Is it normal that i want my boyfriend to punish me?

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Is it normal that I want my boyfriend to punish me, even when i've done nothing wrong. i.e. spank me, belt me, slap me in the face, paddle me, pull my hair and just generally be rough and hurt me.. i think it freaks him out when i ask him to do it. And it's not just when we're in the bedroom - i want him to dominate me 24/7.. i just want to know if it's normal and if anyone else does it? :/

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    get in the kitchen and make a god damn sandwich! And bring me my fucking slippers bitch! Now get on your knees and rub my feet! If you behave, you will get a little more dog food than yesterday.

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  • losingmymind
    11 years ago

    I know now you feel I start fights because being punished is so hot

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  • SuperBenzid
    11 years ago

    I wouldn't say this is the average women by any means but if my experience is anything to go by, it is a lot more common than you might think. People just don't like to talk about their private lives much. It's why the modern world is good because their is room for every type of relationship.

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  • Failedcasanova
    11 years ago

    Sounds like you would do well in the BDSM world. In a Dom/sub relationship living with a Master.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    You like "rough sex," which is one step below BDSM.
    You like giving him power over you, being bound, having your hair pulled, and intense stimulation on your bottom in a "naughty" kind of way. I savor this type of sex--but giving it.
    8-D

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  • BlueJeansWhiteShirt
    11 years ago

    I feel the same way.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    You should look into BDSM and please use a safeword!

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Please make it clear that this is just your masochism. The last thing all the impressionable guys here need to think is that women generally want to be punished and abused.

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    • missmystery
      11 years ago

      Of course, this is just me although hopefully i'm not the only one! but yeah always check what someone's into first :)

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  • ~xDameInDistressx~
    11 years ago

    I think you should count yourself lucky your boyfriend doesn't do this. I think you should look into the BDSM world though, seriously girl, look it up.

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  • missmystery
    11 years ago

    Hi! I know about BDSM and dom-sub relationships and stuff but only really in fictional terms - i didn't know people actually do it 24/7 in real life.
    Also, my boyfriend was brought up as a gentleman with manners and i think 'Metazoa' may be right and he just doesn't want to do some stuff. I've only ever asked him to 'stuff' to me in the bedroom - i know it's probably too much to ask for him to do it other times too.. but it leaves me feeling lost almost, the rest of the time :/ I tried to speak to him about it and he said he doesn't mind/quite enjoys spanking me in the bedroom because he likes how turned on it makes me, and that he likes to tie me up and pull my hair.. but said he doesn't want every time we have sex to be kinky.. so im guessing he won't want 24/7.
    thanks for the comments - they're helpful and at least im not the only person

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  • BrendioEEE
    11 years ago

    God people on this site are so fucked in the head NO ITS NOT NORMAL. Probably gonna get this comment thumbed down because people on here don't have a sense of morals anymore.

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    • dom180
      11 years ago

      If morals stop people having harmless and consensual fun, they're useless morals.

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      • BrendioEEE
        11 years ago

        No damn surprise my comment got voted down predicted it before it even happned.

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  • Metazoa
    11 years ago

    ^ Lmfao. Seriously tho, some chicks do love being abused and submissive like you. But if he doesn't want to be dominate and do them things to you then you might push him away. That kind of relationship isn't for everyone. Some things you have said I wouldn't do at all, like slap your face, pull your hair ( I pull hair back if chicks like it when having sex tho. ) Or generally hurting you all the time. It just isn't in my nature to be like that. But open communications should def be something yous should do. Talk to him more about it and get his opinion on it. He might not like doing some things like me, or not want to do that stuff all the time with you, etc.

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    • JasonSwerve
      11 years ago

      I agree not everyone likes that lifestyle some girls Ive dated loved it and some ran for the hills. My advice use a safe word and do some research in BDSM and go into it slowly if your bf doesn't budge I don't think its for him o.o goodluck P.S if all goes to hell maybe you can set up sex into slots like kinky Tuesday etc

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      • Metazoa
        11 years ago

        Exactly, depends on the individual. What I'd of done is just straight up asked whoever it is what kind of porn the person likes or what they like sexually, giving a few different things including BDSM on the list and if the person isnt sure then you explain it. Some will love the idea and want to try it if they haven't before, others will be turned off from it and just tell you the other stuff they are into.

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    • Energy
      11 years ago

      Not only chicks! I love when women do that stuff to me... real kinky.

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  • amber_FL
    7 years ago

    Why even talk to that asshole bendio or whatever it was.

    Yes, hun, it is very very normal.

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  • Toots0715
    7 years ago

    Fetlife.com

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  • lovekitty309
    8 years ago

    its so hot when guys do that!!!

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    ironic that you're name is Dom ;)

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