Is it normal that i want a relationship but i don't?

Like the title says, Is it normal that I want a relationship but I don't? I'm really conflicted. I've met a few guys at school who are interested but the thought of a relationship makes me happy and unhappy? Very contradicting but just curious, does anyone else feel this way too?

And I think it partially has to do with the fact that I'm afraid of getting hurt and cheated on.

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Based on 67 votes (61 yes)
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  • Browniegirl3

    Start out as friends. You don't need to rush anything. I wish I did with my ex. Just say hey can we be friends first and see how it goes. The good guys will say yes the jerks will say no. It's best to build that friendship and then see if dating them would be a possibility. People are not what they seem. You really need to get to know them first.

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  • I knew a women wrote this just by reading the title.

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  • shuggy-chan

    Are you scared of commitment but want the company?

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    • RoseIsabella

      I'm afraid of commitment.

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      • I hear you, sistahh.

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        • RoseIsabella

          Thanks girl.
          ((hugs OP))

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      • shuggy-chan

        well you have a right to be, you've been burned a few times Miss Rose =/ Poor Miss Rose

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        • RoseIsabella

          Hugs to the Shuggs. :-)
          ((hugs))

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          • shuggy-chan

            In my country we hug pantsless, it polite

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    Figure out the personality and morals of the person you date. You can kind of tell by personality if that person is going to stay with you or not. Some people only want a fling and those people will dump you right away.

    Some people are what they called old fashion and believe in love and marriage and being right to a girl. Some people have low self esteem and can not get a girl. However there is those who have low self esteem get a girlfriend and become a total prick.

    So I would say don't get someone new at relationships. Get a guy who has had a few relationships so you know they wont turn into a prick after you date them. Go for someone who is not a total flirt. If you find someone who hits on other people while in a relationship even jokingly that's a no. Figure out why that person last relationships ended.

    Figure out if the person you want to date ended the relationship themselves or if the other party did. Figure out how they reacted to the rejection. Never date someone who lies about how many previous partners they had. Like if they dated 50 girls and say they only had 5. That means they are just trying to score and playing the sweet innocent card.

    See how they approach your parents when they meet them. Also beware of this move. A lot of people use this move. A person will date someone, become friends with all their other friends, dump person they are dating, kick you out of the group, and date all your friends. They will repeat this process from group to group. assuring they always have new tail.

    You know this trick is going to happen when 1.They start paying attention to one of your friends more than you 2.They get flirty touchy with one of your close friends 3.They start doing stuff with that friend they don't want you to know about. Since they are now friends with your friends they are less likely to get pushed out of the group. Since half of your friends will be on that persons side and half on your side. Some like both you and your ex so will say nothing.

    Also this stuff applys to men and women. Just you said you are looking for guys so some of this would only be helpful in dating men.

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  • yesnomaybeso

    Have you ever been in a relationship? I think it's fear.

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  • RoseIsabella

    I want to master being alone before I consider romantic human companionship.

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    • Or master snarting..

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      • RoseIsabella

        If only it were that simple. One is always at the mercy of the sneeze.

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  • Kie3PO

    You need to define the reasons you want a relationship, and the reasons you don't want a relationship. Relationships are never perfect, there are always good and bad aspects of them.

    Just weigh up the pros and cons, maybe write it down, you'll then come to a decision. But if you do decide to have a relationship, you must realise and accept that there WILL be good AND bad aspects.

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  • gummy_jr

    I'm the same, I'm tired of being alone but I'm scared of being hurt like many other times before. :(

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    • April=)

      like the time i ate you.

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      • **Smacks fanny**

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        • April=)

          thanks?

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          • **flips you the bird**

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            • You are talking to yourself, nerd. "April=)" is your other account. What a weirdo...

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            • April=)

              um

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      • gummy_jr

        Part of me to be exact /: my raspberry filling started leaking out

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  • Jeaneathean

    Sounds like you have yet to meet the right person.

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