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Since I was a little kid, I always wanted to be a girl. I always liked all the pretty clothes and high heels girls got to wear. I want to be able to wear make up and get my nails done.
How normal is this??
I have always wanted to be a girl, at least that is since puberty. But before Puberty, I, in common with all other lads of my age we were glad that we were not girls, as we considered them to be rather weak silly giggly creatures.
But after puberty, for me at least there was a complete reversal, I found that I desperately wanted to be a girl, I was bitterly disappointed that I had not been born female. What had I done wrong ? Was I being punished for something done in a previous life ?
There were a number of reasons why I wanted to be a girl. 1. They are much more attractive than boys. 2. They have lovely smooth skin. 3. They have beautiful hair. 4. Their complete overall body shape is far superior to ours. 5. Their clothing is far better than ours.
My number 1 fantasy was to wake up in the morning, and find that in the night my body had changed into that of silky smooth girl's body, and that I could now wear female clothing. I would have two lovely firm well rounded breasts, and down below I would have two smooth lips, instead of that male appendage hanging down between my legs.
In fact I would rather like the newfound need to have to sit down on the loo in order to relieve a full bladder.
This last requirement reminds me that at an early age I discovered my submissive nature. In fact whenever I saw an attractive teenage girl, every fiber of my being cried out, "Beat me, beat me,please beat me".
For some strange reason I cannot explain I wanted so much to suffer at the hands of the sex I so much wanted to be.
Those reasons you mentioned reminded of this fantasy I have that I would develop the girl's features you mentioned at reasons 2, and 4, but still be a guy, not a tgirl.
When you said "Beat me, beat me, please beat me" did you mean physical abuse or as in beat me off?
it is totally normal! dont worry about it. do whatever you want to do , be whoever you want to be. x
I'd rather be a boy. You can pee standing up. Its so much easier that way. And i can walk around shirtless.
I was a tv for a long time then went off it.
Would still be a woman if i had the choice but it is not possible.Getting clothes no problem not in england anyway just go to normal shop or charity shop the latter are good because fitting rooms are unisex
Okay, reality check. Unless you are like 6' 5", you will get hit on. Horny guys are not very selective. If you are even close to passing and you like to dress sexy, you will have to deal with it. In order, probably the two most important priorities are your personal safety and your happiness.
There is a whole list of things to pay attention to, to dress up successfully. How you walk, how you talk, your makeup, manicure, everything. Basically it all comes naturally, but eventually you figure out that less is more. If you think you might be overdoing it, you probably are.
Probably the most wonderful part of transition is that most women will welcome you with open arms. I am still not quite sure why this is so, but I think they are basically happy that we cast our vote for them. You will come to treasure the closeness of women that you could never know as a man. Your future girl friends will give you the best tips on how to dress up. Just stay safe.
Just keep in mind that when you go out dressed up, if you are passable as a woman you will get hit on by straight guys, especially if you look good. Those Steve Maddens do work, lol! It is very validating to get hit on, to be treated as a feminine object of desire. But you need to avoid the temptation to deceive anyone, as well as thinking about your own safety. The feminine magic is powerful. Good luck with it!
Aaugh! I wish I could help you. I was a teenager when I realized I had a permanent problem, that I would simply have to deal with sooner or later. It took another 20 years of repression and self-destructive behavior before I finally moved out to Southern California, to find a progressive tolerant community, and finally face the issue and deal with it. I hope your path is shorter, more joyful, and less lonely than mine. I finally got where I needed to go, and I do not regret any of it. But it was far more traumatic than it should need to be. I hope your path is easier than mine was. The destination is wonderful, keep that in mind. :)
I really hope so too :)
I love being gay and I really hope I could avoid that self destructive behavior part lol
I'm already comfortable with being honest with my closest friends and it's really helpped ALOT :)
and now I'm thinking about finding a guy or girl that would love me for me.
do you think there could be a girl who would like the real me? ;]
I think it depends on the individual, I certainly do not consider myself to be qualified to give relationship advice. I have only ever had intimate relationships with G-girls, although I have had T-girl friends who wanted to go further with me. I have always kept it platonic, but that is just me. But I think for an MtF TG person to have a lasting intimate relationship with a G-girl, she would have to be bisexual.
Love is just hard. I envy people in happy marriages.
thanks :)
but if i do want to get girl clothes
how can i get them?
i think i'd be awkward if i just walked into like victorias secret...
The internet is your friend! You can buy anything online if you have a credit card. Victoria's Secret sells online, as does every other successful retailer of women's clothing, cosmetics, etc. You may have to send something back every so often when it doesn't fit, but you can get anything you want.
And once you are good at dressing, if you can pass as a woman you can walk into Nordstrom or wherever and buy whatever you want. You are a customer to them, if you spend your money in their store they will treat you like a princess.
What if I don't have a credit card?
and I would love to be treated like a princess :)
and I recently went with a friend to a mall :D
I got some skinny jeans at forever 21 and some Steve madden heels
thanks! (:
One of my most joyful moments was when my niece took me to a salon to get our nails done, as a Christmas present. It was sublime.
It is the year 2010, and transgender people are accepted in our society much more than ever before. So don't be afraid, you can be who you want to be. But you should still seek professional counseling, so you do not end up putting yourself in danger.
Your feelings will not go away, in fact they will probably intensify over time. It is a part of you that you cannot get rid of, but in fact it is a wonderful part of you. I am sure you know what I mean. However it can lead to your destruction if you are not careful. You have to manage it so you can survive and thrive. You can do it!
Yes, it is normal. I am sad for you, because I know what torture that can be. Girls do have the opportunity to do so many things that boys do not, just because it's culturally acceptable. You may have these desires because you relate better to girls and have been denied the opportunity to express it. Perhaps you are gentle and sensitive. DO NOT feel shame. Be open and honest, and don't be afraid to experiment. You only live once. And girls' clothes ARE pretty sweet! :)
I take it you are physically male. If so, you have gender dysphoria. You should see a therapist who understands this issue. But basically, take a deep breath and go for it! You will be much happier in the long run. Good luck!
It's called gender confusion. Not really abnormal, there are other people that have the same issue and have even switched genders later in life. Go online and research the stories of other people that have gone through the same thing, maybe you'll learn a little about yourself.
Personaly I've always wondered what it would be like to be a chick myself and have even gone as far as crossdressing in the privacy of my room. This is mostly just honest curiosity on my part and not full blown gender confusion...also I get a dirty rise out of it, but I'm a perv anyways.
You on the other hand seem to actualy want to be a girl, or perhaps you are just really into women's fashion or are just gay. Do some soul searching and learn all you can about it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with the way you are.
Either you are into cross dressing or you have an innate feeling to actually change your sex. I feel you're just a cross dresser by what you said in your post.
You're normal :)