Is it normal that i want rid of her?

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Is it normal? I guess I have to start off by saying that, but really, i could care LESS if it's normal or not. I need advice.
I'm married. I love my husband more than anything. He has a daughter.
I want tips on how i can turn my husband against his daughter and make him not want to get custody of her and not want to see her, and just be with me only and be happy with just me and him alone. Oh, and i want to look all innocent whatever i do. i'm not going to bad mouth her or anything negative.
but i need to do something effective.
And before some of you smart a$$es even start, let me tell you, do NOT waste your time typing negative things to me or saying i'm a selfish evil b*tch, because i will only ignore you. I'm just hoping there are other women out there who feel the way i feel that can give me some advice/tips!
I want real help, i dont need the negative comments!!!!! so dont bother!!! I love my husband and want him allll to my self, and i want to have all of his undivided attention!

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psychobabble

13 years ago | pl

My stepmother did that shit to me when I was a little girl. I have no relationship with my father and my son has no relationship with his grandfather. You are right, you are a selfish bitch and I hope your husband is smart enough to rid himself of YOU!

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deepthought33

13 years ago | pl

Maybe you should just kill the poor girl. It is obvious you're going to put her through a living hell. God forbid you make a connection with another living being.

I'm sorry...you don't deserve him. If he REALLY knew what he had gotten himself into he wouldn't have married you. You won't be able to hide your true self forever. This girl is his flesh and blood. You may find a way to get your way for awhile, but in the end he'll wise up--and he will choose her.

I'm glad at least that you know you're in denial and know how horribly selfish you are.

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Echoes

13 years ago

You have a GARBAGE soul.

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Crazy4All

13 years ago

I sincerely hope that there is no one who has any advice for you...

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almostunreadable

13 years ago | pl

Yes I have advice for you: It's "I COULDN'T care less", not "I could care less" as you wrote.

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- [Old Memory]
  
  13 years ago
  
  that id confuse me abit cuz she emphasized it aswell... and still got it wrong XD..... man stepmilfs r always evil
  
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beerlover123

13 years ago

Women like you are the reason why a lot of guys think all women are bitches.

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maybenot678

13 years ago

WHAT A BITCH, my step mother acts just like u and most fathers wud die for their children so u shud just leave him

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CountryRoads

13 years ago

Is this fake?
You sound like a total crazy.
How does it make you feel that your boyfriend fucked another woman, and made their daughter? Is that why you don't like her? Insecurity and jealousy?
Ew. You're gross. You sound like you'll end up like a lifetime movie, one of those homicidal desperate women.

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chichi55

13 years ago

You are mean I have 3 kids and if you were there stepmother I would claw your eyes out.

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- [Old Memory]
  
  13 years ago
  
  then after chichi55 empties your sockets i will have to shit in them!
  But srsly i know you said you didnt want to hear any of it but you dont deserve a husband if thats what you try to do behind his back, i hope he finds out or that you gain sence.
  
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- sleepingbeauty87
  
  13 years ago
  
  and if u were my step-kids mother, i would already have them turned against you and take them away from you... JUST to make your life a miserable hell,because you're such a bitch ;)
  
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TrickOrTreatX

10 years ago

I think you need some serious help. Like. REALLY serious help. Something is wrong with you. Have you been this insane whole your life?

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Daralia

11 years ago

Royally fuck yourself bitch.

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one_guy

13 years ago

I'll tell you one thing you'll always come in 2nd. I suggest if you don't feel happy about his daughter get out. You already knew he has a daughter. Trust me he's not the only out there. Even thou it feels like it. It'll pretty much be next to impossible.

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- sleepingbeauty87
  
  13 years ago
  
  Actually , i don't agree with that. I appreciate that you answered me without being an, (what is it that the rest of these people are? oh- right..) asshole..i really do appreciate it. But , he has even told me before out of his own mouth, (and i would not lie) that he loves me "JUST as much" as that kid. In different ways of course, but just as much. I know him, just trust me, he couldn't live without me.
  
  And to everybody else...you know what? I think the "novelty" or what ever the heck you wanna call it, of having a kid wears off A LOT as they grow up. it's not that special. wow. you have a kid. omg thats so amazing...NOT. Kids are like puppies. They grow up, then they're not cute anymore. I'm the love of his life. So to be honest, she can't compare to me. she's an OBLIGATION. a RESPONSIBILITY. a CHORE. Do you people see the difference? He HAS to put up with her. He PICKED me. See? And i'm sick and tired of his nosey mother constantly making little comments to me and talking about the little girl and my husband, calling her "his baby". it makes me sick! I'M his baby ;(. oh well, it's not him that says it, its his mother. nobody means as much to him as i do....and i know it ;-)
  
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  - therugbyguy96
    
    10 years ago
    
    Okay hun listen whatever you think, he loves his daugther she means the world to him (she means as much to him as he does to you). Just imagine if someone was trying to turn him against you and how that would feel (it doesn't feel good this girl in my fourth hour is trying to turn my girlfriend against me and love is love in whatever form (and yes I do love her because I feel twards her the love I have twards my team, my dad, mom ,stepdad, stepmom, and brothers only difrent bcus she's my girl). Honestly if you love him (as you claim you do) learn to love all the things that make him happy (ie sports, beer, his daugther, etc.). Trust me when she's older and moves out you're going to have him all to yourself be patient. If you truely love him then you want him to be happy right? Just learn to love when even other things make him happy. You're not a bad person, you're just jealous, but as a wise man once said "your love is still immature while you want the other person to be happy only because of you but wen you want the other person to be happy no matter what that's when you'll know you're fully in love". Well that's my advice (maybie not exactly what you're looking for but I guarentee its what you needed to hear)
    
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  - IRonMan78
    
    8 years ago
    
    Actually, you are at most the third love of his life. That is if you exclude his mother.
    
