Is it normal that i want my screw buddy to call?

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Ok, so I met this boy at a party around Halloween, and the first time we ever met I was dressed as a ninja turtle in a really skimpy, slutty, skin-tight duct tape dress which is TOTALLY not me. He was really nice and friendly to me the entire night, we danced and talked and drank together, and eventually we hooked up later that night. We stayed up the entire night cuddling and talking and kissing, and then eventually in the morning when we were both completely SOBER, we had (amazing) sex. He ended up coming to see me a few times after that, and we would chill for maybe an hour or two before getting straight to (sober) sex again. We never really talked at all in between these visits, which I was OK with because the visits were quite frequent. Then I drove to see HIM, and we hung out at his house for literally like half an hour before we got right to fuckign again, and we boned for about 8 or 9 hours straight. It's been about two weeks since then and we haven't talked much at all, and he was supposed to come see me last night but bailed with no explaination. I don't know why, but I'm really pissed off about this. The sex is amazing, and he's a really nice guy, but we don't really talk or hang out as much as we have sex. And don't get me wrong, the sex is amazing and I really do enjoy having sex with him and I don't really want to stop, but for some reason I don't seem to be OK with JUST having sex with this person, and I don't seem to be OK with not talking to him or knowing what he's up to. I feel sort of...grimy. Like I'm just a booty call (even though he's told me several times how much he likes me and misses me when I'm not there...) But at the same time, I don't want a relationship with him just yet, because obviously I don't know him very well. So I feel weird expecting anything from him. But I find myself wishing he would call me to talk or just to see how I'm doing or tell me he misses me, but I don't know why because we seem to be doing fine just as bone buddies. I really don't want to screw this up with him by asking him to call me or commit to me, but I'm afraid that if we just keep having sex, he's evenutally going to get bored or he's going to think he can screw other girls at the same time, which I am not OK with. I want this to last with him, so I don't know what to do. Is it normal for me to feel so annoyed at him right now for not explainging himself about bailing on me? Is it normal for me to want him to call? Should I be OK with just having sex, since I don't want to stop because it's incredible? Should I push for a relationship? Should I just stop everything completely? Should I just chill for now? I'm so stuck!! Can anyone help me out with some outsider insight?? THANK YOU!!

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  • theRealDeal
    13 years ago

    I feel for your situation. That's a bad situation to be in. I think the heart can't help to WANT love even when it starts out as lustful physicality. I believe you should go to him and tell him how you feel. Yes, you risk the chance of 'running him off' but nothing ventured, nothing gained. I wish you the best and good sex is hard to beat, but good love while u have it is best! Peace.

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    • gripleg
      13 years ago

      Thank you so much for your comment, I will definitely consider talking to him! :)

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  • FreakyKing2
    13 years ago

    I wish I had a sex buddy. that would be sweeeet

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  • la_uva_mojada
    13 years ago

    This is why friends with benefits is never a good idea.. especially for the girl, because your emotions tend to get involved inadvertantly. Ever heard that phrase, that why would he buy the cow if the milk is free? You gave the milk away for free, and now he's onto the next conquest. Let this pain be a lesson in the future not to give it up so quick. I'm 35 years old, been there done that, so I know, girl. Don't be easy, it's worth it to wait.. you get more respect from the guy and more self respect.

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  • korn3654
    13 years ago

    Your a slut.

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    • bleach_baby
      13 years ago

      And you're a fourteen year old virgin.

      To the story author - your desire to talk to him doesnt neccesarily mean you like him or you want anything from him - what you want to know is that he isn't just using you for sex, and that this is a mutual and mature thing where he isn't viewing you as some sex object or looking down on you for having sex with him and that your both on the same page. Basically, you want his respect while you are sleeping with him. Theres nothing wrong with this, in fact I think many girls feel like this and if I were you, I would clarify with him that while you love sleeping with him and you don't want any commitment, that you would still like him to treat you respectfully and as a friend when you aren't sleeping together, as well as when you are.

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      • gripleg
        13 years ago

        Damn, thank you so much. This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you soooo much!!!! :)

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    • gripleg
      13 years ago

      haha, think what you want, but I've actually never been in any sort of situation like this before at all. Besides this boy I've only had sex with one other person. Not that I need to justify myself to a prude like yourself.

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