Is it normal that i want to dress up like a man but i'm not a lesbian?

This is a bit complicated, but basically the problem is that I have a vagina, and I do not feel like I should have a vagina. The only reason why I don't really want to get a sex operation and become a guy is because I like men. Essentially, I have the mind of a gay man.

I've had minor problems with my gender since I was young, but now it's getting kind of out of hand now. I feel terrible when people refer to me with female pronouns or when they say my name out loud, because it's a female name(it's not Ellen, by the way, I'm not stupid enough to use my real name on the Internet).

My friends often call me a girl and put a lot of emphasis on that because they know it annoys me. For them, it's only a small harmless thing, but they don't understand that it actually bothers me a lot. I never told them it was that big of a deal because I also have problems with expressing my feelings.

Sometimes I just want to cut my breasts off with a knife. I've thought about doing it a lot in the last few years, but I won't do it because there's a chance I might bleed to death and, well, I don't want that.

I know a lot of lesbian women want to become men, and I understand that, but I've never heard of a straight woman wanting to be a man, at least not in the way I do.

I know this is kind of a long post, I'm sorry. Also, forgive me for any grammatical mistakes I made, English is not my native language.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    I used to be in a similar position...

    I always hated being a female. I was always a tomboy and could not relate to girls my age and I saw their femininity as a sign of weakness or being boring. Later in life, I came to realize that I was dealt a pretty decent hand despite not being able to pass off as a guy no matter how I dress or wear my hair - I'm decent looking, feminine looking but I possess many male qualities. I never bring up my gender feelings in real life conversation so it means something to me when it is pointed out as examples made by Psychology professors to classes that I am textbook definition androgynous so at the end of the day, my feminine appearance and masculine qualities help me. I did not accept this until a couple of years ago.

    I'm telling you this to tell you that it will get easier for you once you get to know yourself better, if you haven't already. Do what you need to do to learn to accept yourself and not feel guilt for the body you were born in and ffs, tell your friends to have some damned respect.

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  • Brownblowout

    Just go with the butch look...handsome
    Better with a moe haircut

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  • green_boogers

    Wear men's clothes, especially underwear.

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  • Arm0se

    If a man can cross dress an not be gay, why not a woman?

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  • CDmale4fem

    I am a guy and I, even right now, am sitting here wearing a bodystocking a red dress over it, with bra and breastforms. From the experiences I have had over the years, society is much more accepting of females in male clothing as opposed to males in females clothing. It really seems to me society will accept just about anything w4w, w4m, m4w, m4m, lesbians, gay men, BUT Majority of Society seems reluctant to try and even look past, or just beyond someone that society deems different. To many people worrying way to much about other peoples lives that have entirely nothing to do the worriers life. It took me about 35 yrs to get to accept me as I am. I dont apologize for who or what I am. If it bugs anyone- too fuckin bad.

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  • CDmale4fem

    Nothing says you have to be a lesbian to dress like a man or in mans clothes. Im a guy and I dress up in female clothes alot, and I even like myself when I do

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