    His first wife would be the first love of his life, his daughter the second, you my dear are third.
    
    You are third. Deal with it like a human. I am a divorced guy. If a woman I loved said I had to give up my kid for her, she wouldn't have time to pack before I threw out the door. My children will always be my children. They are in their thirties, and yes they are still my kids.
    
    You sound like you have Borderline Personality Disorder and only have relationships that benefit you in some way, disregarding the feelings of anyone else who may be affected by your actions.
    
    He picked you, yes, but he can always throw you back. She will ALWAYS be his daughter. Any real man wouldn't put up with what you are doing.
    
    You aren't his baby, you are a prostitute.
    
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psychobabble

13 years ago

We're acting like total assholes????!!!!! Only an ignorant, shallow, shell of a human, such as yourself, would act like this! How the hell do you think people are going to feel about it?! IGNORANT! IGNORANT!! IGNORANT!!! You're one of those people that the world would be better off without!

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yohanne

13 years ago

you know what your like a demon!!!!!!!

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[Old Memory]

13 years ago

Take care of the girl. Be nice to her. Really nice! Then your husband will Love you more and spend more time with you. It'll take its time, but it's a very safe way to get him loving you more and more.
You're cruel, but at least you know you are.

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- sleepingbeauty87
  
  13 years ago
  
  thank you so much!
  SEE, THATS the kind of advice i need.
  
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RawrzMmm

13 years ago

leave the poor girl alone, I don't understand why people like you exist...

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randomjelly

13 years ago

Please die.

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so_damn_unpretty

13 years ago

...and i thought I was a needy girlfriend...all I can say is wow.
BTW im glad you mentioned you didnt want negative comments... that sure was effective.

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sadtruth

13 years ago

Here's some advice, get a plastic bag, put it over your head & breathe deep! That should solve your problem!

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Dawn

13 years ago

I gotta go brush my teeth, u just made me puke.. Ur gross inside, and probably out.. That's why ur so insecure.

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harrypotters

13 years ago

It sounds like you have extremely low self condfidence, and cant' stand your husband having any other women in his life. Even if it is his daughter get more mature and gain some self condfidence isntead of taking out your issues onto his daughter.

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richardbturgid

10 years ago

You have a terrible attitude. This girl needs her dad. Do you want her to end up becoming a whore because she didn't have a dad?

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CornedBeefAndCabbage

10 years ago

I realize this is an old story but I really hope your husband found out how conniving and selfish you are and left your ass! Don't you dare try to make that girls life miserable by trying to turn your husband against his own daughter. He needs to be in her life, as she needs to be in his.
You should be glad you're married to a man who wants to be there for his daughter. There's a lot of men (and women) who pawn their children off to the other parent.
Why do you not like this child? Is it because she's the result of him fucking another woman? As someone else already asked.
Did you have both of your parents growing up? Did they love you? Or did they not pay much attention to you?
I'm just wondering if all of the attention you want from your husband and the jealousy you have towards his daughter/ another being, has something to do with your childhood. Because no adult should be THAT jealous over a kid. You should be welcoming her into your heart, not trying to get rid of her.

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Ilovetea

11 years ago

I see why you might feel like this but if u can't live with his daughter u can't be with him. don't stop a girl seeing her dad please

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Singingcutie4

12 years ago

I think that if you truly love him you will be able to put up with her.

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Hooviva

13 years ago

Love the demons, love you. If you love your husband then jolly good, that's a normal step towards responsibility. A little 'demon' here: a 'demon' is a person, not a spirit, and it's not a 'demon', it's a daimon.

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[Old Memory]

13 years ago

Biaaaatch!

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[Old Memory]

13 years ago

Very, very ABNORMAL!
Go get some psychological help.

Rejecting a child (like how you have) that you are supposed to be a role-model for, is akin to neglect & abuse - that is why you continue to post your stupid plight and you keep getting a boat-load of negative responses.
Stop being so stupid.

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hotmama50

13 years ago

if you give him a choice it's gonna be his kid!! good luck. selfish selfish selfish!

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- sleepingbeauty87
  
  13 years ago
  
  we'll just see about that!! hehe! to him, and in front of his eyes, i am the SWEETEST, most innocent, kind, caring person there is on the face of this earth! and i'm gonna make him think i absolutely love his daughter! and u know what???
  he's gonna love ME for it! when she grows up and gets out of the "cute" stage, the newness of her will wear off anyways! he will always be in love with me! he's crazy about me!
  
