Is it normal that i want him to propose?

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Me and my boyfriend have known each other for 3 years, but have been dating for 3 months, and I REALLY want him to propose.. is that weird?
Like, every time I'm with him, I don't even think about that.. but when I'm at home, I wish he would propose and that I could call myself his wife.. it's so weird... especially since I'm 18 and he's 20..
A big part of it is because I really want to have kids.. Although, he said that if we did get married, he'd want to wait a while before having kids... which I don't like.. But we've discussed when we think would be a good time for him to "pop the question" (don't ask, I don't even know why we talk about it) and he says 2 years.. then when I protest, he says a year.. He asked me when I think would be a good time, and I said in 3 or 4 months... he thinks I'm crazy...
I've thought about why I want to marry him so badly.. and I've come up with the following:
-I feel like he really is the one
-I want to have kids
-I don't want to lose him
-I want him all to myself..

Is this normal?

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Based on 95 votes (58 yes)

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NeuroNeptunian

12 years ago

Don't rush it, jeez. If he is not ready to marry, he is not ready to marry. At 20, he is probably not thinking about kids, and women think about kids sooner anyway. Get a life, a job, go to college, both of you. Don't rush into having kids either, biggest mistake anyone can make.

Waiting sucks, but I know many people your age that WISH they could have waited.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  ew.. college? Really? Why does everyone want everyone to go to college? ick.. I'm just trying to get done with my senior year.. once I'm done with that, it's GONE
  I can't get a job at the moment because I don't have a ride there and back... so that would make it kind of difficult.. My boyfriend has a job. I get to see him sometimes while he's on his break ^_^ Granted I can get a ride.. =/
  Who said he's not ready to get married? Heck, he's the one that brought it up in the first place! He said he wanted to marry me so badly and I was just like, um... ok? It wasn't my idea..
  "Biggest mistake anyone can make"? Um... why's that? Maybe I really want kids..? Maybe he does too? Maybe I know how to raise kids the proper way so they don't turn out to be brats like most kids this day and age.. Because my parents raised me this way, and I like how me and my brother turned out. We have a lot of respect for others, and we're VERY quiet.. so, I'll raise my kids the same way. Nothing wrong with having kids soon if you know how to raise them right.
  
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  - NeuroNeptunian
    
    12 years ago
    
    He has yet to marry you because he is not ready. If he was ready, it'd have been done. Maybe he is waiting for you to graduate.
    
    And there is PLENTY wrong with having kids this soon, whether or not you can raise them! They are very expensive and I highly doubt you guys can afford them being this young! My husband and I really want children too, but we both need to get established in the real world first and I suggest the both of you do the same or you will find out the hard way how taxing having kids before you are financially grounded and mature enough to can be.
    
    And no, I don't care how mature you think you are. Chances are, if you are in high school and you think that you are still mature, even though you want to have kids and get married this soon even though you don't have a job or a car you don't have nearly enough real world experience to make these decisions. Life and managing is a lot tougher than most teens your age think it is, and you don't want to find out the hard way.
    
    "Nothing wrong with having kids soon if you know how to raise them right."
    
    So either you're a damned good troll, or another ignorant teenager (many of which I have to deal with EVERY DAY) that thinks she's a big kid now.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      12 years ago
      
      He is waiting for me to graduate.. I only have a few more months and I'm done with this crap. He is ready, you don't know him.. so shut up.
      
      Well duh.. it's not like we were just gonna expect hand outs from people cuz we decided to have kids. Of course we're gonna wait till we're financially set.. geez...
      
      "that thinks she's a big kid now" wow.. you are a freaking trip.. aren't you? I bet people just love you.. (sarcasm)
      I don't even know what a freaking troll is.. so I guess I'm not one..
      
      Word of advice: shut up. I don't care about your stupid opinion. I really don't. We're gonna do what we want, when we want, how we freaking want.. and the best part? You can't do diddly squat about it. So freaking bite me..
      
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      - joybird
        
        12 years ago
        
        So you're the quiet one who has a lot of respect for others?!
        
        Don't come on here asking for opinions / advice and then abusing those that are a lot older and wiser than you coz you disagree. Think about it!!
        
