Is it normal that i want to be married with a family at 19?

Sure it is normal to have those wishes and desires, but I do advise you to wait a bit, maybe to your mid twenties. It is a BIG step and a LOT of responsibility.

I have never heard anyone say that blacks are more spiritual than whites, though I have known some wonderful black people that I really loved. I would advise you to hold out for a person of your own race. I am sure there are some fine white Christian guys and that if you wait and pray that God will direct you to the right one. Inter-racial relationships can be fraught with difficulty for all concerned, especially the kids. Think twice before you go that route. Times have changed, but not that much!

I get what you are saying. I used to want to get married soooo bad. Now I just want to have a baby really bad. But I am not going to go around having sex like those girls on Maury. lol.

But honestly, I think this is normal. You are a girl and a romanticized life, like a story book. Most girls secretly want that.

Sweetie, you'll never get married if you don't put out.

free country

wow.
ok.
so.
im 19 and im not about to get married
and im SERIOUSLY glad im not a virgin...
so were opposites.

and also, who would want to marry a white christian man? boring. and kinda racist.
you should love for love, not race, religion, or anything else like that.

You should wait until you're financially stable and emotionally stable. If you get pregnant by a significant other try to marry them before the baby is born. It's not the illegitimate argument that I care about, its that if you are married it prevents him from running out on you and drying the child is his. It would be easier to get child support from him.

I know people who have. However not all of those marriages lasted.

It depends on the country you are in.
In some countries, teenage years are adulthood.

uhm how do i put this nicely?
1.Just because you don't believe in something doen't stop it from existing e.g. gravity i mean you can not believe in it and you'd still fall flat on your face from walking around with a bible on your nose.
2. I know 1 was pointless to point out but don't take me seriously i mean you put this out on a poll for buddhas sake.
3. a fact that blacks are more spiritual? please dont ever generalize people ever again okay. I mean, it's just plain rude to assume things like tht and call it fact :(. And i mean a nice white christian dude?! Honest to buddha What the fucking hell!? move out of america and meet new people.
4. On to some real advise. What are doing now? Are you living where you grew up? or the next town over? A different state perhaps? Well pack your bags and move. why? Because you don't even know yourself yet, How can you possibly? The best way to find yourself is to live for at least a few months or a year in a completely unfamiliar ground. Why? Because you are so young! These wishes and desires change! You are a child! I am younger than you c'mon! Liv your life before even trying to settle down i mean you have nothing to settle down from! You are 19, not even in your twenties, how can you possibly be sure this is what you want when you will be 20 or 30 or 40, Because you cannot trade it back once you got it. nd seriously! Move out fucking america and meet new people and learn that non christians are (smart) nice! Okay! again dont take me seriously, You did post this on THIS website afterall :D

the white christian part is definitely kind of racist but I'm uhhh... younger.... than you (not that much but my age shall remain un mentioned...), and I can't wait to be out of school and be able to start a family of my own.

I've got a few issues in that area too, I wouldn't say its abnormal, but you need to think about why you feel this way, and know that you are not the only one in this situation.

I grew up with no father, I'm close to my sis, and cannot stand my mum and I just want to hurry up and have kids and live in a happy family so that my kids can have the life I never had, a father and be close to their mum. It is almost like I'm trying to fix my life by helping out someone elses. I guess that could mean a good thing but to have kids you need to make sure you are emotionally stable and are doing it for the right reasons and with the right person.

It also seems like you have sterotypes towards black people (I do too) but remeber it isn't always about the nationality, because every neationality have their baddies and goodies, so try and find a man based on what is best for you.

But if you want kids go ahead, it is your life, just make sure you can look after them

It's completely normal that you want to get married but I think that you shouldn't marry yet. You must decide if you really want it because it will be too late if you will marry someone you barely know or love. Especially if you find one of these badasses men who pretend to be nice and then force their wifes to work all day when you get married. I don't know if I made any sense here but all I wanted to say that you neet to concider it more and don't be desperate that you won't find anyone.

I think it's normal, but reality would be very different. It's nice to think about what you want your life to be like, but remember, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. x

i want that. and im a guy at 17. it isnt that odd. maybe to the general public. but who cares what they think. and whats wrong with blacks?. and you can believe in god and not be a christian.

yeah at 19 your biological clock is ticking like a time bomb, better get a husband and a few kids fast!!!

Thats great, the sooner you marry the younger you will be after your divorce. This way you will still have a lot of life to live when you are free again vs. being 45 and newly divorced.

uh, what's premarital sex? ; it sounds reeel technologicall...!

aandd..well my mom was married at 19. she's cool with it! and she had me at 20. which is purdy fast! buuutt, i honeslty think i'd be fine with getting engaged at 19! not married :)

Why do you want a white guy? That's kind of racist. You don't sound like you'd make a very good parent, I'd hold off for a little while.