Is it normal that i want an abusive relationship?

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I fantasize of having a guy being possessive over me. I want a guy to force me away from communicating with other men. I want him to constantly check my phone and social media. I also fantasize about having a guy locking me up in his house, wanting to know where I am and what I'm doing all the time. I want him to smack me and shout at me when I do something wrong. I also want him to inflict pain on me during sex.

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27% Normal

Based on 55 votes (15 yes)

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cinderellasundergarments

7 years ago | pl

Obviously never encountered abusive relationship or physical pain!you total fucking idiot!!

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wigz

7 years ago | pl

Well...a safe way of living this out is a lot different than it being real. I can only hope you seek a consensual safe path. It's no fun if you are seriously in danger.

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dynamohumm

7 years ago

So you want to be in an abusive relationship do you?

I hope like fuck that you are a troll (90% chance you are) because after being in an abusive relationship for about 3 to 4 years over 30 years ago was no fucking picnic I can tell you for fucking nothing.

No I DIDN'T enjoy him monitoring all my phone calls (no mobiles in those days) cutting me off from my family and friends, getting into drunk rages and I would have to carefully monitor his moods knowing after a while that that one extra drink would tip him over the balance and he would come out swinging. He only hit me a couple of times and believe you me it hurt like hell, but it was his verbal abuse that really cut me.

I had low self esteem in those days (hell that's the only reason why I married the fucker in the first place as I thought no-one else would want me) and he carefully eroded that over the years so that I thought everything that happened was MY fault and not his as he had brainwashed me into believing so.

Oh what fun times we had! (sarcasm mode here for any idiot out there)

The only reason I up and left him in the end was when it looked like he was going to end up abusing my daughter (not sexually but physical) and she was only two and my son (who he hated) was 3 months old.

So yeah, I really hope that you are a pathetic unfunny troll instead of some brain dead moron who has no fucking clue.

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- felixy
  
  7 years ago
  
  What made you stick around? Were you afraid to be alone or did you think he'd change? Did him abusing you make him feel less attractive to you, three decades ago?
  
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  - dynamohumm
    
    7 years ago
    
    Actually moron, not that it's any of your beeswax, I stayed with him until it looked as though he was about to abuse my kids, like I said earlier. Also I DID mention about my lack of self esteem?
    
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    - felixy
      
      7 years ago
      
      I understand that you cared more for your kids than you did for yourself. I was asking about his qualities, not your own, that made you stick with him even before you had kids.
      
      This guy seems like a terrible person, but I think he had traits you found attractive enough to stick around him for as long as you did. You don't have to tell me, but I would like to know what those traits were.
      
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      - DEHUMANIZE_YOURSELF
        
        7 years ago
        
        Well it probably wasn't being a 60-something year old fatass crybaby bitch boy that's on the internet all day making shit up for attention, if that helps you any.
        
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      - charli.m
        
        7 years ago
        
        I thought you had a degree in psychology, gypsy? Do you not understand the psychology of abuse? "Attraction" has zero to do with it.
        
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      - McBean
        
        7 years ago
        
        I know the answer to your question is a painful memory for her but I, for one, think a first hand account is far more valuable than any abstract answer given in a psychology book. At this point I will just shut-up. I am not quite as sensitive as you are.
        
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RoyRogers

7 years ago

Thats not abuse if you want it idiot. Its abuse when you don't want it. You are the stupidest bitch who has ever lived.

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Roustabout

7 years ago

*smacks the piss out of you* happy?

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Chocobonobble

7 years ago

This sounds like the fan club of Killing Stalking or Future Dairy.

Poor fans; "they only sees hell's goldens gates, but they don't see the hot dangerous fire blazing behind it. They're just gonna get burned".
In other words, risky fantasies don't always work out in reality.

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xfg42

7 years ago

What's abusive about that? Sounds like a normal, healthy relationship.

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Tealights

7 years ago

You're just romanticizing abuse, like how a lot of us fantasize about rape with some hot, witty rich guy or some shit.