        Your own brain hasn't even finished maturing until you're 25 so you don't know it all.
        
        There's no need to rush into marriage coz if he is the one, you'll have 60+ years to look at that face over the table - and trust me you'll get pretty bored looking at it!!
        
        Now, stop posting the same shit over and over again!!
        
        Fuk away off and grow up!!
        
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        lollypoop
        
        12 years ago
        
        She claims to be a Christian too!
        
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  - lollypoop
    
    12 years ago
    
    yaaaaawn!
    
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sweets!!!

12 years ago

Don't mean to bust you love bubble but the reason for wanting to get married are so elementary. This is why divorce rates are so high. I don't understand the rush in wanting....how about wanting a college degree??? How about wanting a career? How about wanting a better future without having to count on the system or parents? How about enjoying your youth? What about your future goals???? Marriage entails a lot of responsibility how are you n your 20 year old bf going to support a household and bills let alone a child.??? Think it through if he's the one you won't lose him. #dontbeanotherstatistic

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moomus

12 years ago

If he's the one then he's the one. You don't need an engagement ring to prove that. If its meant to be it will happen all in good time.

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crimsonSunset

12 years ago

You know him for 3 years which is very vital. Till now I believe you know ins and outs of him so definitely you want him.

And when you want someone, trust me what you are thinking is normal. I wanted the same but I was not lucky like you, I missed my chance brutally and still I'm not normal.

My only suggestion to you: Try to learn comprise. Not that, what you want will always happen, sometimes accept his desire, respect what he wants.

You will be a wonderful and happy person. Good luck!

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lc1988

12 years ago

It's fine that you want him to propose but wait for him to do it. I felt like this after dating my bf for 3 months...it's now passed 2 years and we're still not married but I know he's the one. Just have patience!

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honeypuss

12 years ago

Maybe he'll propose a blow-job?

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ThatWhatWeDeerDont

12 years ago

Does the poor bastard know he's in for a lifetime of no BJs, no eating pussy and no porn, LOL!!!

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[Old Memory]

12 years ago

say ahem and point to yr finger

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NocturnePonyFan

12 years ago

Just don't rush to get married to this guy simply because you need a father for your kids. It seems like you're more into the having children part than the marriage part.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  um.. you don't know me. I'm very much into the marriage part. I've already thought about that. It's not just kids you nit...
  
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  - NocturnePonyFan
    
    12 years ago
    
    Geez, sorry. Sensitive much? I was just going by what I was reading.
    
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    - lollypoop
      
      12 years ago
      
      That's this troll's favorite schtick...she posts a lot of fake "problems" then chews people out for commenting. Her favorite comeback is YOU DON'T KNOW ME! YOU DON'T KNOW ME!
      
      Seriously, it's pathetic - I wouldn't give her the time of day.
      
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      - NocturnePonyFan
        
        12 years ago
        
        Ahhh I gotcha. That always cracks me up...."You don't know me!" No shit we don't know you, so it's not fair to get bitched at for going by what is explained to us :-P
        
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      - ThatsWhatWeDeerDo
        
        12 years ago
        
        They're not fake you asshole..
        
        The only reason I come back at you retarded people is because you act like you know me.
        
        Filthy little troll bitch....
        
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        lollypoop
        
        12 years ago
        
        Wow, you really ARE a Christian! I can tell by the filthy mouth.
        Do you kiss your boyf with that mouth..oops no, course you don't lolz
        
        PS: FAKE!!!!!!!
        
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rock-chick

12 years ago

me and my bf have been dating for 11months nw and i luv hm sooooo much i cant imagine my life without hm and i wuld like to get married asap bt a relationshp has two points of view and he wanna wait coz he neeeds mre tym and i completely understnd coz we stll both young and even though we'v been thruough so many thngs we stll need sum tym so i gues its completely normal

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ThatsWhatWeDeerDo

12 years ago

JUST AN FYI TO EVERYONE:
My wonderful boyfriend proposed to me last night <3

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Reesir

12 years ago

Go to Las Vegas in the guise of a vacation and get him really drunk and have a shotgun wedding. I'm 100% serious.

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