Is it normal that i want more than sex?

Im a 21 year old male who is not a virgin but I dont want sex by its self. I went thru the phase where I merely wanted sex and nothin else but thats over. I wanna find somebody that I actually can have a relationship with but it seems that girls now a days only want sex and too soon at that. Im liberal and everything but damn most people have sex within the first month of a relationship. I see the 3 month mark as being more respectful. I dont see myself as a prude. Am I normal or what?

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Based on 166 votes (147 yes)
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Comments ( 26 )
  • am5310

    You are a true gentleman, sex with commitment is the best!!!

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  • Proudfear

    i agree with this guy and it doesnt make you gay it makes u a person who thinks with your head not your dick,

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    • secrettellings

      agreed.

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  • MostlyManageable

    Just two words:
    Dream Guy.
    ;)

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    • Antir0b0t

      Seriously!

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  • Gabriell

    NORMAL! I'm like that too..

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  • westerfan12

    A lot more people should b like u

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  • tylerjosh63

    It's very normal for you to want that. Sex is amazing and I can't exactly blame anyone for wanting it... but there comes a time where you want more than sex...someone you can love. I understand completely and your lucky you feel that way. Most guys don't realize this until it's too late.

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  • koifish

    Normal! More people should be like you.

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  • You're one of the gewd guys

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  • Wow, I totally understand. People think that I am absolutely crazy because I'm only 13 and I don't want to play the field; I really just want a committed relationship. It seems that almost every time I say that, though, absolutely nobody respects my feelings and acts like I'm just trying to be grown up. Really, I'm not! I honestly don't see the point of playing head games and "relationships" that last about two weeks. It just seems stupid and pointless to me. In answer to your question, though, I guess we're not really what you could consider "normal," but not necessarily anything bad, either.

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  • bleach_baby

    Many girls feel they need to have sex with a man quickly or they will lose him. When you start dating a girl, explain how you feel, and say that you want to gradually move into the physical side of things. Doubt most women will find it an issue.

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  • More guys should be like you

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  • mysti446

    Normal and admirable

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  • Fleetline

    Welcome to maturity young man. You will make someone very happy one day.

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  • crappylife

    Good guy greg

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  • dmwill

    Most people are like this deep down, but I think they don't pursue it because it can lead to heartbreak, or they hide it coz they want to seem tough or whatever. My advice is let the girl know what you want early (not too early), not necasserily that you want it with her but just that that's what you want. If you like her and she's looking for it too it'll make her want you more, if she's not looking for it she should leave before you start developing strong feelings for her. That's just my thoughts anyway bro I might be wrong

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  • Legion

    I have my opinions for when i think its time to do certian things, like sex, marriage,etc.

    I wouldent fully follow those though. Just go for it when you know you two are fully ready for it. Dont jump right in, but dont wait too long either.

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  • Legion

    If I wanted just sex, I would date a brainless bimbo. (I cant stand women like that!)I want a woman with many of my common intrests.

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  • Legion

    I dont understand why some guys think its wrong to want to be with a woman for more than just sex. Im very relationship-minded myself. I love women, not just as sex objects, but as someone to do everything with. Just because you have respect for her, doesnt mean youre gay. (but there are a lot of douchebags who think that!)

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  • mjh1288

    If im ever in Chicago I would deff go for that. Startin to loose hope for the women here lol

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  • supaflyafro

    i wanted dat too in HS but i couldnt for 3 reasons(this was in HS):

    1)everybody was doing it for fun

    2)i wasnt sure if there was any girl i could have that didnt have a lotta dirt on them where people start talking.

    3)couldnt really trust any1 becuz ppl where i live gossip too damn much

    found a girl on the internet and start dating but i eventually found out that i am naturally an open person. couldnt believe it but it happened. maybe because im an Aquarius. i also think its because i only had one serious relationship and still a virgin.

    what im saying is that its also normal because eventually people get over that(probably not everyone). i think at your age the girls you want are still curious and out there. maybe its when you become older(in your 30s) where everyone wants to really settle down. you do what you do and be yourself

    btw im 20 years old

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  • darkfuneral

    this isnt normal u should get help! there isnt suppose to be relations between males and females besides sex, acting and lieing

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  • Comm0nSense

    you prob just rubbed one out and so you're feeling like a little bltch. take a nap and you'll be good as new

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  • Burrito_Dick

    fag your probably fat

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    • Legion

      asshole

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