However, similar to rape, a real abusive relationship will destroy your self-esteem, psychologically mess you up, and can be fatal depending on the attacker.

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- charli.m
  
  7 years ago
  
  Says a lot about this site that this was thumbed down :/
  
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  - mandoorhandhookcardoor
    
    7 years ago
    
    "...a lot of us fantasize about rape with some hot, witty rich guy..."
    
    ...seriously? You don't see anything wrong with that??
    
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    - charli.m
      
      7 years ago
      
      It's not my fantasy, but it is, to my knowledge a common one.
      
      Key word: fantasy.
      
      And as Tealights said, not the main point. Did you fail to read the rest?
      
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      - mandoorhandhookcardoor
        
        7 years ago
        
        I read the rest.
        
        So, someone could open with how "a lot of us" fantasize a "hot, witty rich guy" taking a steamy diarrhea shit into their mouth but as long as the rest of the post was good you wouldn't care? lmao
        
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        charli.m
        
        7 years ago
        
        Do...do you not understand what "fantasy" means?
        
        Do you really think that's anywhere near as common?
        
        My bad. I should have said "read and understood the content of".
        
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    - Tealights
      
      7 years ago
      
      It's true that a majority of women do have these fantasies, not that we want rape or disrespecting those who actually been through it, it's just a thought. However, that sentence isn't the main point of the post though... so why is it such a big deal?
      
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      - mandoorhandhookcardoor
        
        7 years ago
        
        I wish I was a guy so I could rape everyone
        
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        charli.m
        
        7 years ago
        
        The fact that this is what you take away from her comment says pretty much everything about you.
        
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  - Tealights
    
    7 years ago
    
    I've noticed a lot of my comments are getting thumbed down recently, probably made someone upset or something in previous comments somewhere. It's alright though, as long as the OP reads it, that's all that matters.
    
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    - charli.m
      
      7 years ago
      
      Some butthurt troll, no doubt.
      
      Hopefully.
      
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ViolentKitty

7 years ago

It might sound like fun and games, but when you're actually IN a situation like that it's absolutely horrible. Men who act in this way in no way good. They literally have a sickness.

You might just have a rape fantasy you want to carry out, which is totally cool. Just be careful what you wish for and take care of yourself.

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Wrapped

7 years ago

These 3 will abuse you.
https://goo.gl/QnzXUF

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felixy

7 years ago

You're gay or a troll. Women aren't that honest.

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- dynamohumm
  
  7 years ago
  
  Jesus gypsy, give it a fucking rest would you?
  
  Just because you can't get sex unless the victim is sedated, you don't have to constantly whine how much women suck. We fucking get it alright?
  
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  - wigz
    
    7 years ago
    
    Eh not just sedated, I remember him bragging about getting a woman 'on his boat' and leaving her with little choice after that. 'if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with' he always said. So he apparently made being 'with' someone happen whether they really liked it or not. Barf...
    
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    - dynamohumm
      
      7 years ago
      
      You got that right. He is all class isn't he? Gag.
      
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      - wigz
        
        7 years ago
        
        Yep, totally gross. Even if it wasn't true just the thought is still gag-worthy. Anyone who thinks that is ok has problems.
        
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        dynamohumm
        
        7 years ago
        
        Have you noticed that he hasn't bothered denying he IS gypsy (well half assed he has but I think he knows it's not worth denying it too much) Asshole!
        
        It's sad but the bulk of users (who are mainly using multiple accounts) are either trolls or sick fucks.....the only good ones that are left are the regulars who have been around for a long time like yourself, dirtybirdy, tealights, charlim, roustabout, virginmanly and the others whom I'm I sure you know of.
        
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Rihyae

7 years ago

I've entertained the thought of having stockholm syndrome. Don't wanna die though.

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cunt_eater

7 years ago

Do you mean mentally abusive or physically abusive ?

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Couman

7 years ago

Well uhh, good luck I guess. Can't be too hard to find what you're looking for.

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[Old Memory]

7 years ago

Its totally normal. this is how women are.

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