Is it normal that i want my kids to be better than my best friend's?

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Rachel and I have been best friends since third grade when I moved to her neighborhood. We are now mothers. I have two sons and a daughter and she has a son and a daughter. Our oldest sons are both five (mine is older by 8 months)and my daughters are seperated by a year. Her older son cries. Constantly. Everytime I see her children, I think "mine are stronger, mine aren't as whiny, mine are cuter, mine are smarter", etc. I feel kind of bad, because they are only children, but I've always been competitve with her. I was better athletically, and although she got better grades than me in high school, not too many Universities offered her major, so I went to a better school. Whenever our children are going to be together, I make sure they are well dressed and I make sure my daughter's hair is done and her nails are painted. My children are also learning French (because I'm fluent) and I make sure they use it whenever they're near her. Is this normal, or am I absolutely horrible?

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  • MssMurd3r
    12 years ago

    Grow up. You're setting a horrible example for your children.

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  • Sweetz
    12 years ago

    Show off

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  • Tisgranum
    12 years ago

    Petty, not horrible.

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  • EnigmaT21
    7 years ago

    i think is really normal but you should not let it interfere with the way the childrens grow up

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  • littlemissgiggles
    12 years ago

    This is little bit horrible but I see your angle. You really want you're kids to excell. But just remember that when your kids are older they might not want to excell in things that you make them do (such as speaking French) so you are going to have to cut them some slack eventually. Also, I think teaching kids 5yrs and younger French is a bit much......for the moment, you should just let your kids be kids. They should enjoy their childhood

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  • elitist
    12 years ago

    It's pretty common but not really a good thing.

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  • soccernerd12
    12 years ago

    Eh, kinda petty, but I can see where you're coming from. Everybody plays the my kids are better than yours game whether thy notice it or not. It's not a bad thing to be proud of your kids and their abilities. Just lift your kids up and don't put the other ones down. Also, remember, there is likely gonna be a time when her kids are better than yours at something. Remember this moment and don't belittle their accomplishments either.

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  • 13en
    12 years ago

    Normal-ish...
    Tune it down a bit, i can definitely see why you might think that though, im just as competitive...

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