Is it normal that i want my boyfriend to be buff?

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I want my boyfriend (22) to be fit, but he doesnt want to. He thinks I should accept him the way he is. He gets really defensive when I tell him, "I would like it you would get some muscle." I understand I cant make someone do something they dont want to, but I think most human beings are visual. It woulnt hurt him to gain some muscle. He makes me feel like maybe im asking too much.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    8 years ago

    Don't mean to sound like a dick but deal with it, accept him for who he is, how would you feel if for example he walked in one day and said you should loose some weight? You wouldn't like it right?

    Yeah, we are visual creatures and and especially at first attraction is a big deal and I get it, you have a preference as we all do but if he was fit enough for you to get with him in the first place you shouldn't try to change him now you're together, the fact that he gets defensive over it shows how he feels about this

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Once he gets all 'buff' you are going to be all jealous of all the girls that'll be chasing him. This is truly a 'build your own hell' scenario, deary, as in be careful what you wish for.

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    • januarycurse
      8 years ago

      maybe she wants her other girls to be show him some attention, maybe she wants to feel jealous, maybe that turns her on.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        Maybe.

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  • Zeus_
    8 years ago

    Completely normal. Just that you need to dump him, and go find what you really want in a man.

    Also, if you're younger than 25, you're wasting your time committing to relationships. Go explore and have fun. It's called "Dating". Sexual and not exclusive. Go enjoy yourself.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    What do you do for him?

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  • CrZed
    8 years ago

    I actually really enjoy working out, so at the very least you have me ;)

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  • mypenisinyourmouth
    8 years ago

    Tell him you only want him to gain more muscle mass so that it can divert the attention away from his under par penis

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  • Terence_the_viking
    8 years ago

    OK but is it too demanding of him to ask you to get bigger tits?

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  • derpyderp
    8 years ago

    If that's your type - fair enough.
    But you probably should have got with someone who suited your wants right from the start, rather than try to change your guy after the fact.

    Personally I'm naturally slim (but toned i guess) & would have trouble trying to get "buff" even if i wanted to.
    My girl telling me I'd be more attractive if something changed (especially something i couldn't easily control) would be pretty fucking hurtful.
    Luckily my girl is bosspants so that's not an issue : )

    Learn to live with it or, if you really can't, find another guy i suppose.
    Would be a shitty thing to leave someone for though

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    Anything past being fit and trim is asking too much.

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  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    How would you feel if he was constantly telling you to lose weight?

    Also, maybe he doesn't want to be buff. It's his body. And not all guys want a buff body.

    In any case, you've told him now. So he's aware. Repeating it is obviously not having an effect anyway.

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