Is it normal that i want a baby?

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I am 23 and have a boyfriend (for just over a year). We love each other and both agree that we are going so spend the rest of our lives together. I want a baby so badly. I've wanted one for a few years now, and even bought baby things a few years ago, but I've just given it all to friends & family who have had babies since then. I love going baby shopping for my friends & family members baby showers, etc.

My boyfriend says he's not ready, but honestly, I've spoken to so many people and they all say you're not ready until it happens. Everything just falls into place. I do agree that it must be from both sides, (which is why I won't just stop taking the pill & pretend it was a mistake).

Last night I had a dream that I was pregnant and had a baby girl. I feel really down today. Everyone I know (and see) is pregnant.
Is it normal for this to get someone so down? There is nothing more that I want.

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Based on 77 votes (49 yes)
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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    First thing's first. Wait until after ya'll get married.

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  • CheyChey
    10 years ago

    A baby will change everything, the dynamics of your relationship, financial issues everything you should try getting pregnant when both of you are ready try to make it a natural thing as opposed to you forcing the issue. If your boyfriend loves you as much as you say he does he'll probably end up agreeing to have a baby when he really isn't a 100% ready somewhere down the.line he'll end up resenting you for it, how awful would it be to hear him say something like "I never wanted the kid in the first place but you pushed the issue" You're very young enjoy the relationship, go on vacations see what's out there before deciding to bring a human into the world.

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  • Maggie2000
    10 years ago

    If you've already agreed that you are going to spend the rest of your lives together, then what's the major rush? You are young enough to enjoy a couple more years of just you and him...getting to know echother even more and loving your closeness.
    He said he's not ready, so if you love him, you should respect that.
    I agree, it would be very silly of you to stop taking the pill and pretending that a baby might be a mistake.
    Yes, some 'mistake' babies do work, but in your case, you should wait until he is as ready as you are.
    All the best...

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  • imadragon
    10 years ago

    Can you take care of a baby? Why don't you listen to your boyfriend when he tells you that he is not ready, you are not being fair to him.

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  • GuessWho
    10 years ago

    Yeah. Get married first. Don't bring another bastard (by new English definition) into this world.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    To kill?

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  • Caps90
    10 years ago

    It is more than normal. I say watch your friend's children for a day or two... it will make you glad you don't have one, but yet still want to have one one day.

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  • Kerry69
    10 years ago

    Stay with birth control.

    It will happen for you,in time.

    Good luck :)

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  • kaegrl23
    10 years ago

    i think its normal to feel this way, you just have to be patient and when its the right time you will have a baby. dont rush things because then things wont work out very well. wait until you and your guy are ready. and can agree on things and have enough money to support it.

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  • SharpieSmile
    10 years ago

    Honestly, its normal to feel this way, but your only 23, and if your boyfriend doesnt want a kid yet, then respect it (im not saying youre not, just keep respecting it.)

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  • Hamid37USA
    10 years ago

    I am sorry to hear your baby was a girl.
    My deepest sympettys.
    -Friend=Hamid
    your welcome.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    Download one.

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  • PureLikeSnow
    10 years ago

    Understand that having a baby will have long-term repercussions in your relationship. You're only 23 years old, which means that you've still got your youth intact. Live your life before settling down. Be respectful of your boyfriend's thoughts, if he's not ready then leave the subject alone. Don't worry, you'll still be ovulating for another 30+ years.

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  • PapzBSlim
    10 years ago

    Be financially stable and get married first.

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    As long as it's your own baby and not someone elses.

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  • AbnormalMind
    10 years ago

    ok i'll give u a baby tell me where ur from.

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  • DangerousPotatoGuy
    10 years ago

    having a baby is the in thing right now I mean everyone is having a baby, kim is having a baby beyonce almost had a baby, snooki has a baby, there are babies EVERYWHERE, its the most rad thing you can do but only if you get married

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    • Caps90
      10 years ago

      having a baby is always rad! There are always tons of celebrities having babies...

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      • DangerousPotatoGuy
        10 years ago

        yes , someone who speaks English. you're awesome

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