the whole wedding idea. I mean it doesn't have to be dragged out, it could just be a two hour ceremony, as opposed to the 7hr one's I've been to.

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    • charli.m
      12 years ago

      7 hrs??? That's just the ceremony??? My god...I'd walk out. I've only been to one wedding...the ceremony was about 1hr20mins...but the first hour the bride was stuck in traffic, so that doesn't really count I guess...so 20mins. Easy. It was still very fairytale, though.

      I totally agree with what Anime says, though. Explain why you don't want a big fuss, then compromise with a small ceremony, maybe just family and a few close friends? Save your money and your sanity.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    We paid for our wedding coz we were both working - we wouldn't ask anyone for anything, it's not their wedding! Each set of parents bought us a present, one a dishwasher and the other an oven.

    Be happy!

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    • Its_Called_Love
      12 years ago

      Yeah, from the start we knew we'd being doing it all ourselves. Our families are in a bit of a feud. We'd never ask them for money either, I think we'd both feel weird about that.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Don't have an elaborate affair - just close family and friends.

    Please don't elope, my brother did, it broke my parents' hearts and none of us will ever forgive him for not wanting us at his wedding :o(

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    • Its_Called_Love
      12 years ago

      Well, both of our sets parents aren't thrilled about us getting married. Thats why we have to pay for the whole thing...

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  • Its_Called_Love
    12 years ago

    Yeah, thats what I had been thinking was the total waste of money that would be. Our parents don't really approve, so whatever we do have will be paid for by us entirely. Plus since I'm moving half way acrossed the country to be with him, the church would really only have people his side, because I don't really know anyone there.

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  • chubbawubba69
    12 years ago

    Big weddings are overrated. I spent a ridiculous amount of money on our wedding that was over in one evening. We would be much better off if I would have put that money into our future.

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