Is it normal that i want out???

I married my wife almost three years ago at age 21 and she was 26. Along with the marriage came stepchildren. Since then we've been at odds. Seems like she always does what's best for her at the moment and not the marriage. I've tried several times to work it out but now I'm just tired. And I want my life back. I feel like this marriage has sucked my youth away. Literally. My last straw was when we went to the doctor and he basically told us that she probably wouldn't b able to have any kids. That hurt me to my heart. Who doesn't want to have a kid one day? After all that I've been through and the kid problem I'm ready to walk. I just don't wanna b so hasty to divorce. Is it normal to want out of this?

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Based on 48 votes (36 yes)
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  • This s why you should actually think about these things before you decide to get married.

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  • Marriage is viewed as "dating" by more and more people in this fucked up world that we live. People enter into it prepared with their exit strategy at the least sign of a dispute or a lifestyle inconvenience. And, many do not realize what the WEIGHTY financial responsibilities of marriage are and how it can effect one's credit score... Many still agree to the lines: "...in sickness and in health....for richer, for poorer....'til death do you part..." while fully intending not to honor any of the vows.

    I'm single b/c I will never be one to enter into SERIOUS matters lightly. You were once single and had a chance to remain so. You entered into your situation voluntarily, I assume. The only reason that I would ever agree to marry some guy is if I loved him more than life itself. Nothing less would do. And, if I loved him that much, we could work around infertility problems like pursuing artificial insemination, a surrogate mother, or adoption. As far as step children go, you knew what you were getting yourself into before you tied the knot. Now you are complaining about your situation on the Internet to absolute strangers.... Consider your life, dude.

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  • BoredGuy

    Leave her, I would too.

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  • dachocolatesuperman87

    First and foremost. I wanna say that I love her very much. I don't wanna leave her solely because she can't give me a child. We've had some major issues happen that would make a man wanna walk away and never look back

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  • dachocolatesuperman87

    Well she's worn her body out. Uterus is bigger than normal now and tilted. The doctor says that it's bad

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  • Bellapro

    *It

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  • Bellapro

    Why can't she have more kids when she's had them previously?

    I don't know what to suggest, sometimes people are too hasty to end a marriage without really working at it. Maybe you both should go to marriage counseling. If might sound silly to some, but I'm married and if I thought we needed counseling I would do it.

    Only you can decide on which path you need to take.

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  • rayst

    We're not in 1950, marriages are almost meant to end early, there's ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong to wanna end a downing relationship

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  • SweetSherry

    To be honest you sound miserable in your marriage if you're not happy why not just end it its not normal to be in a relationship where you feel so drained you have to ask strangers on line for advise the fact that she can't have any more kids would probably give me a violent push out the door I can't imagine not having kids sounds like you feel the same way that's what happens when someone gets married too young you probably didn't get a chance to be a 20 year old however you're young you have a chance at happiness with someone who can give you a child that's my opinion but sure many pro marriage people will make you feel like a douche for wanting to end it

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  • MrsBailey9

    *are not ate! Lol

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  • MrsBailey9

    Dude, go back and re-read what you posted. Now, are you serious? You really want to throw in the towel this fast? Why did you get married to begin with? Let me ask you this... Is she your friend? The best relationships that last the longest are built on a foundation of friendship first and foremost. If your marriage is about sex and children then what do you talk about? What do you do together for fun? Think back to when you first met... The feelings that you had then, should still be in your heart. What about your step-kids? Do you love them? If you leave your wife, you ate also leaving them... You are young, but you got yourself in this "mess", before you just "leave", you need to do some work and try to get back on track. Don't give up so quickly, it isn't fair to your wife or the kids...

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  • randomjelly

    You'd leave your wife because she can't have more kids? Yeah, leave her. She deserves better.

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  • 8Serene8

    Not everyone needs to have a kid in their lifetime.

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  • flax

    You sound angry and frustrated. Maybe sit down and look at the pros and cons - realty, you shouldn't be in an environment that makes you unhappy.

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