Is it normal that i want my wife to use a strap-on on me?

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My wife and I have been together for about 4 years and she is very sexually... for lack of a better word prude. I would really like her to use a strap-on on me however, she is not receptive to the idea. I have brought it up a few times and she asks "are you sure you're not gay?" I am sure, I have no sexual attraction to other men and I have only ever been with women and only want women (not that I'm against homosexuals just not my style).

Also, I am into water-sports but she is resistant there too (however do to much persistence and choosing my focus she is starting to give in a little.)

I just don't want our love life to become mundane or routine and I like to spice things up a bit be it though role reversal, water-sports, or mild (extremely mild) BDSM. I think our love is special and should be protected and kept fresh.

Finally, this is real so for the asshole that will ultimately say "fake" or "troll" you are wrong.

My question is is this desire normal? I would do anything for her and can't understand why she won't/can't accept that I am sure enough with my sexuality to admit what I like and know who I am.

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  • Maid_in_Pink
    12 years ago

    The desire to keep your sex life fresh is totally normal, but I agree with the other posters, asking her to do something that just might not be for her is something you might just have to let go of. She may open up in time, but from my own personal experiences with this situation I can say that even if she says go and does it once it doesn't automatically mean she's on board for future romps either. And you need to be prepared to accept that you may get a taste and a tease and then have to just walk away from it when she decides no.

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  • wonderpussy
    12 years ago

    There's an Irvine Welsh movie with a scene all about that. I forget which one!

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  • Alison89
    12 years ago

    I don't know if it's normal or not, but if you were my man and you said you wanted me to use a strap-on on you, I'd put one on and give you a good pounding. In fact, I might even grab you by the hips and smack you in the ass and tell you you'd better like it. Why? I'm like that.

    At the same time, if it isn't her bag of tricks, it just isn't for her. You can't really blame her for something she's not into. She can't be something she's not.

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    • Maid_in_Pink
      12 years ago

      LoL, i'm all for all of his comments, I've begged and pleaded and bought like 4 different strapons trying to get my xwife, then wife to do something she did...twice, and we talked about it A LOT and she was totally into it and everything. She actually came to me with the idea many years ago and now I'm sitting here reading this post going DAMN IT why couldn't my wife have been more like that!

      Also his suggestion that you only go farther down the rabbit hole is true..I didn't think I'd ever be into things like that, even the thought of using handcuffs was a putoff to me, but here I am, I've been tied up, gagged and blindfolded and enjoyed it so much I came before we even started any of the sex stuff. it was a bit awkward just being tied up and suddenly cumming without anyone touching me and only happened once, but it was like...Well... obviously I enjoyed what was going on.

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    • countrybumkin
      12 years ago

      where do we find girls like you? and for the creator of this story it is perfectly normal anal stimulation is an amazing part of sex once you relax and find someone comfortable with it it will be the best sex ever. unfortunately there is that stigma of "are you sure your not gay" so most women will never find a mans G spot

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      • Alison89
        12 years ago

        I'm sure I have a million flaws that you wouldn't like. I think you just hit on an area that I would be more open-minded about.

        I've never dated a man that was into anal play, but if I was asked, I'd try to help out as long as he didn't want me to lick it or something. That actually would gross me out.

        I do kind of like the concept of domination and submission, not from a full-on dominatrix role, but more of a subtle take-control kind of role.

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        • countrybumkin
          12 years ago

          a million flaws seems a little exagerated, also i like to think of flaws as a manufacturing fault, what you have are differences which is something far more beautiful. especially sexually. you can not ask for anything more than open mindedness in any form of relationship, just being prepared to try one thing may lead to the next which is what stretchs our boundaries and makes sex more exciting every time we take these steps. embrace these differences. as for subtle dom and sub, this will only last for a while before you start to extend the boundaries until you are fully chained to a ceiling somewhere being whipped and gagged in a gymp suit, but that may be a few enjoyable steps away yet.lol.

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