Is it normal that i want a baby?

well, if you only read the question you can say that it's pretty normal, but the thing is that I'm 17!

sometimes I dream about having a baby, but not when I'm older, I mean in a short future, like if I want a baby I would have it when I turn 19 or 20

I don't know what's going on with my mind. sometimes I realized that the idea it's pretty stupid, but sometimes I wonder, why not? and sometimes I think that I should see a therapist.

I'm always thinking about my career, I'm an excelent student, with good grades and I'm the first in my entire school, so I keep reminding myself that I'm going to ruin that If I took the decision of having a baby

I don't have a boyfriend right now, so I should not worry in this exact moment, but I'm afraid that If I start seeing someone I'll do a stupid thing

so, is it normal that sometimes I want a baby?? :S

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71% Normal
Based on 68 votes (48 yes)
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  • joybird

    Either get a dog or offer to care for one while the owners are on holiday.

    You will get a very TINY taste of responsibility. You have to be home at a certain time to feed or walk it, it may howl disturbing the neighbours, it may get sick, it may get you up in the night if it's in a different place, etc.

    Anyhow, I would rather have cared for 20 dogs than have my own son at 30yo with a hubby to help!!!!

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    It's completely normal. Most of us, as females, have the biological need to have a baby.

    I am in the same boat as you and I am 20. But don't try for a baby. Trust me, it's better to wait until you are out of school, have some more life experience and have a husband that can support you should you not be able to work.

    So many young women have babies and soon realize that it was not worth losing their youth over. Please wait until you are married, out of school and in a good situation. It is difficult to enjoy Motherhood if you are struggling to pay the bills and having to run all over the place for baby sitters because you are called into another shift at an unrewarding and unfulfilling job, as opposed to being in a loving, supporting relationship and being able to care for the child and go to the store and buy EVERYTHING that baby needs as opposed to just what you can afford.

    I am a college student and the wait is killing me, I cared for my siblings and I love children and I see so many of these young mothers with children but often unable to enjoy it because they are struggling just to feed them. I hate waiting, and you will too, but just remember that waiting until the right time makes Motherhood much more fulfilling (and easier), assuming all goes well.

    Good luck, stay in school, and remember, you have plenty of time!

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  • truth85

    Wait till you are done with college. You need to be stable to raise a baby. No 17 or 20 y/o is stable. Get all your partying out of the way before you have a baby!

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  • Avant-Garde

    Wait until you've graduated from high school, have gone to college and gotten a degree, and are financially stable!

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  • *~ThePurplePixie~*

    Hey!
    I'm 24, the mother of 5-year-old twin boys. So, I had them at 18, and I've never regretted it.
    They did come as a surprise for me and my boyfriend/fiance, though. Luckily he COULD support himself financially with a job and a home, so we're happily married.
    It is, however, a tough job. Part of me wishes I'd waited, part of me doesn't. I love my boys...but it's tricky. Wait a while. Talk to Joybird for advice if you need it, I had loads of help with my twins from her. I think she commented above. Good luck!

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  • MommaUsagi

    You are young! Life is not over when you are 25! It doesn't even truly start until you are 30. Enjoy your life. Enrich your life with volunteer work. Improve your community. You will do yourself and your baby a huge favor to wait when you are stable. Sweetheart at 17, you are not stable. I know you are shouting at me, but please trust me.

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  • Yeah it's normal, iv been dying for a baby since I was 15... I'm now 20 & I'm so glad iv held off because I'm starting my degree this year.
    My point is just hold off for a little while longer so you can give yoor baby the best life possible (: x

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  • bigtoy

    Save it for later when you have the money to pay for everything you'll want to give the child by having a decent job. You're smart, it's just a daydream I guess.

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  • lc1988

    All that she wants is another baby

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    • Jweezee

      Eeyeahaa.

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  • ccjigsaw

    My boyfriend thought he wanted to have kids around 21, 22, but now that were 20, we see how soon that is :P I'm sure it's normal to feel maturnal, but you should wait. Think about the kids future and how much you want to be able to raise it right. You won't be able to look after a child working fulltime to support it, right? Or think of it this way. People want it to be christmas right away, but you have to wait anyways! I dunno lol but it's normal.

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