Is it normal that i want to break up with bf but can't?

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I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months... At first I was crazy about him. Then I realized we had little in common, he started blowing me off etc. he is always pressuring me to do drugs or drink. Also because of his excessive drug use there are sexual problems.....Even his "friends" warned me that he is a disrespectful jerk and to be careful. Anyway obviously I really want to end it. The problem is that I just can't do it! I love his family cause they are so nice. his siblings are so great and I don't want them to dislike me cause I really bonded with them. I also know that he is a nice guy inside and I don't want to hurt him! I just can't do it. I mean he can be really sweet and he has his nice moments... I keep hoping he will break up with me but he won't and also i know it will really really hurt him if i end it thats the worst part. Ugh I just don't know what to do! I want to break up with him but I can't! Help!

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  • Sailor_Cosmos
    11 years ago

    The longer you wait the harder it will be to leave him. You are not doing him or yourself any service by staying in a relationship that you are unhappy in. Do yourself and him a favour and leave asap. It might hurt him a bit now but it will hurt him that much more the longer you wait.

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  • kamilion
    13 years ago

    dmmode is right. the longer you continue to stay with him the harder it will be to break up with him. you aren't dating his family or siblings. if they are as cool and nice as you think they will still like you and not care if you break up. (unless they need you to be with him some reason they wont care, why would they.) break it off.

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  • DMMode
    13 years ago

    The longer you stay with him, the harder it will be and you would be stuck in a situation where you are not where you want to be. This will happen if you dont act on what you really want to happen.

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  • Livxoxo1214
    13 years ago

    I think that is completely normal! Many girls and women get scared of loosing the person all together if they end the relationship, or scared they will just hurt the person. I would just explain to him that you care for him and his family and would still want to carry on as friends and who knows maybe in the future you might grow back together again if he understands how you feel. I have had this problem many times and unfortunately i always chicken out and have a friend do the hard work for me! Don't be a chicken do the right thing!!

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  • wreckd
    13 years ago

    Just tell him exactly how you feel. If he doesn't want to straighten up a bit then its his loss. He'll probably break up with you for even trying to get him to changeee.

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  • xxxbeautifullybrokenxxx
    13 years ago

    I finally did it... He took it much worse than I expected. He won't even talk to me :(

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  • kamilion
    13 years ago

    and, btw you're not going to really hurt him if you break up with him. unless it affects him in an actual way where it affects his life. if he is emotionally unprepared for a break up, that is on him not you. it doesn't mean you're really hurting him.

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  • Sabaky
    13 years ago

    Normal you should talk to his family and then to him about his behavior

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  • Black.Berry
    13 years ago

    I agree,is it normal to comment w. Such lack of respect...where do they do that at?and to you ms.I am experiencing the same exact relationship!but my bf say he will kill me..very scary because yours have an addiction...god bless you

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Ugh for fuck sake this is not an advice site dont you get it? this site isnt for helping others out with their stupid relationship problems. This site is to ask if something is normal or not and no I dont mean the questions that are obviously normal but the questions that make you have to think if iots normal or not. Your relationship is your problem if you want to get advice then submit this story into a advice site not this one, Moron.

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    • wreckd
      13 years ago

      Why do you care so much? This isn't your site. The people who own the site let the question through. If you have a problem, go to them. Moron.

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      • [Old Memory]
        13 years ago

        Because there arent other sites like this but there are 100 other advice sites out there but will people go to those sites? nope because they prefer to think that "their" relationship problems arent normal even though every single one of them are completely normal. Your calling me a moron for expecting a website to be used the way it was intended to be used? ah welldone The irony of this is that you called me a moron, Moron.

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