Is it normal that i want my boyfriend to have sex with other girls?

I understand what you're saying. But you have to know that you may be exposed to STDs and you may get jealous.

So you're giving him a test. "Sleep with other girls to prove that I'm the only one you REALLY want to be with". Don't you have faith in his 6 year long devotion to you? Does his faithfulness and loyalty mean nothing without his testing the other fish in the sea first?

If he went out and had sex with other girls, it would probably just be sex. Detached from emotion. It wouldn't prove anything if you gave him permission to do it. In fact, it would encourage the idea of an open relationship, which he might struggle to break from once you are satisfied he's sufficiently dedicated to your vagina and demand monogamy.

Maybe the idea is nice, but the reality has the potential to be full of jealousy, STDs, manipulation and upset, culminating in the end of your relationship.

Wow, lots of hate. jeez. How are bisexuals supposed to rule the world with this comment thread floating around?

Just have a 3some. Problem solved end of story.

Are you sure this isn't some sort of test? Or another way to give other men a try without looking like the one who needs more ... than one dick? It must have sounded weird to him. But if you really want him to do that, you should also be doing whatever it takes to make sure he does that. Otherwise he might take it as an offence,it's like implicitely saying: try finding other girls to bang if you can. It might be another way for you to, prove sex is not that important to you and what matters are other things, gluing you both up.. not to mention that is kind of very irresponsible for you. I mean, he could bang some filthy filthy nooker get clamydia and infect you. If you want to know How I'd react to this kind of thing, I am going to tell you. I'd get really really pissed and automatically assume you are or have cheating on me and want me to do the same so should you ever accidentally disclose some informations about it, I wouldn't be in the right position to dump your sorry ass.
Like: hey! let's get married! Now, Go out there and screw some bitches. what a fucking marriage it would be.

are you ready for the pandora's box of insecurity, jealousy, STDs, mistrust, sloppy seconds, thirds (or more), and different relationship dynamic? are you okay with the idea that he may afterwards expect the relationship to always be open? what if he develops feelings for other women? Is it alright if he comes to you smelling like another lady? I would recommend taking a break from the relationship before allowing this.

hmmm... i don't know what to say. But what you have to keep in mind is.. what if he puts his hand in the cookie jar and realises that he likes more than one type of cookie and no longer likes the old one.. what then? could you live with the possobility that you were the one that put an end to the relationship? are you sure its not YOU who wants to 'meet' other guys? The thoughts of you wanting your bf wanting sexual relations with other women may be the projection of what you yourself want. Before discussing such issues i would strongly reccommend that you think about the pros and cons... but what you are suggesting to him is cheating. If he is to do that i would say you two should take a break and start seeing other people. how is it fair on him to see other women and you not other men. How would you feel if he said to you i want you to sleep with other guys.

Don't jump into deep wanters when you don't know how to swim...

WTF?are u sick or something?I wish I ve that kind of boy frnd,u r not normal.

When you grow up (in another 10 years from the sounds of it) you will realise what a silly little fool you sound :o(

Whatever you do - do not get married until you have more sense. Talk to your parents or some adults and tell them what you are thinking - not other idealistic teens! They will make you see that you are going to destroy this relationship for ever. Your life will be full of regret as you spend the next lot of years trying to find a good man for a long term relationship.

I'm sure your bf thinks you are a nut job!!

Anyone contemplating marriage would NOT encourage cheating. If you think he may want sex with someone else after you get married - that's the risk we all take!!

Let this go and try to get your relationship back to normal.

silly idea...

I think if you knew what its like to be cheated on, you would NEVER ask a boyfriend to do this Ever again. It changes the whole dynamic of the relationship and relationships in general.
Sounds like you need to Value the bond that your boyfriend and you made when you chose to have sex with each other.

Well, unlike most of these members, I kind of see why you are saying what you are saying. It's a way to experience things that are different. At the same time, I see what the first commenter is saying as well.
I wouldnt pressure him into it. I would just leave it up to him. He knows his feelings, you know yours. If he wanted to have sex with some girls he would have done it for himself. But you know the details of you relationship so try discussing why its important to you to him and listen to him as well and take it all into consideration.

noooooooo LOL you could be like lily and marshall from himym, isn't it enough that he feels weird about it?

I think it is totally admirable that you want him to be sure that this is what he wants... marriage with you. You are so mature to think this way - in my opinion. There are so many stories about people who have been married for 30 years with the same person they lost their virginity with and then..... cheating.... and divorce. For some reason you have this "feeling" that something isn't right, and I think you should trust this feeling. I dont know all the details but I think you should trust your gut girl and figure it out.

How could you?? I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years since we were 12, and NO I would NEVER let him have sex or kiss or touch any other girl but me!

...What? Seriously? Him being devoted to you, not cheating on you and even being weird about sleeping with other girls when you have gave him permission to isn't enough to prove he only wants you?

What I don't get is that what if a man does this without his partners permission? Does that make it any different? He could use the excuse "I was seeing if you're the only one I really want by sleeping with people".

The whole idea is stupid.

Well I think its pretty mature of you...

You don't just ask your boyfriend to have sex with other girls. What if he gets another girl pregnit ? What if you or him catch a diseas after ? Everything is wrong in this situation !

So yeah... thanks for all the opinions... even the mean ones haha
just wanted you to know that we broke up...
well... not broke up... we're on a break..
but... yeah...
Thanks :)

yeah, i told my bf that once. he didn't do it. im glad he didn't.

i see what you want to say but..
aren't you jealous??

guys these days are such pussies. It's like every 100 guys i meet maybe 20 of them arn't pussified.

One word: THREESOME!

read the Book of Songs from the Bible and be enlightened about your relationships. I'm not kidding. Happy reading.

this is a contradiction

i kind of get what you're saying. i don't understand all the mean comments though! she's not in a relationship with any of you so don't get so personally offended by calling her names and being rude. i think sub-consciously you might feel guilty about being his only one and him "missing out" or you might be projecting your desire to be with other men on him so you're giving him a free pass, which is totally normal because humans are sexual beings by nature & most of us like to experiment with dif. people or just try a new person out before we fully commit to someone. So no it's not normal in the sense that most people don't think like this but it's not necessarily a bad thing or something incredibly out of the ordinary. This doesn't mean you don't care about him or love him though because sex and love don't always go hand in hand. just be careful what you wish for my love because this could end up being a horrible thing for your relationship if you start to feel jealous or insecure and could even lead to a break up.

You will only get yourself hurt...

Hey there. Don't get too influenced by all the negative responses. I think it's great that you allow your boyfriend to get some perspective before he marries you.
Monogamy isn't necessary for a loving relationship. When you and your partner agree to stay monogamous, you should do so, but there's nothing wrong with an open relationship.
When you both agree you'd like to be with other people on the side, you can still have a loving relationship. It has nothing to do with how much you love each other, it has more to do with the kind of love life you want to lead. :)

Yes it's normal. Humans were never designed psychology to be manogamous. males were suppose to have sex and hopefully fertilize as many females as possible, because in times past only about 20% of pregnancies resulted in children who lived past 16 (the age of the onset of their sexual reproductive activity).

Duh! This is so abnormal basically you're saying u don't love him. Find someone who u want all to yourself both sexually and to be in love. Your soulmate is out there. Hope this helps