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amili

13 years ago

Get over yourself

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bleach_baby

13 years ago

You should watch Audition theres a woman like you in it

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- sleepingbeauty87
  
  13 years ago
  
  oh thats REAL nice..........
  whatever.
  it's not like i'm KILLING ANYBODY for god's sake! you people are so stupid!
  if i were planning to murder her or somethin i can see you getting this upset! but i just want her out of our lives! errrrrrr!!!!!!!!
  
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- sleepingbeauty87
  
  13 years ago
  
  really? what kind of show is that?
  maybe i'll watch it. maybe i can get some tips from her!
  
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tori

13 years ago

Well,.......
Nope.....nothing comes to say.

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Hooviva

13 years ago

I'll help the evil unselfish people. Stop wishing the selfish woman to feel horrible. How would you like it if you were unselfish and I said "I would curse you evil step-mother"? If you're going to take a dislike of a woman who loves her husband and wants to do something for herself, get a life! We're not here for you! We're here for liberty and peace, in Australia and anywhere in the world.

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crystal43920

13 years ago

No its not fake and u need to re-read my response since u apparently didnt understand it. God sum people are straight retarded!!

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beastiessister

13 years ago

To be honest you are a BITCH but there is no point in rubbing it in and it's a good thing about not living in deniel about it. But about the dughter problem. Take time to get to know her and she may start to grow on you. If not than your still gonna have to put up with her. But there is no need to worry she probly wont move in with her Dad because Children mostly only move if they feel they are in need of a new start so if your nice to her you shouldn't have a problem. You make me sick but i still wish you good luck! ;)

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kricket

13 years ago

Wow, that's kindove weird. You must not get ou much.

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alv1592

13 years ago

you're saying you're jealous of her because you want him all to yourself? that's ridic..she's his daughter. the only person he loves romantically is you. you don't have to love her, but she lives with you, so you at least have to tolerate her.

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- sleepingbeauty87
  
  13 years ago
  
  That makes sense actually. I'd never thought of it that way before. Yes, you're right, "romantically" i'm the only one he loves. but sometimes i still cant stand that he has this kid! and i know that he loves her as much as he loves me (in different ways) but i'm really jealous of attention and stuff like that, so sometimes i just want him *ALLLL* to myself ;( hah. makes no sense, huh?
  
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crystal43920

13 years ago

I can completely see ur problem. My husband works 5 days a week and i get to see him maybe 3 hrs a day out of that week because the weekends he goes to his moms and visits his daughter. I fucking hate it, she takes time away from me and my husband and I wish she didnt exist at all! I wont attempt to say anything bad about her either, but I wouldve really rather have him all to myself as well. And as for all the other comments, I have children of my own but I dont let them get inbetween me and my husbands social time at all. Its not that I hate kids I just wish he didnt have any. He once told me she was a mistake that he didnt plan on having a kid, I so wish that he wouldnt have ever! ALL U PEOPLE NEED TO STEP BACK AND LOOK AT IT FROM HER POINT OF VIEW AND MAYE THEN U WOULDNT BE HARASSING HER ABOUT HOW SHE IS A BITCH!

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- IRonMan78
  
  8 years ago
  
  Well spoken from another narcissistic wench!
  
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heather49

13 years ago

I understand how you feel, and personaly I don't like the idea of have kids too..
But, she has a life, and she has the right to choose her dad if it is the best for her. And also, if he gets her custody, again she is alive, and wont have a healthy life if you keep not liking her presence.

I don't know how to do that, but you probably can get some problems, not only with your husband, but with justice...

I would say "you can shoose another husband but she can't choose another dad" but I'm not going to say nothing more about it, 'cus I don't know how much you want him. (I also don't like the idea of marige because of these and other kinds of problems.)

So... I haven't said nothing that metters yet... 'cus if it were me... maybe I would think of leaving him..., or at least just get away the enough to not have to take care of that kid.
But you want him. So... I would say it is not possible in a honest way. Cross your fingers.

If you want to be honest with him, talk to him and tell how you feel, carefully, so he won't react badly like the most people here. Really carefully, opened and honest, 'cus he will mesure all your words while you talk about his daughter.
Good luck..

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- sleepingbeauty87
  
  13 years ago
  
  thanks for not acting like a complete, total ASSHOLE like ALL THESE OTHER PEOPLE heather. thanks alot.
  
  oh, i'm determined, no matter WHAT that i will have him. I'll have him the rest of my life or die trying. a stupid kid's not gonna get in the way of that. i'll just keep my fingers crossed, and PRAY that when she gets old enough she wont pick her dad to live with!!!!
  God pleeeeeeeeeeeeease!!!!?!!! ;(
  
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  - TrickOrTreatX
    
    10 years ago
    
    seriously. You're pure crazy. I can imagine you're that kind of person who spit on puppies in your free time. Why don't you love your husband enough to let him have his daughter too? To me it doesn't even seem like you love him. It just seem like you want to own him. You are a pathetic cold person who don't deserve love. I truely hope you will burn in hell.
    
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Is it normal that i want rid of her?