Is it normal that i want my best friend back after being raped by him?

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I'm a 19 year old female. Just under a month ago I was raped by my best friend. I went to the police and reported it 2 days after it had happened. He admitted it all and is being sent to court in a few months to see how long he will go prison for. My best friend was the best friend I could ever ask for. He was there for me when no one else was, I never felt alone. I stuggle with anxiety and depression and he has seen me at my worst. He was supportive, caring, loving and understanding. Everyone in our friends group knew how much he cared for me. Sometimes a bit too much. He was deeply in love with me. I am completely scarred and disturbed by what he did to me, but I also miss him. I miss having him to talk to when I need someone. He is the only person I've ever met who would ever make me feel comfortable to speak to. I miss talking to him. I dont know what to do. The rape was not violent, just very forceful. It went on for 35 minutes. He pinned me down and grabbed me and wouldnt let go. I hate him for it. So much. He has destroyed me. But I also want him back. I miss my best friend so much its killing me every second of every day. I dont know how i will go on with my life. After all these years of stuggling with anxiety and severe depression he had helped me and saved me so many times. Now i have no one to save me. I need him, I miss him, but I hate that he betrayed me. What can i do. Please, someone help me.

Give him a chance- try re-connect your relationship. 0
Forgive him and be civil. No more than that. 0
Do not talk to him again. Try and move on. 6
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  • sourgrapes
    7 years ago

    No its not bloody well normal.ffs

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  • MR.mr
    7 years ago

    SO MUCH WRONG

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    No this is not meant to be a troll post, it's just such a messed up situation that I have no idea what to say.

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    I'm sure there's more to this story, what was the circumstances behind the rape? Why did he confess, that would probably have been an easy charge to beat? Why do you want him back?

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    This is a severely messed up situation

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    I don't know what to say, but I wish you the best in any event.

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  • sebastian2013
    7 years ago

    Well first of all he's probably pissed that he's going to prison, even after like you said he was always there for you and helped you through hard times. I think the guy deserves a little respect for that. So I think things will probably be cool between you two if you decide to drop the charges and tell him that he's just a friend, then you can go back to hanging out with him and he can go back to being hopelessly in love and obsessed with you. But yeah don't send him to prison you'll regret it I know you will. He sounds like a great guy, give him a chance to keep being the shoulder for you to cry on.

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